Guys, I need your input on this please :)

[Beautiful Fireball]

But girls are welcome to reply too if they have something they want to say.

Alrighty, guys, what is usually the level of affection that you show your girl friends (i mean friends that are girls)? What would you feel comfortable doing within the bounds of friendship?

When does it cross the line into "I like you" or something like that.

Just would like some general opinions, thats all

 

[xladyfayre]

i have a guy friend that gives out hugs all the time and lets girls sit on him all the time.... and he has a gf

 

[sweetlambofgod]

depends on the guy. I am flirty with a lot of guys but not at all flirty with others. I sit on some of my friends laps, rub there legs, give them hugs. If I hold a guys hand or kiss then that means were more than friends.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Thanks ladies

Guys, do you have anythoughts?

What would you say about putting your arm around someone? Or while your watching a movie with them your cuddlin? Thats more then friends right?

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I'd say so

 

[davenporter]

Thanks ladies

Guys, do you have anythoughts?

What would you say about putting your arm around someone? Or while your watching a movie with them your cuddlin? Thats more then friends right?

Yes.

For me, expressions of friendship are hugs... and, um... that's really about all I can think of. The arm around / sitting on would tend to suggest more than friendship for me... I wouldn't have that unless we were dating.

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

depends on the guy. I am flirty with a lot of guys but not at all flirty with others. I sit on some of my friends laps, rub there legs, give them hugs. If I hold a guys hand or kiss then that means were more than friends.

Man, that is some weird logic there.....if you sit on his lap you are just friends, but if you hold his hand he should be all happy that you wanna be more then friends.

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

Thanks ladies

Guys, do you have anythoughts?

What would you say about putting your arm around someone? Or while your watching a movie with them your cuddlin? Thats more then friends right?

For me, I'd say that that is more then friends, but my sis does stuff like that with a guy, and they won't be anything but friends...it just depends on how conservative, shy, or whatever the people are.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

This is different for everyone. Personality plays alot into it. I'm comfortable giving friends that are guys hugs but I wouldn't cuddle with them to watch a movie. I wouldn't walk around holding hands if we were only friends but I might do a sister arm around the waist. See how confusing it can be? I'd say if the affection is causing confusion then it is too much if the words haven't confirmed where a relationship is standing.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

What if he asks for your ring size too?

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Man, that is some weird logic there.....if you sit on his lap you are just friends, but if you hold his hand he should be all happy that you wanna be more then friends.

haha it is but I only do that with some of my friends

 

[Victory of the Cross]

Must just be I'm a very friendly Person, "Love yous" "Its Ok babe" Hug's etc etc are my common langauge

So more often than not i mean nothing more than friends

It all depends on the guy

 

[Ivan916]

What if he asks for your ring size too?

This is an old thread. But this last post of yours made me curious. What happened? It seemed pretty obvious girl...

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

This is an old thread. But this last post of yours made me curious. What happened? It seemed pretty obvious girl...

Nothing happened, and I'm thankful it didn't. The guy was a jerk and didn't treat me the nicest way. He led me on, but oh well. You live and learn.

 

[Bubba1301]

Getting another guys input....

In my friendships with my lady friends I first off get to know them with minimal physical contact (rough housing, tickling, hugs etc). Each person is different so, you simply have to learn their individual boundaries.

For example, many of my lady friends I will give random shoulder rubs to. I do not try to show any favoritism over who get a shoulder rub and who does not. There are only a select few ladies with whom I tickle relentlessly - they are just soo tickleable.

Anyway, as a guy I try to be aware of how much attention I'm giving to the ladies. I try to make sure any hugs I give are not subtly tighter or longer than they should be. To me the signals that say "I like you" are a lingering tough, or gentle grazing of the hand. Facial expressions are lingering and a longing gaze or just extra time watching the person.

Ultimately each person is different and one needs to learn the boundaries of each.

 

[Altoman188]

Well, as a guy who has just recently decided to start dating, I am actually really strict on my physical with someone i might be getting into a relationship or that I'm in a relationship with. But outside of that, I am very open touchy feely kinda person. During high school/ jr high trips I'm officially the hugger of the group. And with girl friends, i will hug often, play fight, real fight(in a fun way), i hold hands with girls if I'm praying for or with them, and will wrap my arm around someone who is crying. But a lot of that i wouldn't do if i was in a relationship, because for me, that isn't what a relationship is about and it may distract me as a very young adult. Anyways, there is two bits for you.

 

[miss_klara]

Well, as a guy who has just recently decided to start dating, I am actually really strict on my physical with someone i might be getting into a relationship or that I'm in a relationship with. But outside of that, I am very open touchy feely kinda person. During high school/ jr high trips I'm officially the hugger of the group. And with girl friends, i will hug often, play fight, real fight(in a fun way), i hold hands with girls if I'm praying for or with them, and will wrap my arm around someone who is crying. But a lot of that i wouldn't do if i was in a relationship, because for me, that isn't what a relationship is about and it may distract me as a very young adult. Anyways, there is two bits for you.

Wouldn't a girlfriend find it weird that you're happy to be touchy-feely with all your female friends, but hardly lay a hand on her?
Not judging, just curious

 

[koban4max]

But girls are welcome to reply too if they have something they want to say.

Alrighty, guys, what is usually the level of affection that you show your girl friends (i mean friends that are girls)? What would you feel comfortable doing within the bounds of friendship?

When does it cross the line into "I like you" or something like that.

Just would like some general opinions, thats all

I would put my arms on her shoulder and things like that.

 

[Altoman188]

Wouldn't a girlfriend find it weird that you're happy to be touchy-feely with all your female friends, but hardly lay a hand on her?
Not judging, just curious

Well, honastly, i would be a tough person to date because frankly, Gods will always be more important than any girl, and lot of people dont get that. And sides, i would do some of that, but it sends wrong messeges, i would rather express my feelings through words, and actions than the way i physicaly touch someone.
But meh, it is mostly a precaution for myself so i wont feel tempted or go any further than what i already do. Im playing it slowly, sides i am not in a relationship anyways

 

[koban4max]

Well, honastly, i would be a tough person to date because frankly, Gods will always be more important than any girl, and lot of people dont get that. And sides, i would do some of that, but it sends wrong messeges, i would rather express my feelings through words, and actions than the way i physicaly touch someone.
But meh, it is mostly a precaution for myself so i wont feel tempted or go any further than what i already do. Im playing it slowly, sides i am not in a relationship anyways

LOL. You sure? I'm sure if God sent you a perfect girl you might turn out to be a spongebob squarepants. LOL..