How much time do you spend with your children? I am home all day with my baby and sometimes I feel really guilty because I spend so much time doing dishes, laundry, or just vegging. I try to read to him and talk to him and play some toys, but I don't know if I do it enough. Are there any good books on what to do!?
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alaskamolly
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As much as you are able (mentally---heehee), do the chores WITH them.
That's what I do. My first, as soon as she was old enough (before she was two), stood on a chair next to me while I washed dishes (I gave her a little thing of water and a scrubby pad and some plastic cups to "wash", and yeah, water DID get everywhere...) and cooked with me and helped me fold clothes and did every thing alongside me, for the most part.
It can be really annoying sometimes, I'll admit, and sometimes I just can't handle it and just do stuff MYSELF (it's so much faster and easier!), but doing chores WITH them pays off as they age--GREAT time together interacting (I always chatter to them about the Lord or about life or just listen to them chatter to me...or we sing Bible verses or talk about how much we love Daddy or other 'brainwashing' topics--
) and ALSO my children, young as they are, are crackerjack workers, and they have good attitudes while doing it (cause Mom has always done her chores with a smile and a song!)...
One caveat--get nontoxic cleaning products, etc., if you're having them help you w/ anything that involves cleaners--the typical store brands are TERRIBLE and the fumes alone can do major damage to a young child, much less if they get ahold of the bottle, God forbid! I buy mine wholesale from a company we finally found and love, but another option is simply to go to a health food store or section and get cleaning products there. It's worth it to make the switch--much better on everyone's health!
Blessings,
Molly
That's what I do. My first, as soon as she was old enough (before she was two), stood on a chair next to me while I washed dishes (I gave her a little thing of water and a scrubby pad and some plastic cups to "wash", and yeah, water DID get everywhere...) and cooked with me and helped me fold clothes and did every thing alongside me, for the most part.
It can be really annoying sometimes, I'll admit, and sometimes I just can't handle it and just do stuff MYSELF (it's so much faster and easier!), but doing chores WITH them pays off as they age--GREAT time together interacting (I always chatter to them about the Lord or about life or just listen to them chatter to me...or we sing Bible verses or talk about how much we love Daddy or other 'brainwashing' topics--
) and ALSO my children, young as they are, are crackerjack workers, and they have good attitudes while doing it (cause Mom has always done her chores with a smile and a song!)...One caveat--get nontoxic cleaning products, etc., if you're having them help you w/ anything that involves cleaners--the typical store brands are TERRIBLE and the fumes alone can do major damage to a young child, much less if they get ahold of the bottle, God forbid! I buy mine wholesale from a company we finally found and love, but another option is simply to go to a health food store or section and get cleaning products there. It's worth it to make the switch--much better on everyone's health!
Blessings,
Molly
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Babies can sit on the kitchen counter in a child seat while you do dishes... likewise on the dryer while you fold laundry.. Lots of eye contact possiiliities, you can talk or sing... Babies can happily be in backpacks or chest carriers when you vacuum or rake leaves.
Just remember which is more important - the stack of dishes or your child. Easy call. The dishes will keep, or you can do them when you husband comes home and he plays spends time with the baby, or he can do them.
Just remember which is more important - the stack of dishes or your child. Easy call. The dishes will keep, or you can do them when you husband comes home and he plays spends time with the baby, or he can do them.
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When the children were little, they were always in the room with me while I was doing housework. I would talk to them, tell them what I was doing, or sing to them. Now that they are older, they like to help out especially loading the dishwasher and folding the laundry. They like to sort their clothes of out the pile, and seperate them.
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I feel you...I work ALL day and then when I get home I am so pooped...BUT I have realized that hey...she is 2 one time and all that other stuff will be there...she won't alweays be little so if the bed does not get made or dishes get left in the sink...so what! I sit and we watch movies together, we read together, play outside...she helps me fold clothes and we snuggle in the bed together and say prayers. Sometim,es she wants to be in her room plating by herself..or watching a movie by herself..I then use that time to do what I need to do or wait until she is asleep and do it..I know it is hard and I have those feelings from time to time...
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andiesmama
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I'm a SAHM, Andie is 28 months old and she's pretty independent. She is really good about amusing herself while I'm doing laundry or dishes or something. But I spread out the chores, like take 15 min to empty the dishwasher or fold towels or something, then take 15 or 20 min to do a puzzle with her or read a book or color, then back to another job for me. Some days she's more "clingy" than others, that's when I forget about all the household chores & spend time with her alone...I use naptime to play catch up!! When she was little (littler than now!) I would put her in her playsaucer thingy & have it in whatever room I was in, or just do my stuff during her naps. They are only little once, like another poster said, the chores will keep but the babies grow up fast!!
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BibleMinnie
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We as mothers will always feel guilty no matter how much we are doing with our kids. I eman I have a 10 month old and I have to clean while he is at daycare if I can otherwise he cries. He will not sit in the highchair unless he is eating and so I am trying to get him to be patient but you know I just try to be patient with him too. He likes to try and take the broom while I am sweeping but you know I tell him in due time he can do this. well I hope all is well with everyones children. We all have the strength to do what it takes to be good parents and we do the best we can because of the Love we have for our kids. I am a single parent so I know how hard it gets but I pray to God every night that my son will feel all the Love I have for him every day even if I cant be with him every moment of the day.
God Bless you all
Stay strong in the Lord and he will see you through he always does.
God Bless you all
Stay strong in the Lord and he will see you through he always does.
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