Growing old alone

[RileyG]

In my case it's not really a choice, it's just the way I am.

I agree. I think it's part of me.

 

[RileyG]

I used to be bothered by it. But now at 60 I'm quite comfortable and satisfied with it. Not that it took that long. It's something I grew into. My advice is think about what you really want, what's natural for you, rather on what you think you should have or where you think you should be at. Pray it over of course, seeking God's will in all things.

As far as growing old goes, I'd like to make it to 85.

Thank you for your wisdom.

 

[Lost4words]

I have very poor social skills so i do not necessarily think it's a choice. Friendship is a two way street IMHO

Ok fair enough but, in your opening post you said you choose to be alone.

God bless you

 

[RileyG]

Ok fair enough but, in your opening post you said you choose to be alone.

God bless you

That's true.

 

[NinjaPirate777]

I have lots of friends at work and at various clubs I belong to so I don't feel lonely. If anything, its nice to shut my door at the end of the day for some alone time.

That said, I would encourage you to be social with coworkers. Ask how they are and share a bit of how you are. Over time little daily interactions build friendships. Also, join groups outside work with people who share interests you have. If that is hard try taking a night cooking or art class where you will learn something and can banter with the other students and the teacher. Church clubs are good too. You can join committees at church or volunteer to decorate with others when the seasons change. You put yourself out there in person and it's kind of a numbers thing. Sooner or later you'll click with someone and a friendship will develop.

You can do it. Start with baby steps.

 

[lismore]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

Hello Riley. Do you belong to a local church? Would get some support there. Getting involved with activities with other believers. God Bless

 

[RileyG]

Hello Riley. Do you belong to a local church? Would get some support there. Getting involved with activities with other believers. God Bless

Yes, I do.

 

[RileyG]

I have lots of friends at work and at various clubs I belong to so I don't feel lonely. If anything, its nice to shut my door at the end of the day for some alone time.

That said, I would encourage you to be social with coworkers. Ask how they are and share a bit of how you are. Over time little daily interactions build friendships. Also, join groups outside work with people who share interests you have. If that is hard try taking a night cooking or art class where you will learn something and can banter with the other students and the teacher. Church clubs are good too. You can join committees at church or volunteer to decorate with others when the seasons change. You put yourself out there in person and it's kind of a numbers thing. Sooner or later you'll click with someone and a friendship will develop.

You can do it. Start with baby steps.

Thank you for your recommendation.

 

[JimR-OCDS]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

Allow the flow of life to come to you, and don't try to force things.

In all, let God's Divine Love lead you.

 

[JimR-OCDS]

I'm 71 years old. The only friend I have is my wife. We are retired and live a happy simple
life together. We appreciate the simple things in life which God gives us for free.

We even like the snow, which is why we decided not to become "snow birds," when we looked
into it this past summer.

Live is beautiful, when God is head of your life. Without God, our life would have no
purpose.

 

[lismore]

Yes, I do.

Hello Riley! In a church you will meet people there for different reasons. But there will be a core of true believers, if you walk in fellowship with them and with the Holy Spirit you will never walk alone. Only what is done for the Lord has any real significance, only that has true purpose, a shared purpose. I would advise to get involved in the church, serve the Lord gladly, the people of God will come around you, even if it's only a few. You'll find them there. God Bless

 

[Juan777]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

I watch allot of videos, especially ones on youtube so it makes me feel like I have company when I hit play.
In fact, I have a dedicated playlist called "feeling lonely" which is a collection of music videos sung by female vocalist. I have a VR-headset that can blow-up the size of videos to make them appear life-like and can say, even as a kid, watching TV and watching 16mm projector movies I borrowed from the library also helped ease lonliness as a kid. I guess this would be the adult version.

This is apart from the fact that Jesus is inside me and prayer, Bible reading and worship videos, that I sing-along with is also very helpful.

 

[GenemZ]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

One thing is for certain.... God has made a provision.

I have been in the same "chosen predicament."

What I found was this.... Beyond what most can imagine.

Take a peek here.

https://rbthieme.org/PDF/LessonListingForWeb2014.pdf

There is enough there for a life time.

And, then here: R. B. Thieme, Jr., Bible Ministries | Home

grace and peace .......

 

[RileyG]

I watch allot of videos, especially ones on youtube so it makes me feel like I have company when I hit play.
In fact, I have a dedicated playlist called "feeling lonely" which is a collection of music videos sung by female vocalist. I have a VR-headset that can blow-up the size of videos to make them appear life-like and can say, even as a kid, watching TV and watching 16mm projector movies I borrowed from the library also helped ease lonliness as a kid. I guess this would be the adult version.

This is apart from the fact that Jesus is inside me and prayer, Bible reading and worship videos, that I sing-along with is also very helpful.

Thank you . I also watch a lot of videos on YouTube via my smart TV

 

[RileyG]

One thing is for certain.... God has made a provision.

I have been in the same "chosen predicament."

What I found was this.... Beyond what most can imagine.

Take a peek here.

https://rbthieme.org/PDF/LessonListingForWeb2014.pdf

There is enough there for a life time.

And, then here: R. B. Thieme, Jr., Bible Ministries | Home

grace and peace .......

Thank you for the link. I appreciate it.

 

[Juan777]

Thank you . I also watch a lot of videos on YouTube via my smart TV

Cool. I watch mainly TV-shows/movie - grade content on my smart TV ((normally with the FLAT, 16:9, or cinematically the 1.85:1 Aspect Ratio, but less normally if it's a R-rated or bad movie,in which case I'll watch it there) despite it's on a 2.39:1 ultra-wide aspect ratio) and otherwise on my projector on a wall to give a verticle parity to images that are cinematically ultra-wide (eg 2.39:1 aspect ratio) and just wide (1.85:1) or Academy Ratios (4:3). Same with music videos. The smart-TV is hidden in the basement and generally not accessible that easily, and the projector is difficult to set-up and I have to wait until the bulb cools off to put it away. The hack for all this is the VR-headset when it's too difficult to access either devices because there is not enough time or I'm too busy.

Youtube videos that are like vlogs, news commentary, movie reviews, ASMR, is typically viewed either on my computer monitor, or smaller 8 inch screen Tablets that I sleep right next to, carry with me if I'm a passanger. The tablet viewing of these youtube videos is more geared to ease lonliness or help sleep come faster (ie since I am lying down next to a like a small TV on my pillow, etc....). In order to preserve cinematic integrity, I fobid myself from playing these youtube videos on my TV, projector, or VR-head-set. However, if it's an ASMR video, or a video where a woman in 160 degrees, then on occasion (has not happened recently, happened more like last year), I might VR-it.

 

[the Vital One]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

Do what God wants you to do. Stay on the straight and narrow and don't get distracted by winding paths.

 

[Diamond72]

How do you deal with this? I am still relatively young (will be 27 in a month), but I choose to remain celibate and single (no debating please). I do not have much close friends either.

Any advice?

I use to attend a different church almost every day of the week. There are churches that have a morning bible study, communion, and lunch. So that gave me a lot of opportunities to interact with people. Also, there are churches that have week-long revivals. So I was just very active.

 

[GenemZ]

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[Diamond72]

I currently live with my parents and they do not allow pets, no.

My wife does not allow animals in the house. I had 12 feral cats I was feeding once. You put out food and your yard will be full of animals wanting to be your friend.