Grieving for a cousin I wasn't close to

[natenh]

I have a cousin who recently died of cancer recently, I haven't seen this cousin in nearly 10 years and had only met her on two occassions, and yet I feel such a strong sense of indescribable grief and sadness, I'm finding it hard to get on with my regular daily activities, I had prayed so hard for her healing....are my feelings legitimate and normal? and how do I deal with it? I'm in desperate need of some advice

God Bless

 

[Lorian]

Hi,

I can tell that in your heart you wanted your cousin to get better. Although she died, you tried to move her to better health by your daily prayers. She is dwelling with the Lord now, which is the power of your desire for her, to be with Him, and for this, you most likely have normal feelings. For all any of us can do is pray for our loved ones to be healed and leave the rest to God's judgment. I hope for you to keep praying for your own relief and protect your heart from missing your cousin or protect yourself from thoughts of failure. You did well to pray. And I hope for you to move ahead with godly peace in this matter.

 

[Catherineanne]

I have a cousin who recently died of cancer recently, I haven't seen this cousin in nearly 10 years and had only met her on two occassions, and yet I feel such a strong sense of indescribable grief and sadness, I'm finding it hard to get on with my regular daily activities, I had prayed so hard for her healing....are my feelings legitimate and normal? and how do I deal with it? I'm in desperate need of some advice

God Bless

Hi Natenh. Nice to meet you.

I am really sorry you lost your cousin; that must be so difficult for you. Rest assured, your prayers were heard, and your cousin now has the only true healing any of us will ever have; to be with the Lord. Your feelings are perfectly natural and normal; of course they are.

Grief is a very difficult thing for any of us to deal with, and it hits everyone in a different way. You will need to take the time to adjust to living in what is in effect a different world; one without your cousin. This will not be easy.

I advise you to speak to your minister, and get his or her support through this time. Stay in touch with your closest friends; you will need them to help you as well. And give yourself time; eventually you will learn to accept this loss, and to accept that it was God's will. None of us can really prepare for the death of a close relation, we just have to ride the waves of grief when they come, and try to find a reason to carry on.

Ultimately none of us can tell God what to do; we have to accept that he has a reason for what happens, even when we can see no reason for it. We have to accept his will, even when it hurts. Trust him to look after your cousin, commend her to his care, and take the time you need to grieve for her.

God be with you.

 

[artqween]

I have a cousin who recently died of cancer recently, I haven't seen this cousin in nearly 10 years and had only met her on two occassions, and yet I feel such a strong sense of indescribable grief and sadness, I'm finding it hard to get on with my regular daily activities, I had prayed so hard for her healing....are my feelings legitimate and normal? and how do I deal with it? I'm in desperate need of some advice

God Bless

Well she is family. And ur two occassions were pleasant ones it seems.
Ur cousin made an impression on u.
Its ok to grief. u love ur family member.
Thats normal. if u scenes ur grief is getting more serious seek ur doctors help.. For depression. U maybe going
Through a type of hormonal imbalance..
It may sound like.. :-/ i hope u feel better quickly .. Praying Bout ur grief also helps.. Bonding with God/Jesus
and ur church can help as well..
Hey btw and plezd to meet u..