Going through rough seas

[Kusanagi]

Well, I am going through a rough moment at this time with my current GF and that I fear that history will repeat again. She talked to me that I have an issue with communicating my feelings verbaly. Knowing that I am a guy, its hard for me to do so. Second (and she was supprised when she said this) that when I say "I love you" (I admit that I went overboard and said it every second) that it was a bit much. She is looking forward for both of us to get to the comfort level where I dont have to say it all the time to know it. The thing that got me a bit worried was that shee needs some time to figure out how she is feeling.

Any advice?
Thanks

 

[Eccp19]

As guys, we sometimes get so "happy" with the women in our lives (especially at first) that its easy if we're not careful to douse the relationship with too much spice,oil, and ginger. Some women love this, but in my experience women need some space. Plus, throwing yourself too much in to the relationship (at least before it is very serious) almost gives the girl an impression that you are dependent on her and she can get "too" comfortable with you and know your every next move. Just my 2 cents on the saying I love you too much thing.

As far as the communication thing - women love verbals. For some guys it's easier than others but at the core, women need to hear appreciation and praise on a constant basis. You say I love you and that is good, but don't forget that women want to hear what you love about them and what you are feeling.

With the space thing, this could be a warning sign man. I don't know how serious you guys are but my advice to you would be to step back, pray and ask that God's will be done, and do a checkup on yourself and make sure you are independent of this girl. Dependency on anyone can always fail. This doesn't take anything away from your relationship, but making sure that you aren't attached at an unhealthy level is a good health indicator of the relationship.

 

[Amy47]

As guys, we sometimes get so "happy" with the women in our lives (especially at first) that its easy if we're not careful to douse the relationship with too much spice,oil, and ginger. Some women love this, but in my experience women need some space. Plus, throwing yourself too much in to the relationship (at least before it is very serious) almost gives the girl an impression that you are dependent on her and she can get "too" comfortable with you and know your every next move. Just my 2 cents on the saying I love you too much thing.

As far as the communication thing - women love verbals. For some guys it's easier than others but at the core, women need to hear appreciation and praise on a constant basis. You say I love you and that is good, but don't forget that women want to hear what you love about them and what you are feeling.

With the space thing, this could be a warning sign man. I don't know how serious you guys are but my advice to you would be to step back, pray and ask that God's will be done, and do a checkup on yourself and make sure you are independent of this girl. Dependency on anyone can always fail. This doesn't take anything away from your relationship, but making sure that you aren't attached at an unhealthy level is a good health indicator of the relationship.

I couldn't have said it better myself. How long have you 2 been dating?