"God will understand???"

[sanderse]

So, My little sister has been faced with some challenging decisions. She is in college, and like many others, is not strong enough to resist the tempations that she have been thrown at her. She has always had security issues with God because a lot of our childhood she felt unprotected by Him. The Typical "Why would God let this happen to me" kind of stuff. For a while she was making progress and started leaning on God. My aunt was helping her and being a mentor. However, this year my aunt got a job teaching and has not has the time to assist her in her troubles. Once again my little sister felt abandoned. My older sister and I tried to get her to come to us, but she does not see us as people who can help. She started dating a guy who really likes her and pays a lot of attention to her. The problem is that he is not a strong Christian. He is not helping her get closer to God. We have all tried to help her see the trouble with this relationship, but all she sees is that someone finally cares and she has a constant person she can go to. She is making unwise decisions and her comment to My older sis was, "I know God thinks it is wrong, But I think he will undertand." How do I respond to this biblically?

 

[waxlion10]

I think what she needs right now isn't a sermon or a lecture or a bunch of verses quoted to her.

I think she needs you to keep her lifted in prayer, be there for her, love her unconditionally, and listen to her. Sometimes as much as we'd like to keep people form making decisions with which we do not agree, we have to let them be their own person and make sure they know that we will love them even if we don't agree with their choices.

If I were your sister, this is what I'd want. I can tell you care about her a lot. I understand; I'm the oldest of three and both my younger siblings have dated non-Christians, and my little sister is very involved with a non-Christian boy who has asked her to move in with him after she graduates next May. I feel where you're coming from.

My advice? Be Jesus to her, not just another authority figure who tells her how wrong her decisions are... she needs to be her own person, and as much as you might want to protect her, she is a human being with free will.

 

[mustang333]

I agree with the above post, she is a human being with free will and even though you see the right way, she still has to decide for herself. All you can do is tell her that you see her mistakes and it is up to her whether or not she will listen to you and correct herself.

 

[lawtonfogle]

So, My little sister has been faced with some challenging decisions. She is in college, and like many others, is not strong enough to resist the tempations that she have been thrown at her. She has always had security issues with God because a lot of our childhood she felt unprotected by Him. The Typical "Why would God let this happen to me" kind of stuff. For a while she was making progress and started leaning on God. My aunt was helping her and being a mentor. However, this year my aunt got a job teaching and has not has the time to assist her in her troubles. Once again my little sister felt abandoned. My older sister and I tried to get her to come to us, but she does not see us as people who can help. She started dating a guy who really likes her and pays a lot of attention to her. The problem is that he is not a strong Christian. He is not helping her get closer to God. We have all tried to help her see the trouble with this relationship, but all she sees is that someone finally cares and she has a constant person she can go to. She is making unwise decisions and her comment to My older sis was, "I know God thinks it is wrong, But I think he will undertand." How do I respond to this biblically?

It depends upon her personality, because some will not answer and instead clam up, but ask her why. See if she can tell you why she thinks God will understand. If you can force her to try to reason it out, she may change, or she may become more stubborn (it has to deal with the cognitive dissonance, and that one potential reaction to it is to better ignore the problem at hand). It really helps if you are not judgmental when you ask.