God Revealing Who You Will End up Marrying

[rose wabos]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

 

[Aussie Pete]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

I worry about such presumption. It's not Biblical and it can lead to real heartache and a sense of "God has let me down." You are right, it takes two. I have some friends who have told me I should marry someone because we get on so well. That's nice, but she could not be less interested in a relationship. We do get on well, especially as we work together in ministry. We are brother and sister in Christ and that's as a far as it goes.

 

[tturt]

God reveals things to come including
-God told Cain Gen 4:6-7 "... if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. ..."
GENESIS INCLUDES:
-God tells Noah what to do and why Stated the rainbow covenant terms He'll nevver flood the earth again
-God told Abram the land He gave him and his descendents forever
-Though they were past child bearing age, God promised Abram and Sarai a son

God will also give us confirmation Acts 9

I would certainly asks

"Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come" John 16:13

 

[Carl Emerson]

Let's not write the possibility off.

My wife was given a word from the Lord we should marry.

She held on to it for three months - we hardly knew one another. However folks were praying.

Then significant events coincided and she shared the word. I was in bible school with significant spiritual support.

We worked it through and were engaged in three weeks and married in three months.

The Bible College Principle Dr. David Stewart married us.

That was 35 years and 5 children ago.

It can happen and be of Him.

I concede however that it is rare. I had waited 10 years for the wrong lady.

There is much more to the story but that will suffice.

If you really want more detail PM me.

 

[Llleopard]

Let's not write the possibility off.

My wife was given a word from the Lord we should marry.

She held on to it for three months - we hardly knew one another. However folks were praying.

Then significant events coincided and she shared the word. I was in bible school with significant spiritual support.

We worked it through and were engaged in three weeks and married in three months.

The Bible College Principle Dr. David Stewart married us.

That was 35 years and 5 children ago.

It can happen and be of Him.

I concede however that it is rare. I had waited 10 years for the wrong lady.

There is much more to the story but that will suffice.

If you really want more detail PM me.

I agree, don't write it off...the first time we met, my now husband had a word from the Lord that he had a choice - if he came into my house we would marry, but he could walk away if he chose. I never heard a thing though lol and he didn't tell me about it till after we'd been married for years. I don't think it's biblical as such, but if you do hear something, hold on to it and test it to see if the whole situation is godly.

 

[ajcarey]

It is so easy to be misled in this way, and even more so than most of the many other ways it is easy to be misled. I've heard of a girl who was approached by 3 men in the same week all saying that God had shown them that she was the one God wanted them to marry. Any single man and single woman who are desperate might sense the other's desperation and feel drawn to each other- and then label this as the Holy Spirit.

My own testimony: There was once a girl I suspected God wanted me to marry. I believe it was simply because we both had God's Spirit in us and felt drawn to each other in the sense of fellowship. It seemed at the time though like it was God drawing us towards marriage, especially because we lived 500 miles apart and ended up being in each other's presence at least 5 times over the course of just a bit more than a year through no real planning and just going where we would have gone anyways (at least that's how it was with me). She seemed virtually perfect for me and I believe she really did want to marry me, but long story short from there is that her father figure (not her father, but the closest she had practically) wouldn't really talk to me when I called him to ask about marrying her (beginning the process I mean)- and I mean he was evasive to the point he that he wouldn't even tell me no! I held out a few years hoping for a better opportunity to talk to him and that seemed to come along, it even seemed like it might be from God, but no, he still wouldn't talk to me and acted very uncomfortable when I simply said hello to him without even mentioning anything else. So I let it go. A few years later she finally married someone else and I was disappointed, but the disappointment was mostly overshadowed by relief that this frustrating saga was finally over. Anyways, if it had really been of God I could have obtained it by going through God-ordained authority and not pushing over any barriers. I stayed in line and it still didn't happen. I know not to blame the whole saga on God, but if I had read too much into the coincidences and circumstances which led me to suspect God wanted me to marry her my faith could really have been shaken, if not utterly destroyed. No regrets, no significant long-term damage, but wow could this have potentially destroyed me! Be careful, understand the proneness of your own heart to read into things as being of God especially when you want such anyways or even if you just long for a token of God working in your life.

And even marriages that happen that seem to be so directly ordained of God may not be what they seem. Example: There is a new girl at church with ten single men looking for a wife. She is pretty, nice, intelligent, polite, spiritual, etc. A year later one of these ten men marries her. At the wedding he says " I knew from the moment I saw her she was the one God wanted for me." The other nine single guys who didn't get her all say to themselves "Yeah, I thought the same thing when I first saw too." We all know things like this could easily happen.

 

[GaveMeJoy]

After the first night of meeting my wife, I felt the Lord told me we would be married, it seas the exact same feeling that all these other people felt. She was perfect! Beautiful, talented, loved missions and Jesus, had a passion for helping the lost; we were totally compatible! She came from a Christian family as did I, we dated for two years and then married with full blessings and a huge group of believers to cheer us on.

9 years later my wife walked completely away from Jesus and divorced me.
While it’s *possible* God could do this, almost anyone who thinks or says this happened has absolutely no way to determine whether or not it’s the Lord or coming from themselves, or in their imaginations

 

[dqhall]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

Someone in CF described he had a dream about the woman he was going to marry before he met the women he married.

Over 30 yrs ago I had a dream of a certain color shirt hanging in an orange tree. I was employed harvesting oranges. Within days I walked into a thrift store and saw the shirt that I had seen in my dreams. It was thick fabric to protect my wrists as there are thorns in orange trees. I bought the shirt.

 

[Tolworth John]

Thoughts?

You've got quotes from both sides, those who had a word and it worked, those who had a word and it didn't.
Keep It Simple.

Date girls, limit things to kissing only, talk to them.
Your heart will be broken and you will breack hearts, and you may find someone who will work with you as husband and wife.
Unless you talk to girls you'll never find her.

 

[Kris Jordan]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

Hi Rose,

I can't speak for everyone but the night I got saved at 20 yrs old, I knew, with absolute certainty, that my boyfriend was the one I was supposed to marry. God didn't speak audibly to me but it was just a "knowing that I know that I know" kind of thing. I see it as the first "word of knowledge" Jesus gave me. Turns out, it was spot on because we've been married for 31+ years and have served hand-in-hand in ministry together from the day we got married.

Looking back, I know Jesus hand-chose us for each other in order to accomplish all He had (has) for us in ministry, and we couldn't have done it without each other. But I don't think we are the "norm" on this subject of marriage and mates.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

It can happen. "Love at first sight" has happened and been known and been realized even 20 years later perhaps.
What is false happens more though. Test everything by Scripture, remaining always in prayer, bringing everything to the Father, all things, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Even every thought, hope and dream - bring subject to Jesus, as written in His Word.

 

[rose wabos]

Thank you, all, for your responses. The reason I asked is because in May of this year, I felt an overwhelming presence of the Spirit of God amidst a demonic encounter. It was like nothing I had ever felt before. In those moments, he spoke some words over me. One of the words was the boy I was going to marry, who I know now, and am in school with. When God told me this I liked him a lot, but I never thought of him as marriage material. As the months have gone by, I've realized how immature he is, and how much growth he would need for me to even consider him. We're juniors in high school, so obviously there's a lot of time left, but I don't want to have him dictate my future. I still want to pursue my goals, and if he continued on the road he's on now, I don't think we'd come together. Please pray for me, and give me advice on what my mindset should be at this point.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

As the Scripture says to all in Christ, "have the attitude of Christ"....
He knows we don't know how to live, even His Own Apostles did not know.
He says "Come to Me, I Will Show you how to live" , then He Does, for all who are willing joyously, who are called according to His Purpose, who are circumcised of heart (by God's Doing) .

 

[Carl Emerson]

I felt an overwhelming presence of the Spirit of God amidst a demonic encounter. It was like nothing I had ever felt before. In those moments, he spoke some words over me.

Can you expand on this and explain who spoke the words ???

 

[Kris Jordan]

Thank you, all, for your responses. The reason I asked is because in May of this year, I felt an overwhelming presence of the Spirit of God amidst a demonic encounter. It was like nothing I had ever felt before. In those moments, he spoke some words over me. One of the words was the boy I was going to marry, who I know now, and am in school with. When God told me this I liked him a lot, but I never thought of him as marriage material. As the months have gone by, I've realized how immature he is, and how much growth he would need for me to even consider him. We're juniors in high school, so obviously there's a lot of time left, but I don't want to have him dictate my future. I still want to pursue my goals, and if he continued on the road he's on now, I don't think we'd come together. Please pray for me, and give me advice on what my mindset should be at this point.

Hi Rose,

If what you heard was truly Jesus, it will come to pass. However, oftentimes, the Lord will show us things that may not transpire for years to come, so timing is a critical factor in things like this.

If what you heard was not Jesus, then it won't come to pass.

Personally, I would just continue living for Jesus, seeking His will for your life, asking Him to direct your path according to His plans and purposes and submit yourself to whatever He leads you to do. Leave the rest up to Him.

 

[rose wabos]

Can you expand on this and explain who spoke the words ???

Yes. There was a demon in my room, and I was crying out to God. It was one of the most intense demonic encounters I've ever had, I've since learned to not give them power. But, anyways, I felt like I was going to die, there was fear sorrounding me everywhere. Then I felt this overwhelming peace, I can't put into words how joyful and giddy I felt with this presence on me. When I look back on that part of the experience, it literally felt like time had stopped, or time wasn't existent. Anyways, I didn't hear a "speaking" I could only describe it as little things being placed on my heart, if that makes sense. The words included the marriage thing, and also a word about adoption. Personally, I think God was comforting me and telling me I did have a future, even though Satan wanted me to think I was destined to die.

 

[rose wabos]

Hi Rose,

If what you heard was truly Jesus, it will come to pass. However, oftentimes, the Lord will show us things that may not transpire for years to come, so timing is a critical factor in things like this.

If what you heard was not Jesus, then it won't come to pass.

Personally, I would just continue living for Jesus, seeking His will for your life, asking Him to direct your path according to His plans and purposes and submit yourself to whatever He leads you to do. Leave the rest up to Him.

Thank you! This is what my Dad always tells me. It's a comforting thing to hear

 

[usexpat97]

Hey, I was just wondering what all of you think of Christians saying God revealed who their spouse would be, is this biblical? If this were to happen to me, for instance, what would it mean? How do we know for sure, especially when that other person had free will? Thoughts?

I don't automatically believe Christians who claim that, but it doesn't mean it is either biblical of unbiblical. I'm sure God does do that on occasion. However, I believe the majority of the time we choose our own spouses, because of the free will thing you mentioned. And I'm sure most of us wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Carl Emerson]

However, I believe the majority of the time we choose our own spouses, because of the free will thing you mentioned. And I'm sure most of us wouldn't have it any other way.

Mmmm... this is interesting given that almost half of marriages bust up.

Maybe we should rethink this process and give God (who knows best) the final word regarding our choices...

 

[usexpat97]

Mmmm... this is interesting given that almost half of marriages bust up.

Maybe we should rethink this process and give God (who knows best) the final word regarding our choices...

The problem is, God can, and does, give YOU the final word.