Penumbra,
thanks for your response and your thoughts.
This is clearly a side-track to your thread, so feel free to not respond if you do not want to. You brought up this aspect of your worldview that you seem to put a significant amount of emphasis on in response to one of my statements, and I responded to it.
Yes, it´s off topic, but since a God-proof is a stupid thing to attempt, anyways, it should be clear that this thread was created to prompt some interesting side-tracks.
Both, the "infiniteness" discussion as well as the "vengeance" topic are highly interesting to me.
I´ll keep them in separate posts, though.
If this part of the discussion is of no or little interest to you, feel free to step out of it any time.
I think I disagree that vengeance is not an emotion. It could be better described as "a desire for vengeance" that is the emotion.
I´d like to avoid spending too much time discussing semantics. The important part is that we use the same terminology. So let´s just say the "desire for vengeance" is an emotion.
Personally, however, I would like to differenciate between "emotions" and "feelings", with feelings being that which can be expressed in a simple "I am [sad/happy/frustrated/enraged/...]" statement, without any explanation, e.g. as to what this feeling seems to invite me to do.
Would you be willing to follow me there?
I think it extends beyond the need to be heard and acknowledge sadness. Someone can be heard, and their sadness, frustration, and loss may all be acknowledged, yet they may still feel the strong desire for vengeance on the killer.
I´m not sure I agree (I tend to think that when the needs of a person are met, they won´t have any desire for vengeance - why would they?).
Please keep in mind, "the need to be heard, acknowledged" were just attempts to answer your question what the needs of a person in that situation might be, not necessarily the correct and complete answer. When listening empathically to them, we are likely to hear what their feelings are and which unfulfilled needs these feelings point to).
In my way of dealing with these things, it´s not really important what the "desire for vengeance" is - what is important to me is that it is neither a feeling (in the above given definition) nor a need.
I´m fine with calling it a "desire" or a "want". (In the way I want candy, but this is neither a need nor a feeling - although this "wanting" might help me to learn more about my feelings and needs)
I don't view balance as a strictly intellectual concept. Sometimes I think it could even be the opposite.
Yes, maybe the term "intellectual" was a poor choice. Maybe "it´s a product of the
mind" is more helpful?
In any case, I would insist that it´s not a feeling, and that it´s not necessarily a need.
I guess what I am getting at is that a person whose desire is "I want this guy dead, too, for balance" is extremely out of touch with his feelings and needs. When I am hungry, my needs won´t be met when I make sure that everybody else doesn´t have anything to eat. That would be "balance", but striving for this sort of balance would clearly indicate that I am out of touch with my needs.
I have never been the victim of violent crime, so I can't speak to that specific example, but I, just like most people, have been seriously wronged at one point or another.
Well, when I feel "wronged" I am already in the business of judgement. I am not in touch with my feelings and needs.
During such times, my emotions are one of anger and the need for balance against the individual.
I would consider "I am angry" indeed the expression of a feeling.
"I have the need for balance" is an explanation, a strategy, especially when the way the balance is pursued is stated along with it ("against him").
Whether something is really a need is probably best determined a posteriori:
Once the "balance" of tit for tat is achieved - will the feeling (the anger) go away, pointing to the fact that the need has been met? If it doesn´t "balance" was clearly not the need. Can´t speak for anybody else, but my personal experience is that the anger will persist. I suspect, though, that loss/loss can never be a need.
My intellectual side, on the other hand, bring up the various questions like "what will it solve?" and reminders about an eye for an eye make the world blind and all that. So, at least in my experience, the desire for balance is not very intellectual, but is instead an emotion, and indeed my intellectual side instead critically analyzes and dismantles such emotions.
Yes, I would agree that it is at least not
very intellectual, and the considerations you describe here are
more intellectual.
However, it´s my conviction that the "desire for vengeance" is a mind thing (which necessarily drives us away from being in touch with our needs and feelings). Further ethical and rational considerations may put the value (also a mind thing) of vengeance into perspective, but they drive us even further away from our feelings and needs. I think a better approach would be to stay in close touch with our needs and feelings from the beginning (which would spare us the entire process).