Getting Started - Have A Few Questions! :)

[OrangeHope]

I would really like to become Quiverfull, I just had a talk with DH who unfortunantly doesn't feel ready to have a baby yet but thats o.k I'm willing to wait (not too long though LOL). I would like to have at least 6 kids, DH wanted 2 but then talking he thinks he wants a big family with lots of kids so here are my questions:

1) Are there any verses in the Bible that will help us with our decision?

2) Any of you out there think you weren't gonna become quiverfull or your dh's didn't want so many kids and changed their minds?

3) Does it say any where in the Bible some thing against or for bc?

4) This is more of an request, we're using NFP but I think we'll be moving to FAM, I would like to be done with kids by 30 but he doesn't think he'll be ready not even in the next year or so, this really disapoints me as I have been getting the urge for a while now to have a baby and have prayed to God to take these feelings away but they have only got stronger, I started praying in different way telling the Lord that if this is his will I will accept it and at least to soften DH's heart when I bring up the issue which he has but I feel sad I won't be ttc any time in the near future. DH is a new Believer so I'm encouraging him to read the Bible and follow God's path. dh says he hasn't heard God telling him to have kid but I on the other hand have gotten so many hints from God to become a family, could it be one of us isn't listening to God so well? Please pray for my dh and I that we follow God and do as he commands us whether it's to have kids soon, wait or maybe not have any if that of course is his will.

Thanks for reading!

 

[RedTulipMom]

Quiverfull actually means to trust God with your fertility and trust that he knows how many kids to give you. It means letting him decide whether you will have 1, 5 or 11 children. Therefore, it means using NO Birth Control ever.

From your post it sounds like what your saying is that you want to have 6 kids, and you want to have them all by age 30, which is fine. (i am just telling you that it isn't quiverful)

 

[Leanna]

What she said.... I think the best way is to just start and take it one step at a time in trusting God

 

[OrangeHope]

Thanks but how do we start and make one step at a time when DH isn't hearing from God when we both seem to be hearing a *ahem* different message from God?

 

[sweetangelmum]

I think that you are not going with qf thinking but with we want a big family quickly which is different to allowing God. I would say that you and your dh need to be on page one with one another before any child is concieved maybe you need to change the age that you want to finish as if it is 30yrs than you wont have 6 kids unless you start today or have multiply also you have to allow to expect you may have issues with conception. I pray you dont. Just take one child at a time one step at a time.

Pray and see what God says as if it is God's will he will put you and dh on the right path at once that is what happen with me and dh.

Also you might want to get your marriage issues fully sorted before you have any kids.

 

[Sabertooth]

I would really like to become Quiverfull, I just had a talk with DH who unfortunantly doesn't feel ready to have a baby yet but thats o.k I'm willing to wait (not too long though LOL). I would like to have at least 6 kids, DH wanted 2 but then talking he thinks he wants a big family with lots of kids so here are my questions:

1) Are there any verses in the Bible that will help us with our decision?

Romans 12:1 is a good place to start, but there are others.

2) Any of you out there think you weren't gonna become quiverfull or your dh's didn't want so many kids and changed their minds?

God got me first, but DW had bad side effects to most contraceptives, such as frequent yeast infections while she was on the pill. We didn't plan on having kids right away (if ever), but God used those side effects to get our attention on this matter.

3) Does it say any where in the Bible some thing against or for bc?

No, but God has a better idea of who should be born when, than we do. When a Christian couple believes that, they just naturally WANT to surrender their fertility to Him and see what He will do with it.

And we don't have to strive; He works using the drive He gave us.

4) This is more of an request, we're using NFP but I think we'll be moving to FAM, I would like to be done with kids by 30 but he doesn't think he'll be ready not even in the next year or so, this really disapoints me as I have been getting the urge for a while now to have a baby and have prayed to God to take these feelings away but they have only got stronger, I started praying in different way telling the Lord that if this is his will I will accept it and at least to soften DH's heart when I bring up the issue which he has but I feel sad I won't be ttc any time in the near future. DH is a new Believer so I'm encouraging him to read the Bible and follow God's path. dh says he hasn't heard God telling him to have kid but I on the other hand have gotten so many hints from God to become a family, could it be one of us isn't listening to God so well? Please pray for my dh and I that we follow God and do as he commands us whether it's to have kids soon, wait or maybe not have any if that of course is his will...

Another good scripture on this matter, Prov. 3:5, 6.

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight."

 

[Assisi]

I agree with the above posters. My parents threw out birth control completely after having me at 27 and I'm an only child. Quiverfull is not about how many children you have, it's about your attitude to your fertility.

As for Scriptures, search a net Bible for the words child or children or offspring. Children are only ever spoken of as being blessings and joys and never once do any of the holy men or women or the Bible wish to avoid having a child.
Also interesting to note is the story of Onan in Genesis. He was struck dead by God for 'spilling his seed' in order to avoid begetting a child.

In terms of getting different messages from God, it may be that He is giving one of you more information than the other at the moment, it may be that one of you doesn't want to hear, or that He wants you to give His message to your husband (or vice versa). Pray about it together as much as you can. It may be simply that God is preparing you, but that He is saying 'not yet' as well?? Pray, pray, pray, and make sure you take your husbands opinion seriously.

 

[Sunset2009]

Wanting a lot of kids does not mean you're quiverfull.