My boyfriend and I are both 21, we've been dating for a year and a half and have been talking about marriage for several months, but both of us have had the mentality of date to marry for years. I am currently a student at a university and have 3 more years of schooling (I'm going for my masters). My parents said they would pay for my schooling as long as I didn't get married, once I get married I would have to pay. At first we were both ok with waiting until I was done with school, but as months go by the desire to get married and the pressure of waiting is begining to challenge the original plan. We recently took a class for engaged/seriously dating couples. Each session covered a topic that every couple should go over prior to marriage, which would help couples decide if marriage was a step they needed to take or to break up, and they also gave us homework to complete together/separate. The class confirmed our desire to marry each other and helped us talk about everything that we need for our marriage. Here are the reasons why and why not. In the end we know that prayer and peace about our decision is the ultimate, but I wanted to get advice/guidence from godly people.
Reasons to get married
Reasons to get married
- Gain independence from parents
- Start our life together and begin to build a healthy and godly marriage
- Develop a better relationship with my parents
- Choose the church we want to go to and plug into community groups they have for our age group (Long story)
- Be able to become one physically, emotionally, and spiritually
- Not flee from sexual temptation anymore
- Save ourselves from having debt in the future
- Save ourselves the pressure of making sure we'll be able to support ourselves every month
- Be obedient to parents
- The argument of: You have the rest of your lives to be together, why not wait just three more years
