Fulfilling Single Life?

[peaceful-forest]

If you have a fulfilling single life, how do you do it?

I have no idea how to do this.

 

[RileyG]

By focusing on God, friendships, career etc. No one needs a partner to be happy.

 

[Sif]

By focusing on God, friendships, career etc. No one needs a partner to be happy.

I certainly second this. I would also say finding something regarding service to others. Be that something direct or something more 'behind the scenes'.

 

[Niels]

Think about what you like to do. The things that make you tick regardless of the demands that this world puts on you. Do those things when you can. Maybe it's just a minute here or there in your spare time, but keep at it.

When you were a child, did you want to be an artist, a gymnast, an accountant, an astronaut, a zookeeper, etc. or maybe put a smile on somebody's face? Find a way to include those interests in your life. It's never too late to do what matters to you. Even if God is your only witness and it isn't your official title. Strive to be you, even if it feels like you're too late or the only one. You'll be in your zone and doing what brings you fulfillment.

Having a significant other and fulfillment are different things. We can have one, the other, both, or neither but one shouldn't depend on the other.

Along the lines of what @Sif said, finding a way to serve others in the process is a great way to go about it. If you can incorporate what matters to you in a volunteer project or behind the scenes, the experience gained along the way can open doors to do more of what you enjoy in the future!

 

[RileyG]

I certainly second this. I would also say finding something regarding service to others. Be that something direct or something more 'behind the scenes'.

Amen!!

 

[timewerx]

Each weekend, I make a non-stop 80 mile round trip journey into the mountains under the hot summer sun on my bicycle. I do these trips on a fasted state without eating, just three bottles of water with salt added.

I found the activity quite exhilarating. It's like being thrown into a life and death struggle and trying your best to make it home alive.

And I thought Jesus did almost the same thing, except on foot to pray alone on the mountains. It does have an effect on you like killing your sex drive.

 

[High Fidelity]

Even as a couple you need to be two individuals.

Focus on being your own person and it will benefit you when you're in a relationship as well.

 

[Lost4words]

What works for me is going to the park daily and playing fetch for my owner...

 

[angelsaroundme]

I'm not saying your every moment has to be dedicated to others but some amount of helping others will go a long way in creating a sense of purpose. There are those more suited to animals than people. Temple Grandin helped cows by inventing better ways to handle them. Either way, there are tons of things that can be done to make the world a little better. Doesn't always need to be something super serious. Maybe someone's talent is just making others smile.

 

[Joined2krist]

Focus on God and find something you like doing that makes the world a much better place to live in. If you like animals; adopt some or volunteer in an animal shelter. If you are a people person; serve in a soup kitchen or work with kids at Sunday school etc. God bless

 

[DragonFox91]

I find friendships in general very helpful. How can you worry about spending time w/ a significant other, when you’re expected to spend a lot of your time w/ friends?

Work helps too. Feels like you spend all your time there.

Hobbies & interests help, but you can choose to worry about dating. You can’t choose to kick your friends or work to the side.

 

[timewerx]

I find friendships in general very helpful. How can you worry about spending time w/ a significant other, when you’re expected to spend a lot of your time w/ friends?

Work helps too. Feels like you spend all your time there.

Hobbies & interests help, but you can choose to worry about dating. You can’t choose to kick your friends or work to the side.

Some spouses or partners are so controlling, they'll choose your friends for you and likely tell you to let go of the friends you already have.

Not trying to scare you off but realize we have so many things to thank for.

 

[ozso]

For some people, like me, it comes naturally.

 

[ReesePiece23]

It's 100% a personality trait. I travel the world and pursue fulfilling hobbies. Then pursue fulfilling hobbies while travelling the world.

On paper, it sounds shallow. But I meet SO many people, from all walks of life, in all different countries, in every continent, and approach with an open mind; not expecting anything, but absolutely appreciating EVERYTHING and everyone.

I'm blessed to have the widest circle of friends I personally know - and THAT is where I'm spiritually at my most powerful. Being a friend to all, regardless of our perspective backgrounds. That isn't to say I'll never marry, but only when it's at the appropriate time. It won't be delayed, nor will it be hurried.

Knowing you're walking your authentic path helps too. Just don't let society or the status quo dictate what that is.

 

[J1991]

Your singleness gives you lots of opportunities to be concerned about the Lord's affair: serve at church, volunteer for a nonprofit. Get a hobby, learn a new skill, go to annual conference. Get out of debt, learn to invest, buy a house. Travel.

Me: I serve two positions at my church, I also volunteer as a tutor. I signed up for a Salsa class. I have included traveling this year: going to conferences on a subject that I enjoy. Learning AI and coding on the side. Hobby is having small projects on the side. Learning financial management and trying to stick with a budget.

I also pamper myself from time to time(that's where I have to stick with a budget). I learned how to cook food from a culture different from mines. It turned out really good. I shared it with some friends who also liked it.

Going deeper with Jesus Christ. I have more time with Him. It's a greater growing in a deeper knowledge of who He is intimately. This one is important. Scripture tells us in Proverbs 3:5&6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.

 

[busywriting]

God's time is the best, He is always on time and he's never late. As for me, I just moved to a new city, and I don't even have christian friends here. However, I rarely feel lonely . Of course I miss my family and friends back home but I've got activities and hobbies to occupy my time. I read a lot, watch movies and write. Sometimes, when I feel like it, I walk around my town and pamper myself. On Sundays I sing in church and get to commune with like minded christians and after church service, I always feel pumped for the week!

 

[Sir Robbins]

as others have stated, find something that makes you excited to look forward to each day. I have a long list of hobbies from model trains, traveling to different beaches around the SE USA, photography, film making, general travel and trying food spots. I got back into xbox a few weeks ago after a 14 year sabbatical from it lol

I wouldn't call it "fulfilling" but it passes the time by and that's enough for me

I will admit not having someone close to me hurts at times. When I caught covid a 4th time (the first 3 never did anything to me), I got really sick for a few days. Couldn't eat, was shaking constantly, fever was on a roller coaster, etc. and no one around to see or talk to. No one to check up on me and so on kinda got depressing. Thankfully those moments are rare.

 

[angelsaroundme]

It's easy to get distracted by the ugliness. But there is beauty in the world too. You don't have to possess beauty for yourself alone to appreciate it. We are all part of one creation. Music is probably the simplest way to become absorbed in it, in the beauty of creation.

"In beautiful things St. Francis saw Beauty itself, and through His vestiges imprinted on creation he followed his Beloved everywhere, making from all things a ladder by which he could climb up and embrace Him who is utterly desirable." - Saint Bonaventure

 

[DragonFox91]

as others have stated, find something that makes you excited to look forward to each day. I have a long list of hobbies from model trains, traveling to different beaches around the SE USA, photography, film making, general travel and trying food spots. I got back into xbox a few weeks ago after a 14 year sabbatical from it lol

I wouldn't call it "fulfilling" but it passes the time by and that's enough for me

I will admit not having someone close to me hurts at times. When I caught covid a 4th time (the first 3 never did anything to me), I got really sick for a few days. Couldn't eat, was shaking constantly, fever was on a roller coaster, etc. and no one around to see or talk to. No one to check up on me and so on kinda got depressing. Thankfully those moments are rare.

I am sorry. You sound very interesting. You don't have anyone, (even a close friend)?

 

[Sir Robbins]

I am sorry. You sound very interesting. You don't have anyone, (even a close friend)?

The friend that I would be close to lives in another state and we both live busy, workaholic lives so we rarely communicate at all and when we do, it's via text. Most of what I have are people who are regulars at cigar shops and restaurants I frequent.