frustration and hostility

[kenneth nathan]

Normally I'm comfortable going out. For some reason I feel uncomfortable taking the bus. I feel like the people around me are toxic. I feel hostile. I think about kind of people that made me feel that way.
I forgot to get off my stop and end up going back. Certainly places make me feel uncomfortable. For instances, going to particular McDonald's at the mall searching for that rude cashier who made me feel like why did I come here. It doesn't change the way I feel at that particular place. I don't feel that way of the same restaurant at another location. Particular situations it's almost an anticipation some thing is going to happen such that I generalise and totally avoid fast food restaurants or particular place reducing the risk of encountering people who make my day hell. The frustration of encountering such situations is worrisome afraid it might interfere with my life.

 

[Sir Robbins]

You sound like me to an extent. I have a general disgust with people. I try to avoid them at all cost. I "tolerate" most people but avoid certain places where I know undesirable people may be...

 

[Johnnz]

Maybe you could try to reach out to people like that. Engage them in some conversation. I find many people change when I do that.

John
NZ

 

[1watchman]

Kenneth, you sound like one who has developed a fixation thought process. It is not good to dwell on negativism. It begets more negativism. Try not staring at people on the bus or in public places, and keep a pleasant smile on your face. I remember that from a Grade School teacher many years ago, who said: "The thing that means the most and costs the least in making life worth while, is nothing more or nothing less than just a pleasant smile". It can be contagious, and you will feel good!

 

[TreasureHunter12]

Normally I'm comfortable going out. For some reason I feel uncomfortable taking the bus. I feel like the people around me are toxic. I feel hostile. I think about kind of people that made me feel that way.
I forgot to get off my stop and end up going back. Certainly places make me feel uncomfortable. For instances, going to particular McDonald's at the mall searching for that rude cashier who made me feel like why did I come here. It doesn't change the way I feel at that particular place. I don't feel that way of the same restaurant at another location. Particular situations it's almost an anticipation some thing is going to happen such that I generalise and totally avoid fast food restaurants or particular place reducing the risk of encountering people who make my day hell. The frustration of encountering such situations is worrisome afraid it might interfere with my life.

Try to keep the focus on you because you can only control yourself. You can't expect to avoid everyone and every situation that bothers you, so it's better to come up with changes that you can make to address the issues.

 

[Murby]

You are experiencing anxiety due to a phobia. Get professional help. I believe it is curable if not treatable.

 

[kenneth nathan]

Kenneth, you sound like one who has developed a fixation thought process. It is not good to dwell on negativism. It begets more negativism. Try not staring at people on the bus or in public places, and keep a pleasant smile on your face. I remember that from a Grade School teacher many years ago, who said: "The thing that means the most and costs the least in making life worth while, is nothing more or nothing less than just a pleasant smile". It can be contagious, and you will feel good!

Its true im fixated on negativism. To be honest, im around lot of positive people around family and friends. When i come across someone toxic within that social circle, its lot more noticeable than some random strange on the bus. My thoughts are constantly fixated with people that are or close to the people i associate with. I need help. Its just sometimes, I feel too defensive, dwell on those thoughts. I dont know whats the best way to keep my mind off such things. No matter how i move on with life, im constantly bombarded with such thoughts. If there can be a permanent solution thats why i seek christ. I see an improvement on how i feel about such situations. I used to respond with resentment and be defensive and now im more tolerant although it sort of gets to me at times.

 

[1watchman]

Yes, obsessive-compulsive thoughts are hard to deal with. Just keep reminding yourself when this arises that it is my OCD in play, and call upon the Lord Jesus to rescue you from it; and always keep in communion with Him all day. Look up always!