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Sometimes I reflect on all I have in my life and realize i have it a lot better than people in other countries or even sometimes than a neighbor...

It frustrates me that I can't focus on the blessings I do have - and that i get caught up in my own little world, where I can't see past my own nose (the things that I am depressed about).

Anyone else deal with this issue?
 
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Katie0873 said:
Sometimes I reflect on all I have in my life and realize i have it a lot better than people in other countries or even sometimes than a neighbor...

It frustrates me that I can't focus on the blessings I do have - and that i get caught up in my own little world, where I can't see past my own nose (the things that I am depressed about).

Anyone else deal with this issue?
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Yes indeed, for years even.

I found that when we are depressed our mind is stuck with the negativity of our feeling world - hence we are stuck in our inner misery.
Good things, like food, love from others, the Bible, sex, music and all kind of other blessings are often swallowed up by the shear negativity of our down - and we get down about watching ourselves tare good things apart.
However I found that if I resisted intellectually and summed-up the positives in the light of His Word and Promises that I would 'cheer' up considerably. Yet I wasn't always able to sustain such intellectual prowess.

So I relate very much with your issue.
 
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Sure. i go through the same thing and it makes me feel pretty guilty, which only makes my depression even worse.

I really don't understand it. The Lord has really blessed me in my life. Sure I've had my share of trying times, but I have Jesus Christ as my Lord and saviour, i have a great family that loves me, a beautiful christian fiance, a great job, a roof over my head, and all that goes with it. I have so many blessings to count, but yet I have been so depressed. It is exremely frustrating! I even feel guilty when I talk with other people who have really serious mental health issues because I think that maybe I'm just going through some phase. But all it takes is me breaking down in tears or not being able to make it through the grocery store and I realize I have a pretty serious problem.

As for less privileged people all around the world, of course I feel guilty at times because of all i have. I also get stuck thinking about my own little world and how down I am, and how I just can't seem to pull out of it. Then I watch a movie about the genocide in Africa or watch the news and I really feel pretty stupid about my own 'trivial' problems. This also makes my depression worse because I feel like I'm doing something wrong by focusing on my own problems.

It's been very hard for me lately to count my blessings and be grateful for what I have (so I hope I don't sound hypocritical). But I also think it is important to realize if you have a problem like depression. It's not something to throw to the wayside just because you think there are bigger problems out there that you need to solve or pray about. I think it is healthy to feel guilt or concern about other people's troubles - it shows you care about your fellow brothers and sisters. but don't discount your own troubles. If you have problems, you have problems. don't be afraid to ask for help. and don't be ashamed to take it to the Lord in prayer.
 
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Katie0873 said:
Sometimes I reflect on all I have in my life and realize i have it a lot better than people in other countries or even sometimes than a neighbor...

It frustrates me that I can't focus on the blessings I do have - and that i get caught up in my own little world, where I can't see past my own nose (the things that I am depressed about).

Anyone else deal with this issue?
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Heya sister,

I know exactly what you mean. I fought that realization during my battle with loneliness. Really it is human to forget or take advantage of our blessings.

Personally it is why God asked us to worship him on day of sabbath, to build memorials, and later when Jesus asked to perform communion. Even with all the awesome blessings I have recieved, it doesn't take much to forget. Sometimes God brings us into account, but as Jesus told it is more important that you come back to life.

About having it better than most countries. Yes it is very true. God fearing men took many risks and later bloodshed between brothers. We have a great prosperious nation with more freedom than mosts. We are one of the most giving nations on the planet too. Remember guilt is a tool from our enemies, and keep things into perspective. We worked hard to have these freedoms. Ultimately the world is drowning in Sin. We can only do so much.
 
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I do a lot of reflecting.. and unfortunately, I do realize that I have it a whole lot better... but inside, I don't want for things to get better. I want to see things get worse... Unfortunately, they won't. I feel like I deal with just common issues.. Like I'm one of the masses, no one special... Unfortunately, that's all I seem to struggle with on that topic..
 
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I do a lot of reflecting.. and unfortunately, I do realize that I have it a whole lot better... but inside, I don't want for things to get better. I want to see things get worse... Unfortunately, they won't. I feel like I deal with just common issues.. Like I'm one of the masses, no one special... Unfortunately, that's all I seem to struggle with on that topic..
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RE: I want to see things get worse... Unfortunately, they won't. I feel like I deal with just common issues.. Like I'm one of the masses, no one special... Unfortunately, that's all I seem to struggle with on that topic..

I think things could always be worse... But I can relate on the "one of the masses" part
 
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