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[PegasusOnFire]

GRRRR, ok I have to use hormonal BC when I am not pregnant, cause I am so fertile, I know lots of you want to be really super furtile and here I am complaining about it. BUt anyway to get to my point, hubby and I want a large family, but according to some we can never be concidered quiverfull because we are using BC.

My first baby was concieved on the pill, my second on condoms, this one nothing. Just suggesting trying and we were pregnant.

It just gets really frustrating to hear or read that you are totally going against God and ALL Christian's should be like this, (enter some reason here).

God gave us free-will, why can't we use it?

OK I think my rant is over.

BTW we want 5 kids, and by the looks of it, even when useing birth control between them, we will have them by the time I am in my 30's.

 

[Linnis]

*hugs*

The thing about it is NO MATTER what you do as a parent there is always be a few people who decide they have the right to comment on your life.

I have friends who are really fertile, they had baby # 1 while using birth control and she took that pill every day at exactly the same time without fail. Baby #2 was while using the shot, diaphram and spermacide...they had 1 and 2, 14 months apart. Then after that they tried an IUD...it was removed when she became pregnant and that's when they had # 3, 4 & 5.

They are refraining from sex until they decide if they are done and if they are he's getting fixed.

You wouldn't believe those who are getting upset about the idea, like 5 kids in 4 years isn't enough...like I said I think God's blessed them already...they've done their part for humanity.


I really will try not to be jealous of you...it took us 11 months to get pregnant for this one.


I'm getting all kinds of comments mostly from complete strangers who think I'm too young, unmarried, too skinny, too fat, a hippy....basically any reason I am predermined to be a bad mother. I understand how it feels so *hugs*.

 

[gracefaith]

I always think of the Old Testament where God instructed the Israelites to rotate their fields and let certain fields go unplanted (fallow) for a year or so to allow them to 'rest.' It's not good for the soil to have nutrients drained out of it year after year. Nor is it good for mothers to be pregnant year after year. Just like the fields they need to time to rebuild their strength!

Next time someone gives you grief, tell them, 'I'm allowing my field to lie fallow as the Lord instructed. Look it up in Scripture and get back to me.'

 

[RoseofLima]

I am sorry I wouldn't worry about it too much...quiverfull is just a ridiculous label.

Pray, ask God to form your conscience- and then follow your conscience....I think that's really the best any of us can do.

 

[zoeykristanyc]

My friend is like you too..very fertile. Don't feel bad for not being "quiverful" you know what you can handle..and your doing it. Praying for you

 

[purpleunicorn_Andi]

the only time we were activly trying was with our son. my second pregnancy occured durring a brief separation...I desided I didn't need to take the pills, he'd come over once a week or so... I think it probly happened arround valentines day... I had only been off the pills for a month or so...that is the pregnancy I misscarried, but that turned into a blessing, we wound up getting back together after the misscarriage (we were starting to get back together when I found out I was pregnate)... this time arround I had stopped taking the pills at the end of june (didn't have the money for a refill. a few weeks later I ordered somemore, when I didn't start in july I started testing... sure enough the end of july I get a +. so I guess I am fairly fertile too... hubby says if theis one is a girl he's going to go get snipped...I might ask about an IUD, I have trouble remembering to take meds...

 

[lin1235]

I agree - don't let others' ideas of how you should live bother you. My dh and I also use BC, and will do so again once this baby is born. I do not believe it is a sin or against God's will for us. Sorry you have to deal with the prejudice!

 

[JulySheMustFly]

Those that will judge how you manage your family with God's guidance are not worth worrying over. They are living out how God leads them as are you.

 

[RedTulipMom]

I personally dont agree with chemical forms of birth control, but i do agree that for the moms health spacing is necessary. It is ALOT on a womans body to have 5 kids in a row each 14 mos apart. Thats not good for the woman or the babies in my opionion. Doing research into many primitive australian, native american and african tribes they found that all the tribes (14 studied in total) used spacing of children. They all spaced the children by atleast 2 and 1/2 yrs and some spaced them by 3-4 yrs. They did this in order for the woman to have complete healing from the last pregnancy and for her body to be in good health for the new baby. I found this very interesting. They also had their married woman on special diets for 6 mos before trying to conceive and the diet continued through pregnancy and breastfeeding. (not a calorie deficit diet..a diet of special fats and healthy foods with high vitamin contents)