Frustrated with myself.

[Oregon girl]

Hi everyone I'm 20 years old and a part time college student. I'm posting because I need some advice. I have had a relationship with God for the majority of my life but the past few months I have really been trying to let God change me into the woman he made me to be. I have been learning a lot and seeking God but I can't seem to shake my old mind set regarding sins that commit. The main areas I struggle with are smoking pot and having sex. I know that God says that sex before marriage is wrong but I try and try and I cant seem to shake my old lifestyle. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have no one to talk to about all of this. I have regular meetings with my church leadership but I don't bring up these issues. I want to have a strong consistant relationship with God but I feel like I can't get out of having this double life thing going on. I don't know what to do...:o

 

[Sketcher]

I would say get into some regular fellowship and let that squeeze out the opportunities for the pot and illicit sex. Get into a recovery group, too.

 

[Shabby]

What's wrong with pot?

 

[explodingboy]

What's wrong with pot?

I expect because she feels it isn't compatible with her beliefs.

Hardly a statement that requires a tome of reasoning.

 

[Shabby]

I expect because she feels it isn't compatible with her beliefs.

Hardly a statement that requires a tome of reasoning.

Obviously, it is against her beliefs, that goes without saying when someone comes on a message board and says they are struggling with their pot use. I am inquiring as to how marijuana use is at odds with her beliefs.

 

[colorblindlover]

Hi there.

I haven't been in the same sins as you have, but I've had my share of that "thorn" in my side that just doesn't seem to go away.

I agree that being in fellowship with some other (preferably female) believers will help you be accountable. Tell someone about what you're dealing with. Yes, it'll be embarrassing, but as one of my pastors says "You're only as sick as your secrets." You don't need to go into detail, but tell them you have problems with sexual and chemical addiction.

This way, you're bringing the "bad" part of you in line with the "good" part of you. You might feel like I did, that you need to be "all good". But we're human! haha We're always going to be both bad and good at the same time. The difference for you is that you're trying to be less bad. And that's awesome.

This way, you're not living a double life. You're being genuine. You're living as one person, who struggles with sin, but is being redeemed through the grace of God. This isn't to say it won't be easy to break the habits, but you WILL, with God's help.

And that brings me to my second point, rebuke Satan. He likes that you're stressed out, and wants to keep you that way. If you are not filled with the Holy Spirit, ask God to fill you. You'll be filled with God's authority to rebuke the enemy from your life. Rebuke the enemy! Don't let that sucker push you around. You can overcome those addictions little by little and eventually be free of them altogether!

 

[DragnGT]

You'll be most successful if you have someone to share your concerns with other than an online forum. We can give you anonymous advice but ultimately you'll be the one making the decisions.

When I had these issues I put them on the table with my GF and also my closest friend to help keep me in check.

And if you still give in... you get back up and try again. You can't give up after a failed attempt.