Friendships

[ReformedChapin]

In my early years I have always had a hard time making friends, I don't know why. I always had a hard time bonding with people and being close with them. Many summers even through hs I would spend them alone and that lead me to feel extremely depressed. Nothing seems to make me more depressed than being alone, and its something that I still struggle with. I can't seem to bond with anyone, even now in college I still feel alone even if I do have some so called "freinds", which I can't depend on at all. This as also made me be extremely dependant on my gf (well shes my ex now) but we're still talking on working things out. I don't want to end things with her because of the fear of my lonelyness. I wish there was something I could do to beat this and bond with some great christians out there. There isn't many christians in my church my age, most of them are eighter very young or very old so its hard to find someone to hang out with. I know I should probably join a club or something, but I just don't know what. Some advice would be greatly appreaciated.

 

[themessage88]

Hey NewGuy101,

I do not know how much you know about Jesus. However, He loves you on a deep level that is beyond your understanding. You need to know (if you don't already) that you (like the rest of the world) are a sinner. No one is righteous on their own before God. However, God loved the world enough to sacrifice his eternal Son Jesus to take the punishment for your sin so that you could have a relationship with Jesus that glorifies him and leads others to him. I pray that you would know when you trust Jesus and give him your life you do not have to worry about being alone. God offers intimacy and friendship that no one else can. Reach out to Jesus and trust him. He is willing to take care of you. He says "Come all you who are weary and burdened, take my yoke upon you and I will give you rest". Joshua 1:9 says "Don't ever be afraid or discouraged because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

God Bless You Man!
Feel free to PM me if you need to. I'm here to talk.
In Christ,
Themessage88

 

[ReformedChapin]

Hey NewGuy101,

I do not know how much you know about Jesus. However, He loves you on a deep level that is beyond your understanding. You need to know (if you don't already) that you (like the rest of the world) are a sinner. No one is righteous on their own before God. However, God loved the world enough to sacrifice his eternal Son Jesus to take the punishment for your sin so that you could have a relationship with Jesus that glorifies him and leads others to him. I pray that you would know when you trust Jesus and give him your life you do not have to worry about being alone. God offers intimacy and friendship that no one else can. Reach out to Jesus and trust him. He is willing to take care of you. He says "Come all you who are weary and burdened, take my yoke upon you and I will give you rest". Joshua 1:9 says "Don't ever be afraid or discouraged because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

God Bless You Man!
Feel free to PM me if you need to. I'm here to talk.
In Christ,
Themessage88

Thanks (in a none sarcastic way if it at all it sounds that way), But I am aware of this. The problem is that even if Christ does love me and is there for me, I need to do more with my life than be in a room all day and do nothing and be depressed. Something needs to happen with my life, but I don't know what. I want to have a more normal life like hang out with freinds and have diffrent conversations helping people but I don't know how. Thanks...anyone else with advice would be great.

 

[mikeforjesus]

I feel the same way alot of the time.. things WILL get better in time .. if u follow the guidance of God about this in prayer and the advice that will be given here.
There is a season for everything.. there is a season of deep loneliness so we can TRULY appreciate great fellowship when it comes.

 

[soyness]

have you considered finding a local church? that is a good place to meet people.

 

[ReformedChapin]

have you considered finding a local church? that is a good place to meet people.

I am in a local church and like I said already they're eigther too young or too old...besides I think I drive people away from some reason.

 

[ryanbluestar]

dude, i know exactly how you feel. i have the same problem. whenever you get bored or depressed, i want you to sit down and write an email to me. nayr_yhprum@yahoo.com. i promise i'll respond. the Bible says that man is not meant to be alone, and though we don't know each other. i'll be there for you. it's my prayer you'll find companionship.

 

[Hidden face_Hurting heart]

Hey! I totally know how you feel as well. I'm in a local church, as well as a community musical theater class run by the college, and I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances, but definitely no one at all to talk to. As I'm in the same place right now, I'm not really sure what advice I could offer you. Maybe try to find a college Bible study? I really don't know. What helps me the most is the online friendships I have. Sad as it is, my friendships online are much more deep and meaningful than any relationships I have in person. I realize "nothing can take the place of real life" as I've been told many, many times, but it's a great alternative for me. I know you'll find some great friends here at CF, and if you ever want to send me a message, please do .

 

[ReformedChapin]

dude, i know exactly how you feel. i have the same problem. whenever you get bored or depressed, i want you to sit down and write an email to me. nayr_yhprum@yahoo.com. i promise i'll respond. the Bible says that man is not meant to be alone, and though we don't know each other. i'll be there for you. it's my prayer you'll find companionship.

Thanks a lot bro, I will

 

[ReformedChapin]

Hey! I totally know how you feel as well. I'm in a local church, as well as a community musical theater class run by the college, and I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances, but definitely no one at all to talk to. As I'm in the same place right now, I'm not really sure what advice I could offer you. Maybe try to find a college Bible study? I really don't know. What helps me the most is the online friendships I have. Sad as it is, my friendships online are much more deep and meaningful than any relationships I have in person. I realize "nothing can take the place of real life" as I've been told many, many times, but it's a great alternative for me. I know you'll find some great friends here at CF, and if you ever want to send me a message, please do .

The college bible meets in times when I'm busy and I can't even bond with people online, its so weird. There has to be something I can do.

 

[thenewageriseth]

In my early years I have always had a hard time making friends, I don't know why. I always had a hard time bonding with people and being close with them. Many summers even through hs I would spend them alone and that lead me to feel extremely depressed. Nothing seems to make me more depressed than being alone, and its something that I still struggle with. I can't seem to bond with anyone, even now in college I still feel alone even if I do have some so called "freinds", which I can't depend on at all. This as also made me be extremely dependant on my gf (well shes my ex now) but we're still talking on working things out. I don't want to end things with her because of the fear of my lonelyness. I wish there was something I could do to beat this and bond with some great christians out there. There isn't many christians in my church my age, most of them are eighter very young or very old so its hard to find someone to hang out with. I know I should probably join a club or something, but I just don't know what. Some advice would be greatly appreaciated.

New Guy 101, as much as people liked me in HS, I really didn't have best friends, per se, they would be acquaintances, associates, and I said that everyone was my friend, but well...I had a crush on a boy and everyone knew it somehow, and it made him kinda dislike me. When I was alone I really did not have anyone to lean on, when it really hit me...that he disliked me, so I was really depressed...I felt that no boy would like me because I was so obsessive and still I kinda am...and I want so badly to join a club. i had wanted to join the Girl Scouts but my parents would not let me...I had wanted to go to Camp, and they wouldn't let me do that either, plus my mom had to know the people I was visiting, otherwise I would not be able to go to their houses. So I know how you feel.

Hey! I totally know how you feel as well. I'm in a local church, as well as a community musical theater class run by the college, and I don't have any friends. I have acquaintances, but definitely no one at all to talk to. As I'm in the same place right now, I'm not really sure what advice I could offer you. Maybe try to find a college Bible study? I really don't know. What helps me the most is the online friendships I have. Sad as it is, my friendships online are much more deep and meaningful than any relationships I have in person. I realize "nothing can take the place of real life" as I've been told many, many times, but it's a great alternative for me. I know you'll find some great friends here at CF, and if you ever want to send me a message, please do .

To your quote, Hannah...Yes you are right. I've met lots of people at Christian Forums and on another site...but CF rules over the other site, because the other site, alienates me, because they "preach" the idea that everyone should date...and I can't or don't want to do that...I think Fantasy should take the place of Real Life...at least it does...in my head..LoL

 

[Madman]

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