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Living4Him03
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I don't want to discourage you, but sometimes people do mislead us and lead us on. It's easy to get strug along sometimes if you are a very giving and generous person. I would say pray about this and just give it up to God. Don't continue to get closer and closer to her if she will not be up front with you about how she feels. If she leads you on and isn't clear about what she wants, you don't need that. She's not worth your time. I've had guys become such good friends with me, act sooo interested, send emails and etc. but then later I would find out they were waiting to see if another girl liked them or something and were stringing me along. I'm not saying that is the case here, but it could be, so try and guard your heart.
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That really is possible.Jesaiah said:I don't think that she is purposefully trying to lead me on....she has never had a boyfriend before so this area might not be too comfortable for her. Then again she might be playing me for all I'm worth!I just don't want to end up being a sucker and hoping in something that will never happen because it can be very discouraging...
When I was in college I had never dated and I was really shy.
I got along with one guy in particular.
I liked him but it never occurred to me HOW much he liked me.
I had NO idea - many years later one of his dorm mates told me the turmoil I caused him.
I was focussed on college and getting out of my shell some.
I truly valued our friendship.
I realize now I was niave about relationships back then.
I truly did not know the signs to know he REALLY liked me.
Sometimes you need to just tell someone.
If I had known would I have RUN SCREAMING. Maybe.
Just because it was not something I was ready for.
Or could have concieved.
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Living4Him03
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Wow Caitlin your story reminded me of myself. There was a guy from my dorm that was thinking of asking me out and I had no clue. For whatever reason, as great of a guy as he was I guess I didn't notice him! I mean everyone made such a big deal of him that I didn't think much of it, I just thought why would he like me when he had so many girls to choose from. I thought he was cute but I wasn't too worried about it and had no idea he liked me and he had no idea I thought he was cute and all. I agree, sometimes you do need to just tell someone or ask. I should have asked this guy if he was interested or what was going on, but I never did. Some of us are just naive about these things and some of us are REALLY dense when it comes to figuring out a guy likes us. She may have no idea how you feel about her.
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Heres the way i would approach it.
She knows how you feel,,so drop hints in the conversation that you're seeing other people. But, make sure you don't rub her face in it at all, and don't make it sound like you are serious about this other person.
She has gotten comfortable with you man,,you might as well have a dress on and be her girlfriend. (no offense implied at all) That might be how she sees you. Even if you aren't dating anyone, let her know you're hanging out with other girls. They might even be friends. Be a little mysterious. Just leave out details. Instead of saying, i'm meeting my ugly friend Emily at the coffee shop..... Say, you're meeting a girl for coffee after class to chat, we have great conversation. You get the idea.
I do this and it works. Women want to date the hot commodity wether they can admit that or not,,,plus even the most moral and good girls love a good chase. The good news is that even if she thinks of you as a friend,,she may still be possesive with you and your time. Bringing other girls into the picture will make her compete for your time. Thats a good thing.
She knows how you feel,,so drop hints in the conversation that you're seeing other people. But, make sure you don't rub her face in it at all, and don't make it sound like you are serious about this other person.
She has gotten comfortable with you man,,you might as well have a dress on and be her girlfriend. (no offense implied at all) That might be how she sees you. Even if you aren't dating anyone, let her know you're hanging out with other girls. They might even be friends. Be a little mysterious. Just leave out details. Instead of saying, i'm meeting my ugly friend Emily at the coffee shop..... Say, you're meeting a girl for coffee after class to chat, we have great conversation. You get the idea.
I do this and it works. Women want to date the hot commodity wether they can admit that or not,,,plus even the most moral and good girls love a good chase. The good news is that even if she thinks of you as a friend,,she may still be possesive with you and your time. Bringing other girls into the picture will make her compete for your time. Thats a good thing.
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Living4Him03
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no tuffguy that just turns us off even more, because then we'll think you're a jerk. Don't do that.
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I think your friend just doesn't want to be distracted while she's in college. Probably she wants to focus on school, make good grades, and get that degree. We all know that relationships can affect school and if a person values education he/she will try to get away from any distractions. She probably adores you, but she gives importance to education. Also, she's probably waiting upon the Lord. She probably doesn't want to just date, but to date with the intentions of marriage. I really don't know what's the deal, but here's what i think based on my own way of thinking and purpose. Just pray to God and ask for His guidance.
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Krazy_4given_1
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As you can see, there are many ways you can go about this, and I just wanted to give my insight on what I 'think' you should do....
She may not be completely 'turning you away'. She may just be shy, or focused on school (like said in previous replies.). You said she was unexperienced in this 'dating' world, so if you truly feel she is worth waiting for, then wait for her. If you have doubts, then maybe you should bring it to a casual friendship and see how things play out there. All and all, you will have a friend no matter what!
Try talking to her upfront about this, tell her you are confused and not sure what her signals mean, if she is truly interested in more of a relationship or truly just wants to be friends, all she might need is another chance to tell you how she feels. She may have had time to think about what you mean to her!
I wish you the best of luck, and hope everything works out as God see's it fit!
cya round,
-kate-
She may not be completely 'turning you away'. She may just be shy, or focused on school (like said in previous replies.). You said she was unexperienced in this 'dating' world, so if you truly feel she is worth waiting for, then wait for her. If you have doubts, then maybe you should bring it to a casual friendship and see how things play out there. All and all, you will have a friend no matter what!
Try talking to her upfront about this, tell her you are confused and not sure what her signals mean, if she is truly interested in more of a relationship or truly just wants to be friends, all she might need is another chance to tell you how she feels. She may have had time to think about what you mean to her!
I wish you the best of luck, and hope everything works out as God see's it fit!
cya round,
-kate-
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