@chriscomplex Hi

I am Bill
I agree that Christians do not need to only or mainly be fighting and attacking non-Christians and each other.
"For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?" (1 Peter 4:17)
To me, this means that whoever is really right gets judged
"first". So, in case I am the one who is right, I need to first seek how God evaluates me. And seek Him for His correction > Hebrews 12:4-11 < and then be His example >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
And this includes being an example of how God is correcting me.
So, if I see people making a project of criticizing others, I notice if they are at least as thorough to point out how they themselves are wrong, and I notice if they are at least as careful to make us wise to how they themselves can try to fool people. And in case someone does not make an equal project of showing how he or she can be wrong and deceptive, I don't buy that person; but I might pay attention to what he or she says, for however I might benefit from that.
And I note how certain people can criticize how certain people claim to be Christian but they criticize and fight each other, but those criticizing the not really Christian people can also not make sure we know how they themselves can be wrong and deceptive.
And I can be like this. I can be very swift first to point at someone else, and not first respond with prayerful compassion >
"He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 5:2)
It is a clever self-trick how certain people can find the ones who are not being Christian, then claim that those wrong ones represent Christianity. Those looking to criticize can find others who are criticizing, but they do not detect and appreciate the ones who are really gentle and humble Jesus people; this way, they can keep their attention elsewhere to excuses.
But the disciples with Jesus were into looking down on others, but Jesus did not give up on them

And His example is required of us