Friend Troubles

[Wallabee]

I'm in high school and have 2 best friends that I sit with / eat with ect. Lately I've realized that these are my only friends and everyone else is really just an acquaintance, friendly hello's ect.

So recently my two best friends have suddenly started becoming real close, and leaving me feeling like a second or last choice. I use to be real close with one of these friends - as we had known each other before, for a long time. I was always the first choice (sounds bad I know), never the outsider tagging along. I'm feeling really depressed about this, because I'm trapped. I have no other friends I can go sit with instead, as it would be weird and awkward. This is because everyone is at the stage where they are all in their own 'cliques' and know each other really well.

I'm the biggest third wheel at the moment, they always run off together out of class - leaving me to run to catch up. I hate doing that. I hate this feeling, and having to 'run after them' physically and mentally. And I hate feeling like a loser. It sucks having only 3 people in a group, as one always gets left out. And it seems like I have become that one person.

So advice would be very much welcomed - as I feel like I have no where to go, I still have 2 more years left with these people. Thank you everyone!

 

[Liberal Angel]

im sorry ur going through this I am 24 and don't have a single friend in the world. it sounds like you are still young, so there might be a chance that you will change and things will get better for you. otherwise sometimes we just have to accept our lot in life but don't worry, cuz heaven will be really awesome, you will have tons of friends that care about you and you won't have to try to catch up to them cuz they will be waiting for you.

 

[harpist41]

Are there any groups at school or outside that you can join? Is there anything you're interested in that you'd like to know more about that you could explore? Sometimes, when we get out and try something new, we meet new people and make new friends. I recently moved to a new city (again) and it's been hard but I found that when I made the first move and joined things, I made friends. It may not happen overnight, but please don't wait for your two friends to notice you. Get out there and make your own life. It's really hard, I know, but trust me, it's worth it. You sound like an intelligent articulate person with lots to offer. Don't be frightened to let your light shine.

 

[Krissy Cakes]

I am 22 but I know what your going through as I have been there and it does suck. I would try and talk to them but if you can't maybe try and see about making some new friends? Might be fun? I don't know? I wasn't the "cool" girl. I didn't have many friends. I mainly sat by myself or ate with the teacher. lol {yes I was the teachers pet} .

Hope that helped.

I'm praying for you.

 

[turkle]

I'm in high school and have 2 best friends that I sit with / eat with ect. Lately I've realized that these are my only friends and everyone else is really just an acquaintance, friendly hello's ect.

So recently my two best friends have suddenly started becoming real close, and leaving me feeling like a second or last choice. I use to be real close with one of these friends - as we had known each other before, for a long time. I was always the first choice (sounds bad I know), never the outsider tagging along. I'm feeling really depressed about this, because I'm trapped. I have no other friends I can go sit with instead, as it would be weird and awkward. This is because everyone is at the stage where they are all in their own 'cliques' and know each other really well.

I'm the biggest third wheel at the moment, they always run off together out of class - leaving me to run to catch up. I hate doing that. I hate this feeling, and having to 'run after them' physically and mentally. And I hate feeling like a loser. It sucks having only 3 people in a group, as one always gets left out. And it seems like I have become that one person.

So advice would be very much welcomed - as I feel like I have no where to go, I still have 2 more years left with these people. Thank you everyone!

God uses difficulty to teach us compassion. It sounds like for a time, you felt like the popular one, and enjoyed the favor of one of your friends. Now, you are learning what it feels like to be left out. The takeaway from this is that you can now learn compassion and always be inclusive with all friends because you now know what it feels like to be left out.

Take this as a lesson learned the hard way, and allow the Lord to grow you spiritually, maturing you to become a good, mature friend.

 

[Liberal Angel]

 

[Wallabee]

God uses difficulty to teach us compassion. It sounds like for a time, you felt like the popular one, and enjoyed the favor of one of your friends. Now, you are learning what it feels like to be left out. The takeaway from this is that you can now learn compassion and always be inclusive with all friends because you now know what it feels like to be left out.

Take this as a lesson learned the hard way, and allow the Lord to grow you spiritually, maturing you to become a good, mature friend.

Thank you all for your advice, It's very hard as I don't have any other friends - and don't know how to make any more.

Turkle thanks, but I don't think God is punishing me - as I am one of the nicest people you could meet. If he could do that anyway...why would he waste it on me - and not use it for good, e.g. help poverty, feed starving people.

Thank you all, I appreciate it.

 

[Liberal Angel]

Thank you all for your advice, It's very hard as I don't have any other friends - and don't know how to make any more.

Turkle thanks, but I don't think God is punishing me - as I am one of the nicest people you could meet. If he could do that anyway...why would he waste it on me - and not use it for good, e.g. help poverty, feed starving people.

Thank you all, I appreciate it.

I agree with you wallabee. Don't mind turkle, she doesn't have much sense for compassion, and I believe that depressed people need a lot of compassion, yet she manages to make an appearance sporadically and say something harsh to someone.

You guys remember when she told lady bug that she needs to "get a job and move out"?

 

[turkle]

Thank you all for your advice, It's very hard as I don't have any other friends - and don't know how to make any more.

Turkle thanks, but I don't think God is punishing me - as I am one of the nicest people you could meet. If he could do that anyway...why would he waste it on me - and not use it for good, e.g. help poverty, feed starving people.

Thank you all, I appreciate it.

I agree with you..I don't think God is punishing you at all. What I am saying is that it's good to know both sides of the coin, so that we can be compassionate to and understanding of those less fortunate. These are the kinds of experiences that grow us and mature us so that we can care for those in less fortunate positions. That's how He uses it for good.

I think it might be helpful to talk to your friends and tell them how you are feeling. They might not even be aware that they are hurting you. Expressing yourself honestly will go a long way to improve the relationship if they are simply missing it. And, if not, it's your opportunity to start new friendships.

My point is that this can turn into a very positive experience for you. I hope it goes well for you.

 

[Gailerina]

Being in school these days are a lot harder for people. I would suggest finding more friends, but because you want to ditch your old friends, but because having different friends can be a good thing.