friend in recovery

[archer75]

I have a fairly new friend. Reliable, good person. Alcoholic. Never seen her drunk. She has been sober since before we met.

What can I do or learn to support her, to be ready if...whatever happens?

 

[Monk Brendan]

I have a fairly new friend. Reliable, good person. Alcoholic. Never seen her drunk. She has been sober since before we met.

What can I do or learn to support her, to be ready if...whatever happens?

Did she just up and tell you she was alcoholic?

 

[archer75]

Did she just up and tell you she was alcoholic?

Yes.

 

[Monk Brendan]

Yes.

Is she going to AA?

That's about all you can encourage your friend to do.

 

[archer75]

Is she going to AA?

Yeah.

 

[carp614]

I think the best thing you can do to encourage someone trying to recover is to be interested and occasionally see how they are doing with it.

I say occasionally because I certainly don't want to have frequent public discourse with my friends about the state of my sobriety. But I count it as a kindness when those people who know about it periodically check on me with a simple "how's it going" kind of thing.

 

[St Sebastian]

Be there for her, listen to her, don't be judgmental. They say addictions are most of the times rooted in lack of true connections. Encourage her and let her see that she is a valuable person.

 

[joshua 1 9]

What can I do or learn to support her, to be ready if...whatever happens?

In a situation like that God gives me visions involving the person and I just talk to them about that. I figure that is an area He is wanting to heal them in.

 

[AllDayFaith]

You can read the AA book yourself and when she needs help, quote that book. I know some people who say the anonymous material was inspired by the book of Matthew.

 

[YCGP]

You can help her find a vision for life and fine-tune that vision. Help her create a compelling future and hold her accountable for achieving that vision. This will be the best way for her to remain sober and keep moving forward.