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forgot his name

vibrant

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i've decided to renew an acquaintance with a someone, but since i haven't spoken to him in depth or thought about him in over a year, i can't seem to remember his name. i admitted to him that i forgot his number, so it seemed both awkward and rude to then admit the name issues: "do i still have your number? um, no. i don't even remember your name"

i know of people who go without addressing their friends by their names, even forgetting their names sometimes, and it's worked for us during the past since pleasantries don't need it. but i promised to call.

if he doesn't answer, i'll have to ask for him, and even if he does, i'll have to confirm it's him, so either way, i'll need a name or it'll be awkward. imagine someone calling you and asking to speak to "that guy" or "whatshisface", saying that "she couldn't remember his name, but he asked her to call him" ... doesn't send the right message.

so i'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions about what i should say or do.

:help: :sorry:

(i just noticed that it'll be awkward at any rate so i might as well as have said something in the first place)
 

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Just be honest and tell him you forgot his name. It shouldn't be a barrier from you calling him and possibly preventing a friendship. I'm terrible with names also, so your not the only one.

On the other hand, when you call just start talking about something right away, if its not him then sooner or later his roomie will as "who is this?" Insert your name and then the response will come and he'll say "Oh, your trying to speak to so-and-so." This would possibly work if he has one roommate.
 
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vibrant

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lol. some ingenious responses.

right now i'm leaning just asking for him with the best name i can come up with. blake is probably right, in the sense that they'll realize who i want and correct me; or, they'll tell me that i have the wrong number, which just means i'll explain my dilemma, if they haven't hung up already. whichever way it goes, i'll have kept my promise to call.
 
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lol, I like shania's answer...and if they have one of those extremely easy names to spell...like Mark or something...just say you know people from hickville states who spell out of wack and you weren't sure if it was spelled Marke or something. lol.
 
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vibrant said:
well, when i asked for his number, i actually gave him the writing tools, hoping that he'd put his name along with his number. he didn't. you're right, shania. a "and how do you spell your name again" would've gotten the job done.


Naturally, of course, he didn't put his name. It was conspiracy :D
 
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shania said:
Someone told me a great tip if you forget someone's name. When you talk to them or ask for their phone number just ask, How do you spell your name?
If you see him again, you could ask for his phone number again, then ask him how he spells him name so you'll know it.
Just because I like to laugh at people, I hope his name is Sam.
 
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