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Good Morning Calene,
God knows your heart, and wraps His mighty Hands around you.
If you are unable to forgive right now, God knows. It is not up to anyone but you and God.
Forgiveness is not saying what happened to you is OK, but it is surrendering it over to God. Holding on to it really hurts only you and continues to give the person/persons the power, they probably don't even think about it them self. Finding the healthy way to let it go can sometimes be difficult, by asking God to show you or to bring people into your life to show you how. Healing will then begin.
It is a journey and a process, and first most knowing what happened to you was no way your fault. I am praying for you.
God knows your heart, and wraps His mighty Hands around you.
If you are unable to forgive right now, God knows. It is not up to anyone but you and God.
Forgiveness is not saying what happened to you is OK, but it is surrendering it over to God. Holding on to it really hurts only you and continues to give the person/persons the power, they probably don't even think about it them self. Finding the healthy way to let it go can sometimes be difficult, by asking God to show you or to bring people into your life to show you how. Healing will then begin.
It is a journey and a process, and first most knowing what happened to you was no way your fault. I am praying for you.
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HOW TO FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS.
Follow the instructions of Jesus. *Sometimes you not only have to forgive the person but also the situation where it happened. Not saying that the situation was right, but just to forgive the whole circumstance that caused you the pain.*
1. Depend on the holy spirit. "Father God I can not forgive this person or this situation without your help. Please help me holy spirit to forgive this person/situation.
2. Pray for them. Heavenly Father, I pray that you bless and guide this person. I pray that you increase them in every area of their lives and may they receive your favor and blessings everywhere they go. I pray for increased happiness and greatness for them. Father please help them in every and in any way ect...
3. Bless them. Father God, although they may have hurt me I know that they are a good person. I know that they are your child. They are righteous, good, and a great child of God. ect...
4. Do something good. Father God, put me in a position to do them right and good.
5. Release. Father, help me to release all anger, bitterness, pain, resentment, abuse, hurt and negativity that I may have towards this person. Help me to release any pay back, vengeance, and strife that I may have towards this person.
6. Forgive. Father God, help me to forgive this person. Help me to not think about it, talk about it, bring it up, reminisces on it and or go back on it but help me to drop it from my mind, heart, body, and soul.
7. Give them another chance. Father God, help me to keep the door of love and forgiveness in my heart open to them. Help me to give them another chance. Help me to not block them and lock them out, and lastly help to not formulate any memory or any memories of the offense or the offenses inside of my heart my soul my body and mind.
8. Give it to God. Lord, I give this offense to you. Help me to surrender it from my heart, soul, body and mind. I can not take care of this, but you promised that if I give it to you you will give me happiness, goodness, and blessings for the pain in my life. Help to to surrender it to you father from my mind body and soul. Help me to walk away from the offense in my mind body heart and soul. Thank you father, amen.
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. Eccles - 12:13
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Follow the instructions of Jesus. *Sometimes you not only have to forgive the person but also the situation where it happened. Not saying that the situation was right, but just to forgive the whole circumstance that caused you the pain.*
1. Depend on the holy spirit. "Father God I can not forgive this person or this situation without your help. Please help me holy spirit to forgive this person/situation.
2. Pray for them. Heavenly Father, I pray that you bless and guide this person. I pray that you increase them in every area of their lives and may they receive your favor and blessings everywhere they go. I pray for increased happiness and greatness for them. Father please help them in every and in any way ect...
3. Bless them. Father God, although they may have hurt me I know that they are a good person. I know that they are your child. They are righteous, good, and a great child of God. ect...
4. Do something good. Father God, put me in a position to do them right and good.
5. Release. Father, help me to release all anger, bitterness, pain, resentment, abuse, hurt and negativity that I may have towards this person. Help me to release any pay back, vengeance, and strife that I may have towards this person.
6. Forgive. Father God, help me to forgive this person. Help me to not think about it, talk about it, bring it up, reminisces on it and or go back on it but help me to drop it from my mind, heart, body, and soul.
7. Give them another chance. Father God, help me to keep the door of love and forgiveness in my heart open to them. Help me to give them another chance. Help me to not block them and lock them out, and lastly help to not formulate any memory or any memories of the offense or the offenses inside of my heart my soul my body and mind.
8. Give it to God. Lord, I give this offense to you. Help me to surrender it from my heart, soul, body and mind. I can not take care of this, but you promised that if I give it to you you will give me happiness, goodness, and blessings for the pain in my life. Help to to surrender it to you father from my mind body and soul. Help me to walk away from the offense in my mind body heart and soul. Thank you father, amen.
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. Eccles - 12:13
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=E24D1F1632B74FB2
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=96463A7ED7E9CFDC
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I agree with all except #7, I believe safe boundaries are in order here. The understanding of toxic people is needed ( I feel ) before any type of reunification can happen to remain safe. Recovery from sexual assault is a process, and telling someone to give the offender another change can put them in harms way.
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Often forgiveness comes later, after some other issues have been worked through a bit. That gives the strength to really look at forgiveness. God fully understands what you are facing. He isn't going to wipe you off because you aren't up to forgiving right now.
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Carlene, forgiving does not mean forgetting. Nor does it obligate you to open the door again to someone you cannot trust. We can forgive a thief for breaking into our home, but that does not mean we leave the door unlocked and put an engraved invitation up for him to return.
At least, this has been what experts and counsellors usually say. Personally, it presents quite a dilemma though when weighing this otherwise solid, sound advice against the gospel instructions to turn the other cheek and go the second mile. Many of us wrestle with this, so you would not be alone here. Perhaps the most important thing to do would be first to become solid and secure in your awareness of the unchanging and unconditional nature of God's love for YOU, no matter what, and work your way forward from there. Because if that particular issue ends up "changing" for us (in our minds) depending on what WE do, then none of us can ever hope to get very far, because none of us can keep ourselves from messing up, getting confused, or getting things wrong sometimes.
Peace to your spirit.
At least, this has been what experts and counsellors usually say. Personally, it presents quite a dilemma though when weighing this otherwise solid, sound advice against the gospel instructions to turn the other cheek and go the second mile. Many of us wrestle with this, so you would not be alone here. Perhaps the most important thing to do would be first to become solid and secure in your awareness of the unchanging and unconditional nature of God's love for YOU, no matter what, and work your way forward from there. Because if that particular issue ends up "changing" for us (in our minds) depending on what WE do, then none of us can ever hope to get very far, because none of us can keep ourselves from messing up, getting confused, or getting things wrong sometimes.
Peace to your spirit.
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Do I have to forgive them?
Will God punish me if I don't?
You have had a lot of good advice here. I can't really add to what has been said. I just wanted to re-emphasise, though, that God loves you, He is not trying to find things to punish you for.
Forgiveness is more to help us than those who have hurt us, I think... it's just a case of learning to let go of the anger and bitterness... because they make us feel bad. It isn't something that happens overnight, and it isn't something we can force, I don't think.
Praying for you, sweetie.
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Carlene there are two types of forgiveness. Both involve God's healing.
The first kind is what you do by God's grace. It is where you no longer say to God, do you see what they did to me, but You make the decision to ask God to help you forgive them and then you can. You are finally able to pray for them, not about them now. You are the primary one healed here.
The second kind is one where you do all of the first, but you also because you feel safe with that person and they have repented and asked for forgiveness and want to reconcile with you; you do and you work on the relationship.
My older male sibling won't admit to anything, and has not repented so number 1 is all we can get to. I doubt we will ever be brothers, and though I am a bit sad about it, accept it. Truth be told, I'm actually quite okay with it. I don't like him, nor do I trust him. Trust would come very hard. So too, would a relationship.
The first kind is what you do by God's grace. It is where you no longer say to God, do you see what they did to me, but You make the decision to ask God to help you forgive them and then you can. You are finally able to pray for them, not about them now. You are the primary one healed here.
The second kind is one where you do all of the first, but you also because you feel safe with that person and they have repented and asked for forgiveness and want to reconcile with you; you do and you work on the relationship.
My older male sibling won't admit to anything, and has not repented so number 1 is all we can get to. I doubt we will ever be brothers, and though I am a bit sad about it, accept it. Truth be told, I'm actually quite okay with it. I don't like him, nor do I trust him. Trust would come very hard. So too, would a relationship.
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