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"Forcing a Teenager to have an Abortion"

EvolvEarth

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I'm not against abortion, however, I did find this article a good read and I recommend it to everyone.

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http://www.religioustolerance.org/abo_ess1.htm

Ten years ago this March, I became pregnant. Only 14 years old. My 15 year old boyfriend and I had only had sex three times when I got pregnant. I was very scared and did not know what to do. I must have been about 7 or 8 weeks pregnant. I was young and very naive. I thought everything would be all right. He told me he would take care of me. "We will get married." He had already given me a promise ring.

I was very nervous about telling my parents. My mother and father were divorced. My mother abandoned us every chance she could to marry number three of the five husbands she has had. I saw my father every other weekend. On which, the only words that were spoken were, "You are in the way of the TV."

My mother was getting ready for a date, when I walked in the bathroom. She knew before I could even get the words out. She slapped me across the face. All she could say were words like, "How could you do this to me?" "You are having an abortion" "I'm not raising that baby!" "I will throw you out on the streets before I let you have that baby." She also told me, because I was so young, I could not physically have the baby. "It would kill me." She made me promise not to tell anyone.

My mother and father drove me to my boyfriend's house to have a 'meeting.' My parents took him in one room, and his parents took me in another. His mother held me tight and said, "We'll help you." I could only imagine what my parents were telling my boyfriend. No one ever asked me what I wanted. I wanted my baby! I loved my baby!

That was the last time I spoke to my boyfriend or his parents again. Two miserable weeks later my mother drove me two hours away to have an abortion. I cried the whole way. My mother never spoke a word. The doctor asked me, "Do you really want to do this?" Wanting so much to scream NO!! All I could say, with tears running down my face was, "I have to."

Several suicide attempts, two mental hospitals, and six therapists later, I still cannot say the word 'ABORTION' out loud.

Five years ago I was diagnosed with ovarian tumors and endometriosis. I was told I could never have children. I thought God was punishing me for my horrible sin. I realized that God has forgiven me. I am working on forgiving myself.

My husband and I just had our second child together. A healthy little boy. I have a three year old beautiful girl. My family is complete. I am happy now, but I think about that baby everyday. I wish I could have done things differently. I wish I would have stood up for my baby.

My 'Angel Baby' is remembered in my prayers everyday, as well as all the other babies who weren't given 'a choice.'

Please choose LIFE.

Thank you for allowing me to share my story. Maybe it will help someone. Thank you for having this web site. God Bless.
 
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That's touching. I mean, I am pro choice depending on the circumstance, and I don't think it'd be right to make abortions illegal only because of a few individual cases like that.

Of course, I think people like her parentd should be put in ail and if I were her I'd make every possible attempt, legally, to make them miserable.
 
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Propaganda, used by those who will stoop to any level of manipulation to get their way. Just another effort to guilt trip a pregnant woman.

It plainly states it is an ESSAY and what else-it's COPYWRITED!. Now what does that tell you? It was written for profit.
 
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Lillithspeak said:
Propaganda, used by those who will stoop to any level of manipulation to get their way. Just another effort to guilt trip a pregnant woman.
Pregnant women who have abortions, in most circumstances, should feel guilty. M
 
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Lillithspeak said:
Very judgemental.
If you kill a child, it's safe to say you should feel guilty for it. Still, there is repentance and forgiveness.


"It is a poverty to decide that a child must die, so that you may live as you wish." -- Blessed Mother Theresa of Calcutta
 
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Even if it weren't true do any of you actually believe that situations like that don't occur? Please, it happens every day. A 14 or 15 year old girl is 100% physically capable of having a baby. At 9 or 10 it's a different story. I actually have to say that a 14 year old has no business having sex anyway, but that's a different story. It just goes to show you the emotional reprocussions of choosing abortion. I'm not saying all women who have abortions feel guilt, but even in this case people who are pro-"choice" shouldn't support this because it wasn't the girl's "choice" to abort.

And whoever said that essay was "lame" should be ashamed! Even if it is propaganda surely you're not so daft as to believe this doesn't happen. Surely you know there are countless 13 and 14 year old girls out there who are terrified when their parents take them to an abortion clinic and some doctor tells them to strip naked and they place a vaccuum hose up inside of her sucking out the baby she wanted to have but she had no say in the matter. Simply because her parents were too wrapped up in their own pathetic lives to think of their child or the life she was carrying. All they worry about is being embarassed or inconvenienced. Sad, sad, sad.
 
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Lillithspeak said:
Propaganda, used by those who will stoop to any level of manipulation to get their way. Just another effort to guilt trip a pregnant woman.

It plainly states it is an ESSAY and what else-it's COPYWRITED!. Now what does that tell you? It was written for profit.
Your mindless post shows you are plainly opposed to any opposition that would cause people to do the right thing. It's sad people are so stooped in sin and their hearts are so hard that the life of the unborn child means less to them than fulfilling their own sinful pleasures. It seems you would go to any length to make sure the voice of opposition is not heard.
 
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ok even if it isnt true its you could easily say the opposite in support of choice.
me and my boy friend were so in love! he even said he would marry me. but then i got pregnant, and his parents said they would do anything for me, but that was the last time i ever saw them. the doctors told me i was having complications that could be fatal. my parents told me that an abortion was unreasonable in the eyes of God and that i would go to hell. two weeks later, i died. i never saw my future husband or my loving family ever again. if only i could have had an abortion... choose choice.
 
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I would be willing to assume there are more cases in which a girl could maintain a healthy pregnancy, have a safe childbirth, who wants to have the baby but her parents force her to abort then there are cases of girls who would die in childbirth but their parents refuse to let her have an abortion.
 
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Lillithspeak said:
It plainly states it is an ESSAY and what else-it's COPYWRITED!. Now what does that tell you? It was written for profit.
um copywrited material isnt just for profit....

anyway, who knows if its true. doesn't change my stance on the matter though.
 
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