Michael,
We're all fallen creatures. Some aren't fallen more than others. We're just all FALLEN. We've all had different experiences. We can't pick our families, and some kids are born into abusive or drug-abused or other awful situations. Did God place them there? Did God WANT them to wallow in it? Did God hope for their failure? Nah. Not at all.
Freewill, the big aspect of Catholic and Orthodox thinking, is a key one. We are free agents who can thrive and bless others or we can ruin ourselves and/or others.
You and I have spoken in PM's, so I know some of your struggles (which I would NEVER EVER repeat btw!), but I also know you hunger for God!
The question is this: are you going to come out of this destroyed, burned, mission failed, surrendered, lost, gone......or are you going to come out of this as a testimony to victory in Christ, triumphant, holier, more loving, and proof positive that in God EVERYTHING is possible?
Sylvia is correct that you have A LOT of issues to tackle. Guilt from the past isn't easy, but CAN be overcome! Satan's tool is guilt. The Devil tries his DARNDEST to keep you OUT of the Confessional! Then once you've come out of it, he does his DARNDEST to try to convince you that YOU'RE STILL GUILTY!
Don't buy it.
You DO need to go to AA. And if you fall, you can't keep convincing yourself you'll never beat this addiction.
You need to seek out a priest/pastor and really UNLOAD the guilt you're carrying.
You need to fast right now. A general de-tox is in order!
You need to stop to pray three major times a day.
Look at men like King David! Let me ask you this: have you ever found another man's wife, slept with her, impregnated her, then had the husband killed and eventually the baby was killed by God BECAUSE OF YOU?! That's preeeetty bad! David sunk REALLY low! God utterly and totally forgave him!
Now King Saul did some dumb stuff also! He ignored God on multiple occasions. He offered a sacrifice before going into battle that Samuel was really supposed to offer, he participated in a seance witchcraft ritual, and he disobeyed God by sparing people in battle that he was supposed to put to the sword. God cursed him!
Now you ask, why David is forgiven after doing AWWWWFUL stuff, and King Saul not quite so awful but cursed?
David BEGGED God's mercy, forgiveness, and could acknowledge his complete failure and sin before the Almighty. He was full of disappointment in himself, and he literally got down on the ground in anguish and emptied every bit of his soul to God.
King Saul DID NOT! He sought to control the situation at every turn! He always thought he could keep his hands on the shifter and control his destiny! He was more upset at GETTING CAUGHT than having disobeyed and failed God!
Why do I bring this up? Well, you're not like Job at all! You mentioned Job. I think you're more like David. Job was a totally good man who had EVERYTHING and didn't sin against God. Satan and God wagered that Job would stay strong in the face of losing everything. That doesn't sound like you. You sound like you're carrying baggage like David. You've fallen low.
Now you think the many problems you have are too many and you can't win. Boloney.
Autism, Aspberger's, all of these conditions come from the Fall just as having same-sex attraction, gambling addictions, alcoholism, drug addiction, inappropriate content addiction, intense greed and unhealthy ambition, powerful lust, racism, you name it! You're not a freak or weirdo, you're fallen. Welcome to the human condition, mate!
But what do you do with the fallen state? Christ died, went into Hades, conquered death by death and in the tombs BESTOWS LIFE! Are you going to take his hand? He's reaching out to you! Or you can stay in the pit listening to the evil one convincing you your problems are insurmountable and hopeless.
Look at this icon. Which character do you want to be? Adam, who is accepting Christ's hand, or the bound sinner in the pit?
You have the choice! God gives you free will.
My hunch is you know you can become something special in God. You know, when you heat metal under fire, it can either break or BECOME STRONGER. Which kind of metal are you?
The sacramental life is supernatural. The Eucharist, Confession, they're sacraments! They impart supernatural power that no human can figure out! Then consider the sacramentals, blessed images or holy water, etc. They're powerful weapons.
Are you employing the supernatural elements of the Sacraments WITH the psychological and the necessary healing from AA and counseling and prayer and other things?
We're all pulling for you, Michael.
Chin up, it's LENT! You can do this! You have a couple weeks left. Get up and do like Adam in this icon, brother!
I for one believe in you!
Your brother in Christ,
Gurney