Flirty

[MissJenn23]

I dont know how i do it , and i dont know why i do it , but im a flirt .I cant get a hold of this i feel kinda naughty sometime because im always flirting with guys ..lol Ive always been like this i think just now im more in tune to it .

Sooo question is do we have any other flirts ? Also is it a sin to flirt ? How can a person learn to not do it ?

 

[FaithPrevails]

Flirting when married or with someone who is married isn't good practice. To me, it's disrespectful to one's spouse to flirt when married and it's disrespectful to another's spouse if you flirt with a married person.

I'm a very friendly person by nature and laugh/joke around and chit chat with members of the opposite sex, but I have a firm boundary about not saying anything that could be misconstrued as flirtation or have a sexual connotation to it.

 

[Blank123]

i think you have to define flirtiness. To some people just smiling and being friendly=flirting. If other people take that as flirting, there's really not much you can do. Sometimes all people have to see is a pretty and friendly woman and their minds automatically go to "she's flirting!"

If you're constantly complimenting men and making remarks that could easily be taken for come-ons, or touching them constantly then thats something to really be aware of and catch yourself so you can stop. That kind of behaviour isn't exactly respectful for your husband, yourself, or the guy in question.

 

[MissJenn23]

Alot of times i dont even realize i am being this way . Sometimes when i think i am i dont know if i really am ...

I would never intentionaly make a person uncomfortable , and i dont mean to be like it ,,,I dunno

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Like LT said, there needs to first be a definition of what you mean by flirting.

 

[bornagain2011]

I'm guessing you just like the attention?

 

[MissJenn23]

I'm guessing you just like the attention?

Im quessing you have a attuide ?

 

[bornagain2011]

Oh wow no I was being perfectly serious you said you didn't know why you flirted and it seems like the logical answer.

 

[MissJenn23]

Ohhh I'm sorry I mistoke as snide : ) I'm fat so if a fella is sweet I may get more giddy lol

 

[MissJenn23]

Ohhh I'm sorry I mistoke as snide : ) I'm fat so if a fella is sweet I may get more giddy lol

 

[Kitangel]

Well, I guess I'm an overly-friendly kind of girl. My husband is fully aware when I chat to guys - he joins in half the time. I never say anything that could be taken as an invitation for anything other than friendly conversation. If it's just talking, and you're not implying you want anything more, it can't hurt, can it?

 

[MissJenn23]

I think it hurts when boundrys start being crossed . Im realizing thats when it starts to get icky. I think for me its ok to talk to a guy but as soon as they start complmenting im hooked and thats usally toxic for me . It happens alot if i confide in someone about my husbands abbusive nature . They act sweet and flirty then they take it to a level of maniuplation ..idk

 

[MacFall]

Sooo question is do we have any other flirts ?

Yes, quite a few. I'm not one of them, though.

Also is it a sin to flirt ?

Not necessarily, but it can very easily become sin because it tends to be dishonest and affectatious. Not to mention sexual.

How can a person learn to not do it ?

Easy. Flirting is disingenuous, so be genuine. Be yourself. Don't deliberately say and do things in some situations that you wouldn't do in others. You will naturally act differently around people whom you find romantically attractive than around those whom you don't, but do not try to act differently.

And if you do that and people still regard you as a flirt, that's their problem for making wild assumptions.