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Flab and aging
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Globalnomad
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Not so much flab as 40lbs overweight and cellulite. But if I tried losing all that, I certainly would have a lot of flab.
On the upside, I haven't a single white hair (by nature!), I am keeping the first twinges of arthritis at bay, and the impresionistic memory goes with a better intuition and self-confidence in my judgements. And here in Africa, as an older person I am much better respected and listened to.
As for the planning for and looking forward to dying, I'm still working on it.
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I am starting to get grey hair. I saw three the other day. It's been a while since I had a highlight. I'm not so much worried about that as the flabby legs. If taking the stairs wards that off, I'm happy.
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genetics are important... my mom does no exercise but still has her figure. guys think she is my 'hot sister' which i think is a little insulting... to me... she just had a baby and she looks beautiful 
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bunny if your mom is 40 she is a year younger than me. I would hope she still has her figure and her looks. She's got about 10 good years on her left.
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oh...
it is not just her figure, her skin is perfect, her hair isn't gray, she looks like she is in her early twenties and gets carded a lot... but the women in my family do not live long, 45 is pushing it... ovarian cancer... when do women start to have issues about losing their figures?
it is not just her figure, her skin is perfect, her hair isn't gray, she looks like she is in her early twenties and gets carded a lot... but the women in my family do not live long, 45 is pushing it... ovarian cancer... when do women start to have issues about losing their figures?
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My take is basically if I go gray one day, I go gray. Great, I'm officially distinguished. If I go bald, I go bald. I'd rather not, but it's a fact of life. Even if I could afford it, I doubt I'd be one to go in for hair color and hair transplants and the like. And, look, I'm already overweight, so that won't be a tough transition. And my body is in pain every day due to health problems already, and I can't always do the things I'd like to do, so I've already got that part down as well.
One way to look at it is as a stage of life, you get to be young, you get to be middle-aged, you get to be old. One stage might be the best of the bunch to you and one stage might be the worst of the bunch to you, but, hey, you get to experience them all and see what they're like.
Granted, it'd probably be a bit easier for me because I don't have a whole lot of looks to lose and I already have some of the things people associate with getting older (like health problems).
Here's one suggestion:
Don't cut your hair short and if your hair is short, grow it longer. There is nothing that makes a woman look old and sexless like a short hair cut, and nothing that says attractive and viral like long hair. You know, I give that advice to all women, aged 18-118, because I think long hair universally is more attractive on women, but I think it's especially true through middle age and beyond. When someone is young, she may be able to overcome a short hair cut because of a supple body or whatever. When someone is older, though, it's even more important to emphasis her womanly features.
I've seen women with long hair occasionally even as old as in their 50s where I even in my 20s think "I could have sex with that person" or "she's hot". Short hair, people tend to look more manly than they could to begin with, and then to look increasingly manly as they get older and have fewer and fewer other womanly features to off-set their short hair.
The trend of people to hit the age of like 40 and then start cutting their hair short is exactly wrong. Personally, I'd prefer all women had long hair, but when one hits middle age or older is the *worst* possible time from the perspective of maintaining appearance to cut one's hair short if one is female. That's when one begins to need it the most because some of the other stuff is fading away.
A lot of appearance is beyond a woman's control, or requires a lot of work to control, but a choice of having long hair is one almost every woman can make and it doesn't require much effort. It's very egalitarian in that respect. Only those very few women who go bald have no choice in the matter (and there if attractiveness remains important in an individual, hair transplants might be an option) over the long run. Granted, chemotherapy patients also have no choice, but that's a temporary condition (Either you die or your cancer goes into remission and you can grow your hair back).
One way to look at it is as a stage of life, you get to be young, you get to be middle-aged, you get to be old. One stage might be the best of the bunch to you and one stage might be the worst of the bunch to you, but, hey, you get to experience them all and see what they're like.
Granted, it'd probably be a bit easier for me because I don't have a whole lot of looks to lose and I already have some of the things people associate with getting older (like health problems).
Here's one suggestion:
Don't cut your hair short and if your hair is short, grow it longer. There is nothing that makes a woman look old and sexless like a short hair cut, and nothing that says attractive and viral like long hair. You know, I give that advice to all women, aged 18-118, because I think long hair universally is more attractive on women, but I think it's especially true through middle age and beyond. When someone is young, she may be able to overcome a short hair cut because of a supple body or whatever. When someone is older, though, it's even more important to emphasis her womanly features.
I've seen women with long hair occasionally even as old as in their 50s where I even in my 20s think "I could have sex with that person" or "she's hot". Short hair, people tend to look more manly than they could to begin with, and then to look increasingly manly as they get older and have fewer and fewer other womanly features to off-set their short hair.
The trend of people to hit the age of like 40 and then start cutting their hair short is exactly wrong. Personally, I'd prefer all women had long hair, but when one hits middle age or older is the *worst* possible time from the perspective of maintaining appearance to cut one's hair short if one is female. That's when one begins to need it the most because some of the other stuff is fading away.
A lot of appearance is beyond a woman's control, or requires a lot of work to control, but a choice of having long hair is one almost every woman can make and it doesn't require much effort. It's very egalitarian in that respect. Only those very few women who go bald have no choice in the matter (and there if attractiveness remains important in an individual, hair transplants might be an option) over the long run. Granted, chemotherapy patients also have no choice, but that's a temporary condition (Either you die or your cancer goes into remission and you can grow your hair back).
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Anywhere between 20 and 85.
Right about the genetics. My grandmother had a fabulous figure and bikini-worthy legs until she died at 75.... but wrinkles and snow-white hair. My mother is 80 now and still has a decent figure without much flab. I take after the other side of the family, who were vastly overweight (more than me) and diabetic (thank God I am not).
Whatever. How about not worrying about it? Worrying instead about things like wisdom, experience, kindness, building bridges between people, passing on the things you've learnt to the younger generations, etc...?
Right about the genetics. My grandmother had a fabulous figure and bikini-worthy legs until she died at 75.... but wrinkles and snow-white hair. My mother is 80 now and still has a decent figure without much flab. I take after the other side of the family, who were vastly overweight (more than me) and diabetic (thank God I am not).
Whatever. How about not worrying about it? Worrying instead about things like wisdom, experience, kindness, building bridges between people, passing on the things you've learnt to the younger generations, etc...?
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it's not so much the figure as it is the looks that go down the poop can. wrinkles and whatnot. Clean living helps a person stay young.
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Yes it does, but not everybody and not forever. Seriously, try to just deal with it. Think of it this way: does anyone else really care if your thighs are flabby except you? Your husband doesn't, if he loves you and if you otherwise stay sexy (which is a matter of the mind, not of looks).
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MikeK
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Who wants to look young if you aren't living like you're young? Not worth the cost. I'd rather live and look like Kieth Richards than live and look like....ummm..who's a healthy, boring, attractive old person?
Hef still looks pretty good - I doubt that such can be chalked up to clean living though.
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One thing I hate about these fast moving threads is that posts get buried quickly. In other words, someone pay attention to post #30!
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DivineFiliation
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If I let my hair go eu naturale, I'd have a skunk stripe down the middle of my head. I have over 50 gray hairs.
I don't plan on highlighting my hair for the rest of my life, but until others come in and get rid of the stripe I'm going to.
I don't plan on highlighting my hair for the rest of my life, but until others come in and get rid of the stripe I'm going to.
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