Fitting in...

[Megalon]

Hi everyone. I have a problem. It centers around wanting to fit in. Because I feel like I don't fit in anywhere I go, it's hard for me to make friends and I was wondering if anyone else here goes through the same feelings of always feeling rejected by a group of people no matter where you go. I need a little with this dilemma I'm facing. Thanks in advance to anyone that has any info, advice, or prayers.

 

[Dawn Marie]

Hi.

I dunno about advice... I dunno much about anything really... but I do know that you're not alone....

Praying for you.

 

[stumpsitting101]

Hi Magelon: XangelX made a wise statement, you are not alone. I know too well the feeling. I also know the need to be accepted, and how it relates in maintaining a healthy life.
I must ask: Is it rejection or what you preceive as rejection?
If you are not comfortable to answer in the thread, you may PM me.
Ken

 

[WitchBaby]

Maybe you're trying to fit into the wrong groups? Just talk to people, you're bound to find your place sooner or later.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I don't fit in anywhere.
Does anybody?
Look up the lyrics to the song "Message in a Bottle" by The Police.
"Seems I'm not alone at being alone..."
Just be you. Don't sweat the rest.

 

[Blessed-one]

um... i think i can relate a bit with you... but the situation may be different, why can't you fit in? what is the root problem? these are questions that you need to address first. pm me if you wanted to talk.

my piece of advice is: accept yourself (as Cheese said), and pray for God's help in the situation and in changing yourself (again, this depends on what problem you're having).

 

[Knight]

Oh, now that's mature.

Megalon, (cool name BTW)
I think many of us can relate to this. The best advice that I can give is what worked for me. Get involved with something. This can be a church, a club, or some other kind of activity. When you do this talk to the people you're with. Get to know them. You'll be making friends before you know it. Remember, it will take a little effort on your part. You may have to step out of your comfort zone and start conversations with those around you.

Trust me you can do this. I'm living proof.

 

[kimber1]

I agree with everyone else--well except for the pie person . sometimes it takes awhile to find out where we fit in. me, i'm basically a shy person adn sometimes get teh feeling people don't want to put forth the effort to be friends when in a social function. but it's mainly because i just don't make friends easy and don't trust people easily either. Hang in there!!

 

[Phoebe]

Give it time.
Actually, this is a great way to get to know others. By observation. You can be the fly on the wall.
When you figure out who you want to hang around with, get involved.

 

[CeCe]

A lot of us have been there. I admit I don't make friends easily myself because I have trouble trusting people. I tend to look for everyones agenda.
I have to remember that not everyone has one.

I agree with the person who said something about stepping out of your comfort zone. Stepping out in faith.

I don't know if you are familiar with the Clay Crosse song "I Found Myself In You" but there's a line that goes "...never belonged or wanted to, but now I belong forever to You..." We've all felt rejected at one time or another, but remember that for those of us who have felt rejected, we are in good company. The Greatest One Who ever lived was rejected too. And He loves you more than you can imagine.

There are people who do care about you here. I do. And those who have responded, do as well.
Keeping you in my prayers.

 

[KeepTheFaith15]

im always trying to fit in but ive relized this last week that i only have one person i ever need to fit in with and thats My Jesus and wow he's already got that covered! cause he love us just the way we are here a quote from pastor Homer when he taught at our camp,"dont ever settle for a boy, God wants you to have a man, A Man of the WORD not of the WORLD" there you go that says it all, if your of God you dont need the rest of the world

 

[lucypevensie]

I struggle with fitting in sometimes too. It depends on the crowd I'm in. There's a certain group of people that I am very comfortable with and have no problem speaking up and being sociable. If I get outside that group it gets much more challenging and sometimes very lonely.
So no, you're not alone!

 

[KeepTheFaith15]

Its all about your confort zones guys and you gotta get out of the confort zone, stretch your limits and the limits are endless so many possibilitys out of the group you think you cant fit in with you may find a best friend but you'll never know till you try.