First timers

[llghoney]

I know there are a few first time moms to be here & was seeing if maybe some of the gals that have had experience can give pre-birth jitter advice. Latley I'm kinda freaking out but still trying to think everything will be ok. It's like I will say, I don't have this or that yet or I'm not prepared enough. Self doubt I think is trying to sink in. And I'm telling her to hold off until the first of Aug. at least before she arrives I guess because I feel her soooo much now & think gosh hope she is ok in there. This may be hormones for all I know but I have these thoughts & feelings & just need reassurance I guess.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

Hehe you can never be prepared enough but at the same time we don't need to be prepared as much as we think. Parenting is something that you grow into and not something that you can qualify for before your child gets here. It's a constant learning experience and half the fun of parenting is the learning

 

[sparassidae]

Don't worry, it's normal to have those sort of jitters. I remember the first time I was so focussed on the birth that I kind of forgot about afterwards . We came home from hospital and I looked at DH and said "what now?".

It's also a bit funny that while pregnant there is the "I hope he/she is okay, at least when baby is born I can see him/her breathe etc" but then after the baby is born you realise how protected they really were in utero and spend the rest of your life worrying about poisons, pests, illness, accidents, bullies, etc etc.

 

[Hadassah]

Hehe you can never be prepared enough but at the same time we don't need to be prepared as much as we think. Parenting is something that you grow into and not something that you can qualify for before your child gets here. It's a constant learning experience and half the fun of parenting is the learning

This is the advice of all of my "parenting" relatives.

They say when you find out you are pregnant, that it is then "parents are born"... but my personal feeling is that yes while this happens, it happens moreso in/during/after labor and delivery. Something just totally changes and the mama/daddy-bear come out more than in pregnancy.

Last night I felt a little panicy when the contractions got really close, but I realized, you know.. he has GOT to come out... and at this point I will be grateful when he is here... It's time he moved out of "comfy-play-land" and all of it's "world of wonders" and "toys" so he can meet the real world.

As everyone has said time and time again, "You can do this, your body is made to do this, G-d will see you through".
And ... "Patience never WAS one of your virtues was it..? "

 

[~Nikki~]

I got really nervous last night after I watched some births on a DVD my midwife gave me.

I was like "there's no way *that* (the head) is fitting out of *there*!" Lol! But it's too late...gotta come out sooner or later.

I'm not a first timer but I am, in terms of labour and normal delivery, so yeah...a bit nervous now.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I got really nervous last night after I watched some births on a DVD my midwife gave me.

I was like "there's no way *that* (the head) is fitting out of *there*!" Lol! But it's too late...gotta come out sooner or later.

I'm not a first timer but I am, in terms of labour and normal delivery, so yeah...a bit nervous now.

I have some photos of me when my son's head was crowning. It really freaks me out to think that I stretched that wide and that I have to do it again. But then I remind myself that I DID get through it and will again.

 

[~Nikki~]

I have some photos of me when my son's head was crowning. It really freaks me out to think that I stretched that wide and that I have to do it again. But then I remind myself that I DID get through it and will again.

I guess I just worry that I'll be the only person in the world who's physically unable to stretch that far!

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

lol, I remember after I fell pg with my second, a wave of memory of the crowning feeling hit me - freaked me out all over again! But, yeah, gotta come out some way! (and I didn't even have any stitches either time!)

Sparassidae, I had a similar experience after my first was born. When I woke up to her crying the next morning, my first thought was - Oh yeah, now I have a baby to look after! Suddenly the theory became practical!

 

[tiredwalker]

So, is it okay that I'm not thinking at all about it? I've got a little over two months left, and I'm ignoring the whole birthing thing. I know it will come and that I'll know what to do, so I'm just really trying not to think about it.

 

[sparassidae]

If you're "not thinking about it" out of denial, like "if I don't think about it it will go away" then that would be a problem. But if it's just a matter of "I know everything will be okay, no point worrying" then that seems fine.

Still a good idea to run through the different options, as well as mentally prepare for the 'worst' as well as 'best' scenario I think.

 

[Hadassah]

I agree.
Once I had researched the ups and downs and worst case scenarios, I'm at the point I'm "not thinking about it" other than --- "GET HIM OUT!"

I don't want to think about HOW he gets out and everything works and the intricacies of it all, I just want him to finally start shifting more and crown and 'bloop' and the dr's spank his hiney and say "Here you go mommy..."

 

[llghoney]

thanks for the advice & reassurance. I think part of it, like Nikki said, is I'm going to these classes & seeing & actually having close up experiences with what a epidural needle & stuff looks like & I freak out. Then I hear other ladies talk about how they have everything already for their baby & I'm like uhhh I still don't have a crib, lotions, etc.... I'm probably going this weekend though & getting those kinda things. I kinda like to be prepared as in having things in place so I'm not fumbling or spending 30 minutes looking for that darn bottle of lotion or what not. And we still haven't picked out a middle name which is driving me nuts too. I think if we have another I may look into surragocy.