Finding God Seperately?

[lostinthought]

When I met my boyfriend I had a very anti-Chrisitan past and his was a very Christian one. I didn't know that but soon discovered when we moved in with his mom and were required to go to church on Sundays. Through their family, church, and his friends I found God and had a very personal baptism preformed by a strong influence in my decision - it was amazing! My boyfriend had helped to answer a lot of my questions during my growth . . . but he had previously strayed away from God when his parents divorced amoung other problems. Together we have come off and on toward and away from God - sometimes together and sometimes seperately? Is this normal? Can we support and influence eachother positively or are we holding eachother back?

 

[Sojourner<><]

I feel that it's a good thing to have a partner in all things, and that includes faith. If you and your bf could be positive influences on eachother in that area then that's great and that's the way it's supposed to be. But if the relationship is destructive for your faith, personally I would get out of it.

 

[lostinthought]

Well sometimes it is extremely positive - for example, I wouldn't be a Christian if it wasn't for him and his family, however sometimes I will be motivated to go to church one week and he wont or I will be motivated to read the Bible and he wont or he will be motivated to quit smoking and I wont . . . Usually in those cases the lazy one wins - Although I do read the Bible alone and we did quit smoking for almost 6 months once with the support of eachother.

 

[Scottish Joy]

Well, what's been goin around in my mind as I'm reading this is... salvation is a very personal thing, as you said. I'm sure sometimes he's a good influence on you, and sometimes you are to him, but don't ever forget that you will give an account for your actions before God and so will he. I think you should try to take that responsibility seriously & remember that , even though he may not do just what you think of as right, you're only responsible for your own actions, attitudes, etc.

I believe you do have to go after God on your own, regardless of what he or anyone does- but you have a strong influence on the people close to you, either good or bad. Use that!

God bless ya lots.
Joy

 

[Scottish Joy]

Oh, and by the way, I know what it's like to fight laziness... ugh!! I hate it in myself, but it's there nonetheless!! And I just want to encourage you to fight it tooth and nail- you're not alone!!

My sympathies,
Joy

 

[lostinthought]

That really touched me Joy!!! I really related to and felt what you said about how I am only accountable for my actions and he for his! If I do what I can do live for God then I am fulfilling my purpose. This would surely influence him in a positive way, and even if it didn't - I am not responsible for these decisions of his!!!!
I hate my laziness, too, I really wish I had better methods to fight it sometimes!!