"others" works fine, though I fail to see why my own efforts to rewrite the matter qualify as "hocus pocus." The objection wa admittedly technical, but just the same.
And the remainder of my objections, I did not myself correct, instinctively or otherwise.
- Lack of love for oneself is hardly evidence of derangement. Many a neurosis could be described in such a manner, and I do not see much hope in an ethics that applies only to those in perfect mental health.
You may choose to say that love is not love if it is harmful, but that doesn't square with my experience. People often lsh out at those they love, some more than others, and some to the point where it is best to avoid their love, but I certainly wouldn't deny that such individuals are experiencing love. In any event, this all begs the question of what is meant by love.
Note: I am not sure what you meant by discussing relativism in the context of mental illness, but my position needn't rest on a relativistic view of what is and is not mental illness. I would however point out that a variety of self-destructive behaviors are evident in a large number of people. One could describe these as illnesses, but if you wish to define morality as pertaining only to those without such tendancies, then the bulk of humanity is removed from the force of your assertions,
which would make them rather particular and hence relative.
Your latest rewrite is more promising. It gets us out of trying to gauge the practical implications of an emotion, but it has problems. Does it pertain to every manner in which I would want to be treated? What about identity-specific features of the manner in which I would want to be treated? Can I adjust for maleness versus femaleness, age, height, social status, etc.? If not, then the principle does not really dictate specific courses of action.