Fetishes

[Skaloop]

Is heterosexuality a fetish, since it means you need someone who looks like the opposite sex?

No, because heterosexuality is not abnormal.

It just sounds like a very specific attraction to me.

It is, but it's more than just that.

 

[KitKatMatt]

I don't believe having a fetish is a sin or immoral. I think it's immoral (and illegal depending on local laws) to act on some of them (necrophilia, rape, bestiality, things of that nature) outside the realm of fantasy.

If you're indulging in a legal fetish or kink with your consenting married partner, I don't see anything wrong.

If you're indulging in a legal fetish or kink with yourself, I don't see anything wrong (this might not be a popular opinion? I don't see anything wrong with masturbation personally, and this is something I've prayed about for quite a while).

 

[elephunky]

I don't believe having a fetish is a sin or immoral. I think it's immoral (and illegal depending on local laws) to act on some of them (necrophilia, rape, bestiality, things of that nature) outside the realm of fantasy.

If you're indulging in a legal fetish or kink with your consenting married partner, I don't see anything wrong.

If you're indulging in a legal fetish or kink with yourself, I don't see anything wrong (this might not be a popular opinion? I don't see anything wrong with masturbation personally, and this is something I've prayed about for quite a while).

I think these kind of things are usually better in peoples fantasies than they are in real life arent they? At least this is what I heard.

 

[KitKatMatt]

I think these kind of things are usually better in peoples fantasies than they are in real life arent they? At least this is what I heard.

Depends on what they are, really. Some fetishes can get dangerous and can be illegal, but others are pretty harmless like wearing a diaper or pouring food on your partner.

 

[MehGuy]

As someone as an unwilling participant in a certain fetish, I tend to not want to endorse them.

I am a bi-lateral amputee, if you've been doing any research into fetishes at all I'm sure you've come across those of the 'devotee' variety.
*ugh, this is making me feel a little gross just typing about it...*
I have had men stalk me, be obviously aroused in public and received the most disgusting and graphic messages online.

Someone used the example of the "big butt' fetish, yes well, if you were a lady and not wanting men staring at your butt, you cover it up, just like you would your chest.
I however, am not given that option, but am unwillingly turned into a sex-object regardless of how I behave, dress or act.

So, there is NO way I could ever say that this fetish is "fine".

Sorry.

~ Niffer

I'm sorry to hear this. While I am not attracted to amputees I am somewhat into devoteeism. Although I normally just classify it as a different expression of S/M. I like blind/deaf/mute women, I do try to remain respectful about it.

I don't think it's inherently bad to be a devotee, as long as you have some tact about it.

 

[redblue22]

I don't see how a fetish could be illegal if one never acts on it. Though an non-active fetish might be legal, that does not make imaginatively indulging the fetish to be moral, virtuous, spiritual, or healthy.

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[apache1]

Well, I have to admit this thread about fetishes is a helluva lot more interesting than the thread on Jar Jar Binks! Anyway, in Star Wars Princess Leah sure looked hot when enslaved to Jabba the Hut. Back to fetishes .... "I like spanked butts, and I cannot lie, other spankers can't deny, when put your love over your lap and give them buns a forceful slap, they get stung!"

 

[apache1]

An idea for a new western......
"Paddlin" - Have buns? Will paddle!

 

[Paulos23]

To view anyone as merely an 'object' is wrong.
But there is a difference between 'attraction' and 'fetish'.

~ Niffer

Yes, to view anyone as an 'object' is wrong.

Unless that is the person being viewed fetish.

I have run into some odd fetishes in my time. As long as people are giving consent to it I am fine with it (though some I think of as being unsafe).

 

[keith99]

Depends on what they are, really. Some fetishes can get dangerous and can be illegal, but others are pretty harmless like wearing a diaper or pouring food on your partner.

The classic fetish is high heels.

A lot of people have no idea just what a fetish is.

Add to the confusion that the technical definition and the common one differ in one slight point.

The common one is that something turns you on, the technical one is that you NEED it to get turned on.

By the technical definition fetishes are a bit of a problem, but something that should more raise pity than hate.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

This might be a dumb question but are fetishes immoral? I've discovered that there is a fetish for just about everything under the sun. Some are highly sexual and some hardly feel sexual to the person with the fetish at all. I would not be surprised if there was a fetish for people wearing their clothes inside out. If a fetish is not harmful to the person with the fetish or anyone else, it's hard to say that it's an immoral thing - but that doesn't mean it isn't immoral. I must ask if such fetishes are immoral, and I guess the question that would be tied to it is whether fetishes are demonic in origin or not?

Well, first we need to get an objective definition of 'FETISH' from which to work from (from the online Dictionary) :

fetish  
fet·ish [fet-ish, fee-tish] Show IPA


noun

1.

an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.


2.

any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.


3.

Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.
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It would seem for the most part, that a Fetish would constitute making something/someone an Idol . The only Idol we are to have is our Creator. It would also seem to a lesser degree, that a Fetish could be had toward something that we simply respect ; perhaps some examples of this could be : A lightening storms power, our Suns magnificance and power , elite Groups of our Military for their ability to get the job done , or the Triathalon Athelete who displays remarkable endurance/strength/and fortitude .

So, it would seem to be dependant on what you MAKE of the particular Fetish and how consuming it is in your life . Obviously, we need to carefully examine Fetishes to see if they in anyway detract from our honor and loyalty toward God . In the realm of sensual Fetishes, I think there might be some that are permissible from Gods perspective and some of these might include : A Spouses feet or specific body part that brings pleasure to both parties , having your Spouse put on sexy pajamas , or applying lotion to your Spouses bare body, etc... I think EVERYTHING we consider getting involved in or with, should be run past Gods very character , person, his written Word of instructions to Us, and our God given Moral Conscience without suppressing it so we can do as we wish regardless.

Did this help ? I hope so.

 

[redblue22]

dictionaries are not prescriptive.

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[KitKatMatt]

Words can have many definitions.

I believe we were all taking of definition 3, a sexual fetish.

 

[keith99]

Words can have many definitions.

I believe we were all taking of definition 3, a sexual fetish.

Yea, it is 3, but the shrinks count it as a fetish if it is a major fixation at least bordering on a need for arousal.

Definition one is the base definition and it fits in a way for the sexual fetish as the object 'houses the spirit' that causes arousal.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

dictionaries are not prescriptive.

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Dictionaries are descriptive , and the prescription is left to the Reader to determine how to use the knowledge One has received in a proper moral way. Hopefully without suppressing Ones Moral Conscience so they can do as they please regardless of right or wrong.

 

[apache1]

Yes, to view anyone as an 'object' is wrong.

Unless that is the person being viewed fetish.

I have run into some odd fetishes in my time. As long as people are giving consent to it I am fine with it (though some I think of as being unsafe).

I agree with you exactly. I enjoy spanking my wife's posterior (and getting spanked sometimes), but it's all consensual. Consensual fetishes are ok in my book. However, I draw the line at rape and child molestation, I have no use whatsoever for rapists and molesters, and those filthbags that held those women as slaves (definitely nonconsensual) for 30 years over in England should be castrated with rusty butter knives.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Can one have a fetish for fetishes? Like it turns you on to learn about every fetish? lol

 

[Fenny the Fox]

Can one have a fetish for fetishes? Like it turns you on to learn about every fetish? lol

To be honest, after learning about so many odd fetishes over the last several years, I would not be surprised if it happens. I figure if it is conceivable someone has a fetish for it. So why not a fetish for fetishes?

Be that learning about fetishes, or just a fetish for seeing other peoples' fetishes.

Actually, kind of an interesting idea. lol

 

[apache1]

To be honest, after learning about so many odd fetishes over the last several years, I would not be surprised if it happens. I figure if it is conceivable someone has a fetish for it. So why not a fetish for fetishes?

Be that learning about fetishes, or just a fetish for seeing other peoples' fetishes.

Actually, kind of an interesting idea. lol

Seems like someone else on this forum wrote they had a bubble gum fetish. Well, the Doublemint twins were hot back in the day

 

[CounselorForChrist]

^^^^ lol

If theres one thing about christians is I wish many would stop treating the word fetish like its a sinful bad thing. Because odds are we ALL have some sort of fetish. Example maybe you get turned on by your wife dressing up in lingerie. Or maybe your wife gets turned on by taking a shower with you. Or maybe wearing a tool belt (lol). WHo knows. We all have turns on.

Which speaking of I also don't understand why christians don't like BDSM. I mean yes there are extremes in it, but we all again have things we like to do, or have done to us. So to say BDSM is wrong is like saying eating is wrong.