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Ferbering?

What are your thoughts on the Ferber method?

  • I believe in the Ferber method.

  • I do not believe in the Ferber method.

  • I have not, but may use the Ferber method.

  • I have used the Ferber method and it works.


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marezee

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I certainly do not believe in the Ferber method for a 6 week old baby!
wow! that is way too young for something so harsh.
I don't think I let any of my boys CIO at that young age.
When they were older (over a year old), I let them cry for a few minutes (maybe 5 or 10min). I think they need to be able to somewhat understand what you are saying to them or asking of them. does that make sense?
 
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ChristianMama84

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lol Shannon, Robert was the same way!! He, too, realized he was wrong and hasn't mentioned it. I just now started letting Remy CIO a little, at ten months. lol I only do it when I know he's tired, but doesn't want to sleep. Usually he'll cry pretty good for five minutes and fall asleep on his own.
 
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We did do a version of CIO (I'm not familiar with the 'ferber' method), or 'teaching to sleep' the version we used was called. We started around 5-7 months, when my children we're starting to sleep through some nights on their own. It worked well for us.
For a 6 week old, I doubt it would work! But that's rather a different method, we were trying to teach a child to sleep through the night, for a 6 week old it's usually (well for me it was) please just go to sleep now I know you're tired! And after a while of soothing mommy gets stressed and tired and looks for her husbands shoulder, and he wants to make you happy so he wants to 'fix' the problem.
I do believe that for a 6 week old, if they're fed, clean, loved, cuddled, soothed, and they're still crying, a couple of minutes of letting them cry on their own really can help, if they don't fall alseep then at least they generally are more receptive to soothing again...
 
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