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Feeling Unwanted and Unloved

Discussion in 'General Mental Health' started by mariahwmfc, Apr 14, 2014.

  1. mariahwmfc

    mariahwmfc Newbie

    He only thing I have become sure of in the last couple of years in my relationship with God is that He loves and accepts me unconditionally, which is something I cannot say about those who knew me and those who know me still. I have heard the common advice of several wise friends who say, "if so you know, then it really does not matter...how people feel or think." But is that simple? I am afraid not...or at least, in my life I haven't always find it so simple to disregard what others think and feel about me. Where I come from, if you are not married before 30, then you most probably are a spinster and a failure in your social life. Also, where I come from, people care a lot about appearances, career, degree.... And doctors are the most respected and most valued. Most of my family members are doctors but I was never really into medicine so I took a different path...Engineering. Even though I have thanks to The Lord glorified His name in my academic career thus far having earned my Master's of Science, to my father, this never seemed to be good enough so with my family I often feel like a failure. Of course being 30 and single makes my life even harder.... In less than a year, I am supposed to attend three weddings for three of my cousins. Perhaps that makes me the only Unmarried girl in my family and makes me feel even the more terrible about myself...
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  2. Bananagator

    Bananagator Are you pondering what I'm pondering?


    You have a master's in Engineering? That's awesome. I'm studying an engineering-ish field right now and it's certainly not easy. That's a wonderful accomplishment - be proud!
    Although I'm younger, I can relate to you when it comes to worrying about never getting married and stuff. I have several friends that are planning to get married in the next few years. I can't even imagine being engaged right now :eek: but I still feel like I'm 'behind' because I'm still single.
    Don't feel terrible about being single; you just haven't found the right guy yet. You certainly don't want to settle for just anyone, you need to find that special someone who you're mutually crazy about :)

    It can be hard to disregard what other people think, especially those close to you, but remember that it's YOUR life. What really matters is that you're happy!
  3. ToBeBlessed

    ToBeBlessed Guest

    You definitely do have a tougher situation. We really respect our families opinion because we love them so and it must be hard to feel disapproval with your not being married.

    Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    I know I didn't add much, I will be praying for you.
    Last edited by a moderator: May 14, 2014
  4. emilie mayer

    emilie mayer Newbie

    If God is for us who can be against us. All that matters is that God accepts us for who we are. Because God accepts you then I wouldnt worry about the world accepting me even if it is family. I know its easier said than done but if you say it and claim it then soon enough you accept it.
  5. susie12345

    susie12345 Newbie

    God has a special plan for your life. be patient and trust Him totally to do His will in your life.
  6. Johnnz

    Johnnz Senior Veteran Supporter

    Lack of affirmation and approval from parents and family can set up very negative inner 'tracks' that play over and over and can greatly influence our self perception.