feeling triggered and upset *** trigger***

[Lily76_]

feeling triggered upset over seeing my old name on another forum am a member of

i get triggered more and more by my birthname
witch i have leigaly changed to Ella

but my mum always call me by the birth name
and will never call me Ella

i cant tell her why it upset me so much
the last time i told her about anything to do with my past abuse she acted like she was blaming me for it and was angry at me for letting it happen

at the moment at sitting in from of the pc feeling bad
my husband wants me to go to bed am unsure if i can sleep

but i cant stay up all night i have to meet my sister in the morning

 

[bubblefish]

*hug* Hope you managed to get some sleep Hun.

I know what it is like for family not to believe you, or blame you - mine did the same thing - but it is not your fault. No-one has the right to hurt you! no matter what.

I am sorry to hear that this has been triggering you so much I know there isn't probably too much that I can say here that will make it easier, but if you ever want to talk to someone you are always welcome to PM me. I know what it is like. I can't promise to have answers but am always happy to listen.

Blessings,
Katie

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

I don't know if it would help at all, but you might be able to ask the mods on the other forum to change that information for you so it doesn't trigger.

Katie is right too - what happened isn't your fault *hug*. There's no excuse for other's blaming you, but often it happens because what you tell them threatens to turn their world upside down. Some people can't cope with that. I'm really sorry your mum blamed you - I hope you find that the people in these forums support you instead .