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you very judgemental person you continue to aggrevate the situation without knowing the full story.
you are illogical very much so I can know understand why you had a difficult past. like I said no one that is upset in there own lifes can have a clear mind to help others. like I said go back an analyse my first post. I dont think you are capable. You are definately not a people person to try and degrade me for my situation i am in I may not be us intellegent as you though I now when I can trust

As I have said your first post lacks information I can not say what is what due to the lack of information........and that is illogical and judgmental?

Do you comprehend what I am saying?

How can I judge you I lack information.

Also my life is pretty good. My wife and I probably only have maybe 3 arguments a year, we typically don't fight you are basing my life off of one situation. I own my own business, I have a beautiful baby girl that I love dearly, I am in my dream law school(made it to the top 10% of my class trying to be the top 1), I am a home owner, my wife is my best friend and has been since I was 17, I didn't buy a single thing for my baby God blessed me with relatives that cared so much gifts came pouring down, my grandmother is moving in and I won't have to worry about her ever again, my favorite cousin decided to start going to church and is enrolling into college which I agreed to help pay for, I am a sunday school teacher, I study the word with my best friend twice a week, I mentor young black boys that lack father figures................

I dunno my life is pretty blessed thank God.

That doesn't change the fact you lacked information no one can say what you did wrong or right, no one can say anything really about your situation.
 
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PLEASE SOMEONE ADVISE ME HOW TO BLOCK OR IGNORE POSTS THAT I DO NOT NEED TO READ as some post without reason of knowing my story

I think that was the entire point of my entire post I don't know your story therefore I can't make a judgement nor can anyone else.
 
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Now this is my flesh becoming unwilling to post what seems as thought it should be simple to comprehend.

1) How can one comfort you in your wrongness?

How do you judge that I am wrong when I was the victim of his behaviour
2) Not knowing if you are wrong or right makes it impossible to offer you any comfort but prayer.
there was no need to judge whether someone is right or wrong and my orginal post does not ask for counselling by the way a counsellor would not suggest who is right or wrong neither would my god.

3) Love is rejoicing in the truth in reference to #2 how can I show you love when I do not know the truth in it's entirety

yes love is rejoicing in honesty. its all about trust not distrust I mentioned in my post how I was feeling and treated enough had been said. I do not get on a christian site to play games and tell the untruth.
4) How can I make a judgement on you other then how you have behaved towards other posters
my comments to other posters where quite in defense of accusations and ignorance. I could not deal with other persons personal issues in my state of mind and this is not being self centered as I am a very compassionate person when I am in a better frame of mind.

5) I am not judging you I am looking at the fruit you have shown in this post even in our interactions.

you have made terrible accusations towards me you are obviously a man that takes no responsibilty for his own actions.

6) I have made no judgement of you at all, I have simply stated with the verbiage and lack of information there are very extreme situation and or it could be some where in the middle. I used personal stories and examples to illustrate this.

though you didnt understand my first post enough said
7) No you said something that made left important details which made it impossible for anyone to give you information and godly love. All we can do is appease your flesh.

I will appease my own flesh how about YOU. another accusation and sarcasim from you.


8) No I said not thanking someone for their concern of your personal safety particularly with your vague description and then stating what is Christlike and what is not is hypocrisy. Especially when that person came at you with nothing but love.

very questionable

9) What statement did I say you sit around and blah blah? Please quote me and highlight it because I am unaware of making that accusation. It would be illogical for me to state so particularly because I lack all information other then your feelings are hurt.


Oh my comments listed you thought obviously where only directed at you. No this comment came from someone else, feel better now
10) How do I know you did nothing to him to deserve him to be aggressive?

so you think... that I may have deserved aggression. THIS IS A VERY BAD SIN AND YOU SUPPORT VULNERABLE BOYS.
I dont know what I could have written to have you thinking that I am an innocent victim to a controlling person.

11) I don't know what he did to you that was aggressive, he could have rolled his eyes, got mad at you and went for a drive, he could have slammed a door, called you a name..............the key is I don't know if he behaved aggressively using a reasonable guide of what aggression is. It's illogical to expect one to understand this.

though you dont need to know what he did to me. you just focus on this and not the rest of my original post. I said in the post he was aggressive towards to me and that it all you need to know as I do not know you at that stage.

12) No past of emotional torment I just am in law school and it teaches you how to think more analytically.

TO BE MORE ANALYTICAL IS TO TURN TO GOD AND THE BIBLE NOT JSUT A LAW SCHOOL. try it you may become a better solictor as trials and tribulation will be on your agenda. Talk to a pastor

13) Again in order for me to comprehend and understand how to advice you or what scriptural encouragement to offer when I do not know your definition of aggression.

you are talking like a solicitor not through christian fellowship. Aggression could be looked up in the dictionary if you like. or your bible. I see all aggression a bad behaviour.


14) Maybe it's not unacceptable behavior maybe it is acceptable behavior I wouldn't know.

well I am telling you now that I know it is unacceptable behaviour


Basically the moral to 1-14 I cant judge you I'm not trying to I don't have enough information to even create an opinion of you or your situation. What I can do is go off your behavior on this post and gauge what I believe could have occurred. However I don't have the time to do it like that.

yes you are trying to gauge wrongly as you obviously did want to or try to understand how I was feeling its quite self explanatary


So here you make assumptions that you dont know whether i did something wrong for him to be agressive toward me. AGRESSION IS WRONG in any situation. and I am not going to explain to you what happened. so there has to be an excuse for someone to be aggressive enough said I now know what you are about. DO NOT FURTHER COMMENT AS IT WILL BE A WASTE OF YOUR TIME AS DELETED AND MAYBE REPORTED.
 
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As I have said your first post lacks information I can not say what is what due to the lack of information........and that is illogical and judgmental?

Do you comprehend what I am saying?

How can I judge you I lack information.

Also my life is pretty good. My wife and I probably only have maybe 3 arguments a year, we typically don't fight you are basing my life off of one situation. I own my own business, I have a beautiful baby girl that I love dearly, I am in my dream law school(made it to the top 10% of my class trying to be the top 1), I am a home owner, my wife is my best friend and has been since I was 17, I didn't buy a single thing for my baby God blessed me with relatives that cared so much gifts came pouring down, my grandmother is moving in and I won't have to worry about her ever again, my favorite cousin decided to start going to church and is enrolling into college which I agreed to help pay for, I am a sunday school teacher, I study the word with my best friend twice a week, I mentor young black boys that lack father figures................

I dunno my life is pretty blessed thank God.

That doesn't change the fact you lacked information no one can say what you did wrong or right, no one can say anything really about your situation.



NO BASICALLY YOU DO NOT CHOOSE TO UNDERSTAND i have spoken to a christian person and they understand. if i were you is you dont understand dont COMMENT yes you
 
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As I have said your first post lacks information I can not say what is what due to the lack of information........and that is illogical and judgmental?

Do you comprehend what I am saying?

How can I judge you I lack information.

Also my life is pretty good. My wife and I probably only have maybe 3 arguments a year, we typically don't fight you are basing my life off of one situation. I own my own business, I have a beautiful baby girl that I love dearly, I am in my dream law school(made it to the top 10% of my class trying to be the top 1), I am a home owner, my wife is my best friend and has been since I was 17, I didn't buy a single thing for my baby God blessed me with relatives that cared so much gifts came pouring down, my grandmother is moving in and I won't have to worry about her ever again, my favorite cousin decided to start going to church and is enrolling into college which I agreed to help pay for, I am a sunday school teacher, I study the word with my best friend twice a week, I mentor young black boys that lack father figures................

I dunno my life is pretty blessed thank God.

That doesn't change the fact you lacked information no one can say what you did wrong or right, no one can say anything really about your situation.


go back on your post towards me if you may. there is no lack of information on my post its only what you are unable to understand
 
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“Whatever house you enter, stay there, and from there depart. 5 And whoever will not receive you, when you go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet as a testimony against them.”

Some people aren't going to get it as fast as we would like valley.

anothers JUDGEMENT avniel towards me. thanks yes I certainly follow this scripture in the bible us they are Gods words. anyway why didnt you write up the scripture verse numbers as this is not from you.

I pray that you dont break too many of peoples spirits
 
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As I have said your first post lacks information I can not say what is what due to the lack of information........and that is illogical and judgmental?

Do you comprehend what I am saying?

How can I judge you I lack information.

Also my life is pretty good. My wife and I probably only have maybe 3 arguments a year, we typically don't fight you are basing my life off of one situation. I own my own business, I have a beautiful baby girl that I love dearly, I am in my dream law school(made it to the top 10% of my class trying to be the top 1), I am a home owner, my wife is my best friend and has been since I was 17, I didn't buy a single thing for my baby God blessed me with relatives that cared so much gifts came pouring down, my grandmother is moving in and I won't have to worry about her ever again, my favorite cousin decided to start going to church and is enrolling into college which I agreed to help pay for, I am a sunday school teacher, I study the word with my best friend twice a week, I mentor young black boys that lack father figures................

I dunno my life is pretty blessed thank God.

That doesn't change the fact you lacked information no one can say what you did wrong or right, no one can say anything really about your situation.

quite contradictive to your response to me a few posts back
no one needs to know the full story, if you read my original post and understood it you would have not come up with your analysis. I hope that God walks in you during your time of legal trials
 
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go back on your post towards me if you may. there is no lack of information on my post its only what you are unable to understand

Well I'm just not going to go back and forth with you any longer good night
 
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quite contradictive to your response to me a few posts back
no one needs to know the full story, if you read my original post and understood it you would have not come up with your analysis. I hope that God walks in you during your time of legal trials

Nope I've said the samething at least 10 times that's the reason why I'm done posting I can't argue with someone that isn't comprehending
 
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anothers JUDGEMENT avniel towards me. thanks yes I certainly follow this scripture in the bible us they are Gods words. anyway why didnt you write up the scripture verse numbers as this is not from you.

I pray that you dont break too many of peoples spirits

Not a judgement simple a scripture for valley and I so we don't waste time arguing with a person that doesn't want to listen.

You are free to google the scripture I'm certain you will find the information I lack there.
 
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1) This a forum that is the reason for a forum to share opinions and different perspectives to widen ones horizons and learn how other's think. Have you ever watched a forum on tv?

2) I have never made an assumption nor did valley what she said was if and that you should. No matter if she was wrong or right, she took her time out of her day to tell you how to protect yourself because she didn't want you to go through what she did. I might disagree with her and think she needed more information before stating such but her action was out of love and therefore the most Christian thing to do. For you to say anything but 'no he's not hitting me but thank you so much for your concern" and then to bring up Christianity is hypocrisy.

3) You may not think about who is wrong and who is right, however there are situations where one person is wrong. For example someone leaves your car light on and you believe it was your husband you tell him about leaving the car light on but he didn't it was a friend or neighbor or a robber or even an electrical problem....would you be the wrong party or is your husband partly to blame?

4) In a relationship most times people sit around blaming the other person. Similar to how people read the bible and always point outward instead inward. The key isn't to look to see where another person is equally as wrong as you so there is someone to share the blame with but to have a mirror and examine your on personal actions. Don't worry about how wrong he is, or what he has done to equal your wrong.

5) You started a thread in my opinion expecting or wanting a pity party. That is not love, love rejoices in the truth and I as christian can't support you in your wrong. So how then can I support you or not support you with this situation if I don't know if you are wrong or right? I can't support you in your sin.

6) I don't even understand what you mean you need support and he needs support. How can we support you and we don't know your situation?

Last post I just find the insults and the things you said about valley particularly rude because she wasn't just posting because she is bored like others she took the time to actually care about your safety the least you could do with that is be appreciative. Instead of spitting in her face....shame.


Anviel you are wanting too much personal information and pass judgement of what I have not and willing to post. You have tried to look into my situation without knowing and understanding your analytical thoughts have passed judgement on me without knowing the facts. Is it that you dont trust or believe people of what they say if you understood my post you would have addressed what I had said not what I hadnt said. I am a compassionate person I guess this is why I am trying to understand you though you have also said things that should not have been said as correct you do not know me. Please be GENTLE with those boys without fathers
 
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Anviel you are wanting too much personal information and pass judgement of what I have not and willing to post. You have tried to look into my situation without knowing and understanding your analytical thoughts have passed judgement on me without knowing the facts. Is it that you dont trust or believe people of what they say if you understood my post you would have addressed what I had said not what I hadnt said. I am a compassionate person I guess this is why I am trying to understand you though you have also said things that should not have been said as correct you do not know me. Please be GENTLE with those boys without fathers

Where is the judgement? All I see someone saying they don't have enough information. Illogical.

I'm an honest person so the children I mentor know that and they typically aren't the type of people that feel saying there's a lack of information and calling it judgement.
 
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Not a judgement simple a scripture for valley and I so we don't waste time arguing with a person that doesn't want to listen.

You are free to google the scripture I'm certain you will find the information I lack there.


NO I OWN A BIBLE see you didnt understand what I had to say. listen to what your accusations ?
You SHOULD READ YOUR BIBLE MORE OFTEN is my post helping you in your legal studies or assigments because you seem to get satisfaction from my comments to make comment back you definately have spent all day with me WHY? aha:D
 
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Where is the judgement? All I see someone saying they don't have enough information. Illogical.


NO TOTALLY DISRESPECTFUL TO MY RIGHTS AVNIEL some people in this world are quite reserved and private you will understand this one day. you have been illogical I really dont understand why you have bothered commenting so many times

I'm an honest person so the children I mentor know that and they typically aren't the type of people that feel saying there's a lack of information and calling it judgement.


enough was said for others to understand so I really do not need you to make any further comments please. nothing to do with lack of information its just that you do not want to reply to what I posted because you think there is a right and a wrong not always the case. and guess what I have talked to my husband today and received an sincere apology that was well deserved so you can lay down your accusations and move on with your own life. If you read your posts when you carm down in a few days analys what you have written it could be a good lesson to learn.:D
 
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NO I OWN A BIBLE see you didnt understand what I had to say. listen to what your accusations ?
You SHOULD READ YOUR BIBLE MORE OFTEN is my post helping you in your legal studies or assigments because you seem to get satisfaction from my comments to make comment back you definately have spent all day with me WHY? aha:D

Of course reading the bible helps all areas of my life I read my scripture and study the word most days of my life. I find spending time with God in the morning makes my day better.

Certainly no it takes me a few seconds to respond to you. Most days I'm on CF while I read and take notes. I find it works easier that way.

You must be enjoying the attention.
 
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enough was said for others to understand so I really do not need you to make any further comments please. nothing to do with lack of information its just that you do not want to reply to what I posted because you think there is a right and a wrong not always the case. and guess what I have talked to my husband today and received an sincere apology that was well deserved so you can lay down your accusations and move on with your own life. If you read your posts when you carm down in a few days analys what you have written it could be a good lesson to learn.:D
I actually had my wife read your comments and it's pretty understandable what I have stated in response. Just because someone apologizes doesn't mean they were wrong as Valley did that to you in this very post. I don't know if he was wrong or you are just overtly sensitive to disagreements. I can multitask rest assured I've ate, changed diapers, studied and watched a movie all while responding to you. Takes a lot to get my life off track good evening and good bye be blessed
 
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NO I OWN A BIBLE see you didnt understand what I had to say. listen to what your accusations ?
You SHOULD READ YOUR BIBLE MORE OFTEN is my post helping you in your legal studies or assigments because you seem to get satisfaction from my comments to make comment back you definately have spent all day with me WHY? aha:D

"anothers JUDGEMENT avniel towards me. thanks yes I certainly follow this scripture in the bible us they are Gods words. anyway why didnt you write up the scripture verse numbers as this is not from you." This is what you stated nothing in that says read bible more it just simple says I don't know the verse and chapter clearly I read my bible or I wouldn't have none the scripture or Manu others I posted. How does that comment lead to whatever you were trying to say when you literally asked why didn't I put verse and chapter. Illogical
 
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I actually had my wife read your comments and it's pretty understandable what I have stated in response. Just because someone apologizes doesn't mean they were wrong as Valley did that to you in this very post. I don't know if he was wrong or you are just overtly sensitive to disagreements. I can multitask rest assured I've ate, changed diapers, studied and watched a movie all while responding to you. Takes a lot to get my life off track good evening and good bye be blessed



horrible horrible people you are yes this is from my flesh i have sinned to say this. How dare you think that my husband apologised to me and doesnt mean he was wrong in doing so. like I said I do not ever assume wrong or right but I know when I have been hurt. You dreadful person you are. you are extremely cold. what religion do you follow definately not mine.

yes i have sinned now and i will be the judge of this not you
 
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I actually had my wife read your comments and it's pretty understandable what I have stated in response. Just because someone apologizes doesn't mean they were wrong as Valley did that to you in this very post. I don't know if he was wrong or you are just overtly sensitive to disagreements. I can multitask rest assured I've ate, changed diapers, studied and watched a movie all while responding to you. Takes a lot to get my life off track good evening and good bye be blessed

have you had concern to really make ANY COMMENT AT ALL
 
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Of course reading the bible helps all areas of my life I read my scripture and study the word most days of my life. I find spending time with God in the morning makes my day better.

Certainly no it takes me a few seconds to respond to you. Most days I'm on CF while I read and take notes. I find it works easier that way.

You must be enjoying the attention.

DOES IT REALLY SOUND LIKE I AM ENJOYING THE ATTENTION I AM QUITE UPSET BY THE ATTENTION because no its not what I expected from CHRISTIAN PEOPLE. I now realise I am there for god and not to trust too many christian people because we are ofcourse not perfect.
you sound controlling to mention that I do not comprehend what you had to say absolutely ridiculous you dont know my professional background and it is obvious we BOTH are on two wave lengths so stop trying to control and get your own way with me because basically this is what it is all about. as my original post has not been addressed just analysed in your thoughts only

and you have thought this to be arguments no its a matter of opinion and disappointment. Maybe you are a young person still with many life lessons to learn and grow as a full person. it only takes time and life skill of how to speak to people
 
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