Hi all, new member here. I'm frustrated and unsure what to say or do. A situation happened a couple nights ago that made me feel like less of a priority, and without going into too much background, I feel it is a pretty common theme in our marriage. Almost every time we get together with my wife's family (they come to our place or we go there) they will stay up somewhat late talking with each other. Typically I don't have an issue with this...but when they are at our home and stay until 10:30/11:00pm when I wake up early the next morning for work, I just find it disrespectful. My wife is angry with me because she feels she needs to be rude to her family in order to please me in this regard.
The other day my wife's dad had surgery, and she stayed in contact with her sister via text the entire day. Surgery went well, but he was groggy and weird coming out of anesthesia. Later that night before putting our kid to bed, my wife says she wants to have sex that night, but then at 9:30pm (right when we get the kid to bed and we can have our time together) she gets a call from her sister. She said she'd make it a quick call. 30 minutes later I asked her to go to a different room rather than talk on the phone right next to me in bed. On her way out of the room, I called to her three times and she ignored me. She later said it was too difficult to pay attention to two people talking at the same time for the reason she ignored me.
Am I crazy for feeling like a lower priority than her family here? I should also mention the 45 minute phone conversation with her sister consisted mostly of gossip, not about her dad's surgery. I brought it up that it didn't make me feel like a priority, especially after her indicating she wanted time with me that night, but this just resulted in a huge fight.
Does anyone have suggestions on how to deal with the differences between families? Any suggestions on how to fight fair? We tried doing "the floor" which gives each of us time to talk without interruption, but that failed miserably.
The other day my wife's dad had surgery, and she stayed in contact with her sister via text the entire day. Surgery went well, but he was groggy and weird coming out of anesthesia. Later that night before putting our kid to bed, my wife says she wants to have sex that night, but then at 9:30pm (right when we get the kid to bed and we can have our time together) she gets a call from her sister. She said she'd make it a quick call. 30 minutes later I asked her to go to a different room rather than talk on the phone right next to me in bed. On her way out of the room, I called to her three times and she ignored me. She later said it was too difficult to pay attention to two people talking at the same time for the reason she ignored me.
Am I crazy for feeling like a lower priority than her family here? I should also mention the 45 minute phone conversation with her sister consisted mostly of gossip, not about her dad's surgery. I brought it up that it didn't make me feel like a priority, especially after her indicating she wanted time with me that night, but this just resulted in a huge fight.
Does anyone have suggestions on how to deal with the differences between families? Any suggestions on how to fight fair? We tried doing "the floor" which gives each of us time to talk without interruption, but that failed miserably.