feeling like a failure

[Breakaway_republic]

I just feel like i'm a failure, and a mistake of God.

Sure i've "accepted Christ as Lord and savior", but i can't seem to ever get it right. I find myself envying and even resenting everyone else at church because they seem to always have it just the way God wants it [in both material and spiritual ways]. Each time i talk to someone at church, it's like i'm talking up to some mighty 'superman" who's looking down at me.

Am i alone?

 

[Aino]

The good thing about our God is that no one can say that they're any better in His eyes then somebody else. No one can judge anyone else because we've all sinned. On the other hand, it really sucks as well, because some people still look like they had sinned less or done more good and still all believers, "good" and "bad" alike, are on the same line when the final day comes. It might annoy people who think they're good, that they'll have to hang out with the "worse" ones, and it might make the ones who feel that they're bad, feel even worse. The truth is, that even though someone might look like they're perfect, they're not. You don't know what they do when you're not there. You don't hear their every word or thought. God does and he's fair. He sets each one of us on the same line and we all get the same chance, because we all are equally sinners and naturally avoid God's ways. So don't worry, you're not alone. You're not the only one who feels that way and you're not any worse then any other.

 

[Thunder Peel]

You're not alone and I understand where you're coming from. I can't seem to get ahead in most areas of my life, I'm the black sheep of my family and my future seems very uncertain. Do you have any friends that you can go to and talk about these things? It always helps to have people who love you and care about what's going on.

 

[Philip22]

I would agree with Aino, well said, the only thing I would add is this.....

No you are not alone. I have felt the same way that you describe for the longest time. I deal with it a little better now and I think the key is to learn to be grateful for what you do have and are able to do rather than compare yourself with others constantly. It can be quite a challenge though.., I find myself at times wishing that I was smarter or better looking , etc, etc. But train yourself to look at the things you can do.

 

[Breakaway_republic]

Thanks, guys. your encouragement is appreciated.

I was going through a "cat. 5" bad week [Roommate getting fired, getting turned down for things i thought were supposed to happen]. Thankfully, God [or whoevers in charge] has allowed things to at least start getting better.

 

[Luther073082]

When I first became a Christian, I had a pastor tell me that its very typical, especially for new Christians to look at the people around them in church and feel like they (the people around them) are more spritual, more in touch with God, and in general have it all together.

But here is the thing. No matter what appearences may suggest, no one ever has it all together in their life. Sure people like to appear they have it all figured out, but thats not actually true.

You need concentrate on your life and try to make it better and get closer with God and don't worry about where other people are on in their spiritual walks. No one has it all figured out.

 

[yourstylist42]

you are not alone. and may i ask is it possible that the people in your church are not as welcoming as you think they may be? because i have been to a church or two where i felt the people were almost "too good for me" or that i was "inferior" because my sins must have been a whole lot greater than theirs. and maybe no one comes out directly and proclaims that but its kind of the feeling you get when you go into some churches. maybe that specific church is not one that you should be calling home.

The church that i go to now IS MY FAMILY from the first day i walked in there everyone accepted me. Yes i was ashamed of the things in my past, but that didnt last long. these people wouldnt allow me to feel that way. they are truly my brothers and sisters who i know i can count on for support,

Maybe its time you find your true family in Christ

 

[pressingon17]

I know how you feel,I went through that earlier this year and felt so much lower than everyone else in my old church.Then,for personal reasons switched churches and made some new friends and went getting to know them,i found they all had the same problems and past as me and I didn't feel as alone as before.So,many people can hind it very well,but if you them well enough then you realize,there human too.

 

[WiredSpirit]

I know where you're coming from, although not so much with the people from church. Almost all of my friends I was hanging out with two years ago have gotten married and started families or moved away, and I had to move in with my mom after 5 years on my own. To make matters worse she had moved out to the middle of nowhere so now I'm 30 miles away from work and the only acquaintances I have left. I've made a lot of stupid decisions and got into a lot of debt and I continue to make bad decisions in a lot of ways. One thing that may give you encouragement is the parable of the workers in the vineyard in Matthew 20.

Mt 20:16 "So the last will be first, and the first will be last."​

 

[lovelyashley]

you are not alone. and may i ask is it possible that the people in your church are not as welcoming as you think they may be? because i have been to a church or two where i felt the people were almost "too good for me" or that i was "inferior" because my sins must have been a whole lot greater than theirs. and maybe no one comes out directly and proclaims that but its kind of the feeling you get when you go into some churches. maybe that specific church is not one that you should be calling home.

I agree that this may be the case. Some Christians do think they're better than others, you just have to find the right church for you.

 

[DougyP]

Nope