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Feeling Empty. Trying to Find a Purpose.

SDguy

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Hi. I need some help.

Many people tell me that I have it pretty good. I'm still young. I recently got a good deal on a condo in San Diego, CA. I have a beautiful, loving girlfriend. We have good paying jobs that are doing well despite the economic downturn. We have no debts other than the house note, which is more than manageable.

But I'm not completely happy. I feel guilty telling you how I feel because it makes me seem ungrateful. In fact, I pray to God for direction but I often ask him to forgive me if he thinks I am being ungrateful, for there are so many people out there that have far less. But I can't help feeling this void and depression.

I feel like I should be doing something more with my life. I could be wrong but maybe it's because of my job. It's a cushy job, don't get me wrong. But I basically sell shoes over the phone. It's a cubicle job.

I've asked God to help me find a purpose in life, one that makes me feel fulfilled, that pleases him, and can possibly make this world a better place. I've been waiting to see a sign from him but I'm just not seeing it.

Sometimes I laugh at myself in a sinister kind of way. I remember my mother telling me of a dream she had when she was pregnant with me. She dreamed that Jesus visited her and told her I would be someone special. And here I am, selling shoes. Am I destined for greatness? Or was it truly just a dream?

Someone please help.
 

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Most often it' when we make some move that we get further clues. Ask yourself 'What could I do that will increase my options?

The answer is also somewhat dependant on the kind of teaching you receive. That can largely determine your perspectives on many issues.

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I think your first mistake is equating you job to your overall value as a person. In reality you can be so much more to so many more people. I find that volunteer work is often more spiritually fulfilling than the job that I get paid to do. If I were you I would look for something OUTSIDE of work to help you find more of a purpose for your life.

Also, you mentioned that you feel empty inside. The only thing that can truly fill the emptiness that sometimes wells up in our soul is God. All other things such as alcohol, drugs, sex, television, video games, Etc...they are just temporary distractions.

To sum it all up, my suggestion to you would be to get more involved with your church and see what kind of mission work/volunteer work you can do. Your life will feel a little less empty. Remember that selling shoes is what you do, not who you are.
 
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Sdguy, i felt more or less like you. I feel empty and meaningless most of the time in my life stage now. Everything is alright outside but not that alright inside. I pray for you (and me) so we can fight this kind of feeling.
I am a bit lost and clueless also on what and how to do. Sure He'll show the way..Amien.:)
 
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