- Jan 17, 2004
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About 4 years ago, My grandfather which was a pastor before he passed married my husband and I. We were in Lous. So We didn't get the paper to say we were married but we went through the whole thing, just without the paper. We've been together 7 years and have two kids, my 4 year old starts school this coming year, so legally I want to change my last name. In our eyes and in God's eyes we are married, but the State is a different story. So to my point.... Today my husband and I are going to the court and making it offical with the State. That way I can legally change my last name and there will never be another ? about it.
We got our papers to get married the beginning of the week, and we let everyone know this was going to happen, it's nothing big, we're even getting married in jeans. Anyways, last night, my sister in law calls to see if my husband can work today, and that my brother would have him home before we had to go to the court. My husband really didn't have a choice cause my brother has a hurt back. Well my feeling really got hurt, cause this is suppose to be our day and he's at work. If they really cared about my feelings, they wouldn't of called and my husband would feel oblagated (sp?) to go. My hubby really didn't want to go, but he didn't see my brother trying to lift w/ a hurt back. He's a good man, and I'm not upset with him, he's just doing for someone else rather than thinkin' of himself. It just hurts that I'm all alone with 2 kids the day we are re devoting ourselves. ( That sounds better doesn't it.) I tried to talk to my mother about it, and she told me to grow up and not make a big deal out of nothing. Out of nothing, hey old lady, I may be getting married for the 2nd time to this man, but it is still my wedding day. I didn't say that to her, I wanted to, but.... I just couldn't, instead I said goodbye mom and hung up.
Am I being childish, or do I have right to feel this way? Be honest please, I'm strong, I can take it.
We got our papers to get married the beginning of the week, and we let everyone know this was going to happen, it's nothing big, we're even getting married in jeans. Anyways, last night, my sister in law calls to see if my husband can work today, and that my brother would have him home before we had to go to the court. My husband really didn't have a choice cause my brother has a hurt back. Well my feeling really got hurt, cause this is suppose to be our day and he's at work. If they really cared about my feelings, they wouldn't of called and my husband would feel oblagated (sp?) to go. My hubby really didn't want to go, but he didn't see my brother trying to lift w/ a hurt back. He's a good man, and I'm not upset with him, he's just doing for someone else rather than thinkin' of himself. It just hurts that I'm all alone with 2 kids the day we are re devoting ourselves. ( That sounds better doesn't it.) I tried to talk to my mother about it, and she told me to grow up and not make a big deal out of nothing. Out of nothing, hey old lady, I may be getting married for the 2nd time to this man, but it is still my wedding day. I didn't say that to her, I wanted to, but.... I just couldn't, instead I said goodbye mom and hung up.
Am I being childish, or do I have right to feel this way? Be honest please, I'm strong, I can take it.
My hubby got home 30 mins. before we were suppose to be there, he had to shower and get dressed, We were late to our own wedding!! LOL!!! I was never upset with him for going to work, I know his heart and I kow he wanted to be with me, he just knew my brother couldn't lift anything. The wedding went by fine. The judge was a hoot, it was hard not to crack up through the whole thing, plus my hubby's facial expressions, I messed up my vows. For months My husband had me believing that my brother was shorting his pay, but really my brother was keeping some money out of his check so he could buy me a new ring. Some already know me and my husband have matching tattoo rings as our wedding bands. Cheap, and ya can't loose them. They only go half way around the finger that way when we put our left hands together it make one whole ring. Anyways, he surprised me with a real wedding ring with diamonds and all. Which is surprising cause he knows I hate big flashy stuff. But this is cool, fits my personality pretty good. I got him a band too, I was going to surprise him, but he out did me. He's such a sweetie!!!! So I'm now offical with the state!! WOOO Woooo!! 
