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Feel so out of touch with God

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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.
 

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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.
I know how you feel but remember brother, God really really loves you and Jesus died for us and He can help you with everything you need. God bless you and Jesus is Lord.
 
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I know how you feel but remember brother, God really really loves you and Jesus died for us and He can help you with everything you need. God bless you and Jesus is Lord.

I'm a woman lol.. but thanks for your response.
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.
It sounds as though you aren't doing anything to draw nearer to God. You do know the further away you get the dimmer his light and the shadows of darkness just swallow you up, right ? You need to draw near and His light will shine brighter and the shadows of darkness fall away.

You have done the opposite of what we are told to do and you're not finding God in that. It shouldn't be too surprising then should it ? He is still there where He always was. Maybe you need a new approach to your reading and prayer life. Go walk in a fields or by a lake or someplace else in His creation and pray to Him. He is capable of meeting you there. Right now you're just letting yourself backslide basically, reignite your walk ! Best I can say for now without knowing more.
 
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Welcome to the forums sister; I'm sorry to hear about what you're dealing with. Honestly, I've been dealing with something similar myself for many years, and have heard many testimonies of other Christians going through the exact same thing. It feels like I'm being drained or imprisoned spiritually, in my experience.

I also heard a testimony of someone who eventually overcame it through prayer and learning as much of God's word / promises as he could. Fasting and crying out to God should also yield results over time, as should engaging in fellowship with fellow Christians here on this site (especially if church isn't an option). Receiving love and support from other brothers and sisters in Christ, and experiencing His love through them, is a great remedy I'm sure (Ecclesiastes 4:10, Romans 12:21).

Praying for you, and for the Holy Spirit to pour out His love, joy and peace into your life in Jesus name. =)
 
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:heart: Bless yer heart, sister, God LOVES you...i'm saying this as a reminder because the enemy is havin' a field day on your weary heart, mind, and soul right now. Praying that God intervenes and shines on your heart, mind, and weary soul, like the sun breaking through dark and oppressive clouds. May His inexplicable joy strengthen you and be yours, dear heart. Father may it be so, in Jesus name, amen. (((hug)))
 
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It's like any relationship but sometimes it does feel long distant. But I never regretted staying committed even if not ideal doing so. During downturns it's best to pray more than anything, actually talking to God and considering His response. Thinking about the difference He's made through Jesus and how God has been there. What you need to remember is why you believe in the Lord, your motivations that had kept you going.

Last night after earlier in the day watching a YouTube clip of a woman discussing her marital problems, I read 1 Corinthians 13 which she brought up. The chapter is about what's love, that you could have everything to gifts of prophesy and knowledge. But all of it means nothing and has no value, if you have no love. You could try by taking the first step to improve your prayer life gradually. Starting with asking the Lord what does it mean to love God and why do I feel the lack of love for Him?

Credit for finding video to @Anthony7
 
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I've come to believe that we are in a shaking out period, the Lord is testing us. We see more and more posts like this every day and I just want to say Show Yourselves Approved ! Are you His or are you not ? If so, then pass the test, pray, read, take in services and messages. If you even just think the Lord has spoken to you then respond and follow His commands. Stay away from the strong lusts of the world, stay away from strong drink, stay away from sexual sin, strive for a healthy prayer life, draw nearer to the things of God and away from the things of the world and it's huge system. Read your bible, even if just a passage or two per day, study the passage till it takes on meaning to you, maybe read commentary or devotionals on the passage you picked ( or the Lord handed you). Pray to God to further understand His ways. Seek like minded people. Go to a street corner and just pass a little silent prayer up to the Lord for passers by. Pass on a blessing to that group standing at the bus stop. Make your Christian life real and re assess in a month and see if anything improved.

But go do it, don't sit on the couch thinking about it ( assuming you are mobile).
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.

Welcome to life darling. We don't always feel like doing what we need to do. I didn't feel like going to church this weekend. I did anyway. I don't feel like going to work. I did anyway.

A good chunk of living life, is simply learning to do what you need to do, whether you feel like it or not.

You know those athletes that go to the Olympics and win medals?

USA.women.gymnastics-02.jpg

Gold Women's gymnastics team. 2012

That didn't happen because they just felt like it. It was day, after day, after day, of grueling training, and practicing. It was getting up, breakfast, working out, doing stretches, practice, lunch, practice, jogging, dinner, going to bed, and doing it all over again the next day.

You think they all felt like it? No. No they didn't. How many times did they want to go out with friends, and instead were training? How many times did they want to watch their favorite program on TV, but were practicing?

Why did they do it? Because they knew they couldn't live by how they felt. They had to live based on what they needed to do.

That's why they won gold medals.

You know what you need to do. You need to learn to just do it. It's that simple darling.
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.

If you can pray, you'll never lose touch with God. God can work with all prayer, but He can't grant everything you want with it. You have to trust Him and be willing to accept that He knows what's best for you.

God hears everything; nothing eludes His comprehension. He has saved many people in your situation, I was in a position like yours just last month, it was abysmal, and I'm the most hopeful I've ever been now. He won't let go of you.
 
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Welcome to life darling. We don't always feel like doing what we need to do. I didn't feel like going to church this weekend. I did anyway. I don't feel like going to work. I did anyway.

A good chunk of living life, is simply learning to do what you need to do, whether you feel like it or not.

You know those athletes that go to the Olympics and win medals?

USA.women.gymnastics-02.jpg

Gold Women's gymnastics team. 2012

That didn't happen because they just felt like it. It was day, after day, after day, of grueling training, and practicing. It was getting up, breakfast, working out, doing stretches, practice, lunch, practice, jogging, dinner, going to bed, and doing it all over again the next day.

You think they all felt like it? No. No they didn't. How many times did they want to go out with friends, and instead were training? How many times did they want to watch their favorite program on TV, but were practicing?

Why did they do it? Because they knew they couldn't live by how they felt. They had to live based on what they needed to do.

That's why they won gold medals.

You know what you need to do. You need to learn to just do it. It's that simple darling.

I didn't feel like going to church this weekend.

If going to church wasn't out of the heart, why are you rebuking her for not having her heart in the right place?
 
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If you can pray, you'll never lose touch with God. God can work with all prayer, but He can't grant everything you want with it. You have to trust Him and be willing to accept that He knows what's best for you.

God hears everything; nothing eludes His comprehension. He has saved many people in your situation, I was in a position like yours just last month, it was abysmal, and I'm the most hopeful I've ever been now. He won't let go of you.
Thank you. This was by far the most helpful comment.
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.
It's good you pray. You can pray the way Christ gave us to pray in Mathew chapter 6, the perfect words for What we need most --

Bible Gateway passage: Matthew 6:9-13 - New International Version

And you can seek what you need in a deep way you can't necessarily know --
"We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans."
www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+8%3A18-28&version=NIV

Listening even to just a few verses Jesus said to you each day, keeping them in your heart, will profoundly help.
Bible Gateway passage: Matthew 11:28-30 - New International Version
 
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My main bible is red letter for Jesus' words and sometimes I just pick something from the Gospels in red letters. It's amazing how many times it land on Nicodemus and being born again scriptures. Or Acts and the Saul who is Paul portions.

Recently it seemed like a good idea to memorize some scripture. It takes time but it's over time not a lot of time per session.

Recently I've felt led to go to the hospital chapel and pray, just be there for a few minutes and pray. I write a prayer in the book and I pray a blessing on the facility there. Then sit and work on that scripture I'm memorizing for a few more minutes. Certainly there are plenty of people to be seen there to pray a blessing up to God for them while coming and going.

The idea I gave about praying for people you pass on the street, I said that because I do that and it returns a blessing in my own heart. I feel peace and joy from that.

Just some thoughts is all.
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.

I must be late to this OP. If you can still pray then pray for enthusiasm in God. Sometimes I don't even feel like praying for something, but I know I need it. So I push thru a prayer and God always seems to help me. I hope it is the same for you. Welcome to CF :)
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.

We all go through dry patches, my prayers lately feel very dry, I could give up on them. But I persists looking forward to a time when there will be more life to them. Last night when reading the bible I felt a living connection to it, but for a while nothing had jumped out at me.

The key I believe to dry times, is to persist, the bible tells us:

Gal 6:9-10 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.

This verse would suggest we can get tired doing good, but not to give in even during such times, for if we don't give up God will bless us in the end.
 
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I feel like I'm drowning in apathy.
I don't want to go to church.
Don't want to read, it bores me

The only thing I can half way do is pray-

I feel lost. I don't know if God hears me anymore

Have zero energy for anything. I just feel like I'm dragging myself around.
Hey there. I've struggled with this feeling of apathy too, for a lot of years. It was due to a mix of things, including losing my old faith, being on certain medications, and not looking for the right things when discovering what new faith I should join instead. Even when I had found the truth, though, things weren't as magical and inspiring as I thought they would be at first. I still felt pretty apathetic and, because I was basing my faith off of my feelings, I thought maybe Catholicism might not be for me. So I divorced myself from Catholicism for a bit and just thought that maybe I should not have any religion at all. Separating myself from God did nothing to help me and, in fact, made things feel just a little bit worse.

When I ended up getting on the right medication and stopped taking medication that flattened my emotions, however, I ended up seeing things so much differently. It was like a veil had been lifted from over my eyes and yeah... it was at that point that my mind and heart opened up to God and the way He wanted me to go. So, long story short, I'm now back on the path to converting to Catholicism.

I'm not saying you have to go on medications or anything like that, I'm just explaining how I got from point A to point B. But, more importantly, I think it's important to stress something that I realized once the metaphorical veil was lifted from my eyes. God had never abandoned me like I felt that he had during that time when I was not feeling his presence. He was always there, walking beside me and guiding me towards Him. He did so gently and not in a way that would impose Himself on me, and I truly believe that He was there when I cried on the inside and heard me when I begged for Him to help me feel His presence again. It took awhile for me to get to the point where I could feel His presence in my life again, but it happened eventually.

So my advice to you is to not give up and not lose hope. Even if you can't feel His presence right now or feel like He can't hear you, I promise you that God is listening to your each and every word. He loves you so much and wants you to know that He is walking with you through this difficult time. And if you ever need to talk, please know that my inbox is always open. Take care, okay? I'll be praying for you!
 
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I'm a woman lol.. but thanks for your response.


just went through the same thing. I am not catholic, but this book really hit me and helped change it around.

https://www.amazon.com/Rediscover-C...060645&sr=8-1&keywords=rediscover+catholicism


the book is mistitled, it should read rediscover God. It really changed how i pray [ask God to do his will through me] and pointed out the areas I was straying due to sin etc. God does not move we do. Also dont trust feelings, they mislead. God is always ready to forgive and wants to walk with you in his life and show he is real , stop focusing on self [talking to me here] and focus on him, that will straighten it out.
 
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