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Feel like my neighbors and people are always talking about me how to not obsess

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I live in an apartment and it's easy to hear. I feel like o can hear my neighbors who are somewhat "ghetto" talking about me/ my relationship or other things.

I feel the see way when I'm in public like people are often acting funny or talking about me.

The thing is half the time I'm right about people and they are talking about me. Their behavior is a dead give away and I'm not dumb.

It's causing me to waste time worry about it and get upset once it happens I can't stop thinking about it and it makes me feel bad all day. Like today feel like they were making fun of problems I had in my relationship which they probably witness or overhead through the walls. They laugh so loud and seem like gossipy women. I'm just really angry about it and having a hard time concentrating on my homework now cause I'm mad.
 

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Ghetto meaning they are loud. They lack manners because they stomp loud or let their animal make a ton of noise all day and night. Eat food on their balcony and let it fall on the porch where I live and they lie and say they didn't do it when I can see them eating the same food upstairs. Talk in slang instead of proper language, expose a lot of skin when dressing, laughing so loud and talking gossip about people. Smoking cigarettes constantly so that it filters into my apartment.

All of those are ghetto traits Imo. Generally when I call someone ghetto I mean they have no manners. Rude and entitled and only think of themselves and get off on causing problems for other people. I usually associate hip hop mentality with ghetto cause it basically is all about disrespecting other people.
 
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I have a line on my twitter account...

YOUR OPINION OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

Think about that.... the only opinion that should concern us is God's ;)

Frankly, it does me no good to worry about what someone else thinks about me. Why are they wasting their time, anyway? :)

It takes work, and sometimes I fall back, to not let what others say or what I think others think about me make any difference in the world. Really.
 
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I live in an apartment and it's easy to hear. I feel like o can hear my neighbors who are somewhat "ghetto" talking about me/ my relationship or other things.

I feel the see way when I'm in public like people are often acting funny or talking about me.

The thing is half the time I'm right about people and they are talking about me. Their behavior is a dead give away and I'm not dumb.

It's causing me to waste time worry about it and get upset once it happens I can't stop thinking about it and it makes me feel bad all day. Like today feel like they were making fun of problems I had in my relationship which they probably witness or overhead through the walls. They laugh so loud and seem like gossipy women. I'm just really angry about it and having a hard time concentrating on my homework now cause I'm mad.
I suggest going to the library if you can. Once I decided to buckle down and complete my schooling it became my second home. I met some like minded folks there too.
 
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I suggest going to the library if you can. Once I decided to buckle down and complete my schooling it became my second home. I met some like minded folks there too.
I used to ride by the Braves stadium to get there.
 
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when dr.s gave my mother some medicine she stopped taking it suddenly and she started getting paranoid and hearing her neighbors talking about her through the walls. turns out it was a side effect of the medicine when you don't ease yourself off it. the meds seem to have given her schizophrenia-like symptoms.

yep it sucks living in ghetto apartments, especially the drug addled ones. :(
 
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I live in an apartment and it's easy to hear. I feel like o can hear my neighbors who are somewhat "ghetto" talking about me/ my relationship or other things.

I feel the see way when I'm in public like people are often acting funny or talking about me.

The thing is half the time I'm right about people and they are talking about me. Their behavior is a dead give away and I'm not dumb.

It's causing me to waste time worry about it and get upset once it happens I can't stop thinking about it and it makes me feel bad all day. Like today feel like they were making fun of problems I had in my relationship which they probably witness or overhead through the walls. They laugh so loud and seem like gossipy women. I'm just really angry about it and having a hard time concentrating on my homework now cause I'm mad.
Like in your other recent thread, so what ? What are you seeking ? The people you describe are the same as people everywhere.
The same as people who hated Jesus, and sought (and seek ) to silence Jesus,
do the same today for all those of us who follow Jesus and who trust Him.

Those people are not going to get better - only worse. (everywhere)

That is the world we live in. It is 'normal' and expected. It is as written in the Bible.
 
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I guess it doesn't really bother other people like it bugs me... Its been two hours and im still mad lol. I feel like my whole moods been ruined.

From a biblical standpoint I see your point that's the way it is and what do I expect people and the world are evil.

But from a natural standpoint and psychology wise usually the attitude is people are not evil and it's just my mindset etc etc and I need to be more positive.

I find myself confused and always looking for validation that I am right that most people are evil. Sorry I constantly want validation but it's def. an obsessive behavior for me.
 
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I often worry about what other people think of me but in reality they probably don't, people are too concerned generally with their own issues to worry about their neighbours.
"Everyone you meet is in a battle you know nothing about, be kind. Always." Robin Williams
 
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I guess it doesn't really bother other people like it bugs me... Its been two hours and im still mad lol. I feel like my whole moods been ruined.

From a biblical standpoint I see your point that's the way it is and what do I expect people and the world are evil.

But from a natural standpoint and psychology wise usually the attitude is people are not evil and it's just my mindset etc etc and I need to be more positive.

I find myself confused and always looking for validation that I am right that most people are evil. Sorry I constantly want validation but it's def. an obsessive behavior for me.


I don't know if my situation was like yours in all respects but I had a difficult living situation a few years ago. Some living situations can be difficult.

I'm not unused to sharing a house in fact I shared with four others once, but that was easier than the apartment I rented a few years ago. People on occasions arrived in the evening knocked on my door to ask if that was were the party was. Or they would have barbeques in the car parking area, till half way through the night. Doors slaming repeatedly. Main apartment block door left wide to the world at night in the winter on several occasions. Little effort made to clean common areas by other residents, I did these myself for their benefit at times. The car parking area seemed to be used to dump cars from time to time (probably untaxed or stolen).

I had to just endure the close proximity of my neighbours, and ignore it as best I could but it took its toll on my inner reserves and mental state. I like company but not any company and I don't wish to feel obligated to socialise with others I have little common ground with.

So I understand something of what you say.

I had to just pray a lot about it and a prayer I use at times is:

"Take from our hearts O Lord, all suspiciousness and indignation and anything calculated to wound charity or lessen brotherly love."

https://prayers4reparation.wordpres...ay-o-lord-from-our-hearts-all-suspiciousness/
 
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