Victor, you couldn't be further from the truth, and that much I know. When I turned on my computer the other night I saw my mother had placed on a message saying "he's back and abusing again". It finally hit home what I'd been experiencing my whole life. My mother is pscholigically unstable (has made suicide threats and more), and was extremely abusive to me growing up. If you want to ask my first fiancee who frequents these forums she'd more than gladly tell you what my mother pulled at our engagement party.
Real quick before I go further, both my ex wife and mother have borderline peronality disorder, which I only came to learn about late last year.
I've gotta tell you dude, when someone has been on the receiving end of BPD (take a look at www.bpdcentral.com), and someone says what you have just said, it can really destroy the person on the receiving end of it. Take a look at that website and see what it's like being a non-BP then you might be able to speak, but what you're saying is just destructive man and you are way out of line.
It wasn't until late last year that I found out about BPD through some people on the forums here, and also through a focus on the family counsellor. It has been a very difficult journey through life, being abused physically, psychologically and emotionally, and when Christian leaders ignore what's going on because they don't want to believe it happens then it does leave you feeling hurt, angry and questioning your own sanity.
In the last 10 months I have come a long way since learning about BPD, and I finally made the decision that it's my life, and I don't have to stay in an abusive situation any longer. My mother can choose to behave correctly or she can forfeit any relationship with me that she has. I'm not going to have my mother attempt to screw up my life any longer. I don't have to be a victim anymore.
Before I knew about BPD I had got into a relationship with Phelicia because her mother sounded similar to mine in the issues she had. What I didn't know, nor understand was that there was this thing called BPD, and what I didn't see at the time until it was too late was that Phelicia was a high functioning BP, while my mother is a low functioning BP. It was that familiarity that led me into the relationship. I thought the issue was really with Phelicia's mom but it was really with her.
For the first time in my life I have a full understanding of what I went through growing up. I'd try and tell the leadership of my church that my mother was abusive, with incidents of shoving meat down my throat with her whole fingers in my mouth. They believed the lies my mum told and no one did anything to help me.
Now that I understand what I went through growing up, I can see how this has affected my experiences in life. If somoene is going to abuse me (aka for example exploit me outside of state law for work purposes) then I am going to have a strong reaction to it. I'll have an even stronger reaction if they try and deny that what they are doing is illegal. There is nothing wrong with that either. I'm not going to freak out, but I will speak up, say it isn't right and walk away into a position that is healthier which is exactly what I did with this TV Show.
I'm not going to get mad at you because you simply don't understand what BPD is and what victims of BPD go through.
Real quick before I go further, both my ex wife and mother have borderline peronality disorder, which I only came to learn about late last year.
I've gotta tell you dude, when someone has been on the receiving end of BPD (take a look at www.bpdcentral.com), and someone says what you have just said, it can really destroy the person on the receiving end of it. Take a look at that website and see what it's like being a non-BP then you might be able to speak, but what you're saying is just destructive man and you are way out of line.
It wasn't until late last year that I found out about BPD through some people on the forums here, and also through a focus on the family counsellor. It has been a very difficult journey through life, being abused physically, psychologically and emotionally, and when Christian leaders ignore what's going on because they don't want to believe it happens then it does leave you feeling hurt, angry and questioning your own sanity.
In the last 10 months I have come a long way since learning about BPD, and I finally made the decision that it's my life, and I don't have to stay in an abusive situation any longer. My mother can choose to behave correctly or she can forfeit any relationship with me that she has. I'm not going to have my mother attempt to screw up my life any longer. I don't have to be a victim anymore.
Before I knew about BPD I had got into a relationship with Phelicia because her mother sounded similar to mine in the issues she had. What I didn't know, nor understand was that there was this thing called BPD, and what I didn't see at the time until it was too late was that Phelicia was a high functioning BP, while my mother is a low functioning BP. It was that familiarity that led me into the relationship. I thought the issue was really with Phelicia's mom but it was really with her.
For the first time in my life I have a full understanding of what I went through growing up. I'd try and tell the leadership of my church that my mother was abusive, with incidents of shoving meat down my throat with her whole fingers in my mouth. They believed the lies my mum told and no one did anything to help me.
Now that I understand what I went through growing up, I can see how this has affected my experiences in life. If somoene is going to abuse me (aka for example exploit me outside of state law for work purposes) then I am going to have a strong reaction to it. I'll have an even stronger reaction if they try and deny that what they are doing is illegal. There is nothing wrong with that either. I'm not going to freak out, but I will speak up, say it isn't right and walk away into a position that is healthier which is exactly what I did with this TV Show.
I'm not going to get mad at you because you simply don't understand what BPD is and what victims of BPD go through.
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