Fear & codependency (Ladies topic but men’s advice welcome too)

[Crystalp8]

does the Bible talk about co dependency? I suffer from this & being single & A Christian woman is overwhelming. I want to find love,but I want to be a strong woman too! Ive been through a divorce (sadly) & I feel like my heart is broken beyond repair. I was a wife & mother for the past 20 years...I’ll be 40 in February & here I find myself...boys grown. Single. Im not sure what to do with myself. My boys (praise god) work,ho to college & are doing good for themselves. So they’re not around much. Im terrified with living alone with nobody here. Just work & an empty house. Have any of you ever been there? I know god is with me but I miss the companionship & Sharing love & life with someone. I feel so alone. Then the “what if’s” kick in. What if god wants me to be alone? What if I never feel loved again? Im trying so hard to overcome this,& I know I can’t do it on my own. I want gods will in my life. Any advise would be heaven sent! Please pray for me

 

[paul1149]

Yes, the Bible is big on this. Not in so many words, but the dynamic of trusting in God more than in man is all over the place. Joseph and David come under brutal attacks from people who should have loved them. For years they have nowhere to turn but to God. Job's friends can't do a thing to help him. Only when God shows up does he find the answer he needs. The prophets were appointed by God and very often had to stand alone against the powers that be. Isaiah even says twice in his first chapter, cursed in the man who trusts in man.

The apostles tell the Sanhedrin that they must obey God rather than man. And Jesus frequently goes out alone to pray to the Father. Very often God must break soul-ties in our lives in order to free our spirit. It is crucial that we come to a place where we recognize what is going on and begin to cooperate with it. Otherwise, we will think God has abandoned us and fall prey to fear or depression, rather than stay grounded in a faith that protects us and facilitates what God is doing in us.

You might get more responses if you post this in the Advice section.

 

[Crystalp8]

Yes, the Bible is big on this. Not in so many words, but the dynamic of trusting in God more than in man is all over the place. Joseph and David come under brutal attacks from people who should have loved them. For years they have nowhere to turn but to God. Job's friends can't do a thing to help him. Only when God shows up does he find the answer he needs. The prophets were appointed by God and very often had to stand alone against the powers that be. Isaiah even says twice in his first chapter, cursed in the man who trusts in man.

The apostles tell the Sanhedrin that they must obey God rather than man. And Jesus frequently goes out alone to pray to the Father. Very often God must break soul-ties in our lives in order to free our spirit. It is crucial that we come to a place where we recognize what is going on and begin to cooperate with it. Otherwise, we will think God has abandoned us and fall prey to fear or depression, rather than stay grounded in a faith that protects us and facilitates what God is doing in us.

You might get more responses if you post this in the Advice section.

Ill post there thanks. Yes your right,I don’t want to “need” anyone but the lord. Im just very lonely

 

[paul1149]

Welcome to the human condition. But with God we have the hope that when the trial is over and the battle won, we inherit the reward. Mt 6.33, 1Pe 5.10