Expressing Feelings

[ZACTAK]

Hey what's up guys? I come needing some advice. My roommate this year and I were planning on moving off campus next year and getting an apartment together. Well, today at lunch he told me that another one of his friends found a cheap house to move into and might move in with him... Well, he must have forgotten about our deal of moving in together... him and I are really close, we knew each other for many years before we moved in the dorms together. He met this guy when he moved into the dorms so him and I are closer friends and known each other long. Anyways, I had a very rough childhood involving my dad, so I have a lot of trust issues with men...I have a problem expressing my feelings to them out of fear they are going to get mad.

My roommate shows many attributes of my father, and so it is really hard to tell him how I am feeling. I want to confront him as to why he is choosing not to live with me and not telling me about it, and all that. Any suggestions on how to tell him and get over my fear of telling him?

 

[ICE_girl]

Honestly, I've been there and it's not easy on either end of the situation. Although I've been there, I really don't know any really simple solutions. Prayer is a very powerful thing though and works well. It would definitely be a good idea to pray about it before you approach him. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but it may turn out for the better. Sometimes in order to remain good friends, it's best not to live with them (not always true, but sometimes is.) Your situation may turn out like mine... my roommates now are better for me spiritually and help me out in so many ways. I also have the opportunity to be there for them, more so than I could be for my old room mate. Romans 8:28 became one of my favorite verses during that time. I pray everything works out well for you! Wish I could help more!

 

[ZACTAK]

Hey thanks! Yeah I was planning on telling him in a few days that I didn't want to live with him, but I haven't gotten around to it. But what is different is that he acted as though we never had a plan to live together.

 

[ICE_girl]

I know how you're feeling. I've been on your end of the same situation... not really knowing how to approach someone that you've grown up with. Personally, it was because I didn't want to hurt her. There could be several reasons why he is acting like that, and I can't seem to figure out how guys think, so I can't help you there!