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i am 70, exhibitionism started when i was about 15....the problem has existed all my life, a struggle with it....alcolhol was with me in the 30s , my mom said i half drank myself to death..stopped drinking alcohol at 45, but from 30 to 45, 3 times a month...heavy...been free from drinking for 25 yrs...but the exhibitionism is a stuggle....there is a part of me that wants to do it..another says no....i wish i could end it....i am pretty much a loner now, had a couple of friends...but they seen to drink a lot, not much in common......i am willing to try some suggestions here......ron
 
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Just say no’. Just don’t. I pray the Lord would strengthen your spirit a weaken your flesh. It’s flesh that wants to do that. But the spirit is willing to follow God. So the struggle is right and good and holy. It’s is your conscience ,godly, wanting to do what’s right. Follow it and if you do God will give the increase.

Start with repentance.
 
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i am 70, exhibitionism started when i was about 15....the problem has existed all my life, a struggle with it....alcolhol was with me in the 30s , my mom said i half drank myself to death..stopped drinking alcohol at 45, but from 30 to 45, 3 times a month...heavy...been free from drinking for 25 yrs...but the exhibitionism is a stuggle....there is a part of me that wants to do it..another says no....i wish i could end it....i am pretty much a loner now, had a couple of friends...but they seen to drink a lot, not much in common......i am willing to try some suggestions here......ron
Hi ronss,

May the Lord be with you, and give you peace.
 
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i am 70, exhibitionism started when i was about 15....the problem has existed all my life, a struggle with it....alcolhol was with me in the 30s , my mom said i half drank myself to death..stopped drinking alcohol at 45, but from 30 to 45, 3 times a month...heavy...been free from drinking for 25 yrs...but the exhibitionism is a stuggle....there is a part of me that wants to do it..another says no....i wish i could end it....i am pretty much a loner now, had a couple of friends...but they seen to drink a lot, not much in common......i am willing to try some suggestions here......ron
Lust is a sin. Leave it behind, same as alcohol.
 
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i am 70, exhibitionism started when i was about 15....the problem has existed all my life, a struggle with it....alcolhol was with me in the 30s , my mom said i half drank myself to death..stopped drinking alcohol at 45, but from 30 to 45, 3 times a month...heavy...been free from drinking for 25 yrs...but the exhibitionism is a stuggle....there is a part of me that wants to do it..another says no....i wish i could end it....i am pretty much a loner now, had a couple of friends...but they seen to drink a lot, not much in common......i am willing to try some suggestions here......ron

Thanks for sharing, brother. I've found it helpful to find out "WHY?" WHY do you do these things? In the background of all of this there is likely a bunch of pain, or anger, or some such thing, probably driven from things that happened in your childhood. At things happen in your life that trigger these emotions, and from there you just go on auto pilot, doing what you've always done to get relief, without even thinking about it. These are classic addiction symptoms.

If you can afford to get some sessions with a counselor, I'd suggest you do that. Or at the very least, find a group of guys that you can trust to hear your 55 year story of acting out this way, and who can help you with accountability.

By all means, tell SOMEONE you can trust who will be empathetic and non-judgemental. Just the shame alone can drive you into more similar behavior, and I know you're ready to end that. Telling the right people will help you with the shame, and that will help you get better.
 
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