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Ex-Girlfriend Issues

Fudog

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I'm only 15 but I honestly was in love with the girl that I had been dating for 6 months. We only broke up two days ago, and according to her, it wasn't my fault. I don't think it was either, as she cheated on me at one point and then has now left me for another dude. In the time that I knew her over the summer and before that, she was honestly a great person. She was nice, smart and amazing-looking. But about a month after school started back up, she started hanging out with some older friends of hers that she met up with again. Aaaaand thse guys are total idiots. Every last one of them. Long story short, she threw away 6 months worth of nearly every minute spent for each other.
Over that time, I thought that God was keeping us together (we're both Christians, apparently her not so much) Every time something would go wrong, I would pray to God and He would fix it! It was amazing! Now I'm not so sure if the reason he helped us was to keep us together. I think it was just for me.
Her family is hardcore Christians(mostly her parents are) Seeing all of the things that they did and how happy her parents were even though they had just lost a son and their daughters were giving them such a hard time all the time made me realize that I needed God in my life. Throughout it all, I became a better Christian and now I'm choosing to live my life for Christ, unlike what I was doing before I met her. I think that God put us together to help me, and the only thing I can think of for her is that she's completely and utterly hopeless at this point. I read through Proverbs and pretty much anything that describes a fool describes how she is now and how we both were before we started seeing each other. Now that it's all over between us, most of the things that describe wisdom describes me. Mostly, I just feel completely awful for her. Through it all, she just became more unhappy and I'm actually for the most part content. I don't necessarily think that we still have a chance(there's still that part in the back of my mind that wants to believe it, but I don't think it's true) I just want to at least help to change her to be a better person. I don't think it's fair that I should be the only one to get something good out of it. I pray for her every day but I just can't help but think that it's all for no good. If anybody has anything to contradict and or support anything I said, that would be gladly appreciated. God bless!
 

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Plain and simple, she hasn't chosen G-d... She's chosen some "total idiots" over YHWH... It's sad, but it's true, at least it sounds like that's what's happened. Sometimes, you can only go so far with a person and what you tell them. Eventually you have to let go and let them decide on their own who they're going to follow. If you try to hard, you'll just be shoving stuff she doesn't want to hear down her throat. As of right now, it sounds like she's chosen herself over G-d, and she may choose to live that way for the rest of her life. The only thing you can really do at this point is pray for her. You could continue attempting to be an example for her, but she probably doesn't even notice you anymore... But, keep on keeping on, but don't feel as if her salvation is in your hands. She has to choose for herself what to do.
 
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DMMullinax

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You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, Fudog. I'm sorry to hear about your relationship and your ex-girlfriend. She's walking down a torn, tangled road. But you have the right idea to continue to pray for her. No one's beyond salvation and the reach of Jesus Christ, so continue to pray for her.

Once again, I'm sorry to hear about that, but I'm excited you're looking at the positive aspects like becoming a stronger Christian through seeing her parents' trials. Stay clear headed and wise in situations like this and you'll save yourself a lot of grief in the future, and a ton as you continue through highschool. God bless :D
 
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DMMullinax

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Thanks peoples! It's hard to find people my age that actually look at things with a Christian outlook. Nice to find some people out there that actually even give a care, too. One of the nice things about the internet!

You'll find a great community of believers here at CF! Welcome!
 
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I'm only 15 but I honestly was in love with the girl that I had been dating for 6 months. We only broke up two days ago, and according to her, it wasn't my fault. I don't think it was either, as she cheated on me at one point and then has now left me for another dude. In the time that I knew her over the summer and before that, she was honestly a great person. She was nice, smart and amazing-looking. But about a month after school started back up, she started hanging out with some older friends of hers that she met up with again. Aaaaand thse guys are total idiots. Every last one of them. Long story short, she threw away 6 months worth of nearly every minute spent for each other.
Over that time, I thought that God was keeping us together (we're both Christians, apparently her not so much) Every time something would go wrong, I would pray to God and He would fix it! It was amazing! Now I'm not so sure if the reason he helped us was to keep us together. I think it was just for me.
Her family is hardcore Christians(mostly her parents are) Seeing all of the things that they did and how happy her parents were even though they had just lost a son and their daughters were giving them such a hard time all the time made me realize that I needed God in my life. Throughout it all, I became a better Christian and now I'm choosing to live my life for Christ, unlike what I was doing before I met her. I think that God put us together to help me, and the only thing I can think of for her is that she's completely and utterly hopeless at this point. I read through Proverbs and pretty much anything that describes a fool describes how she is now and how we both were before we started seeing each other. Now that it's all over between us, most of the things that describe wisdom describes me. Mostly, I just feel completely awful for her. Through it all, she just became more unhappy and I'm actually for the most part content. I don't necessarily think that we still have a chance(there's still that part in the back of my mind that wants to believe it, but I don't think it's true) I just want to at least help to change her to be a better person. I don't think it's fair that I should be the only one to get something good out of it. I pray for her every day but I just can't help but think that it's all for no good. If anybody has anything to contradict and or support anything I said, that would be gladly appreciated. God bless!
i know EXACTLY how you feel i've been down that road before bruddah. if you ever need to talk just leave a message on my page!
 
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I'm really glad you became stronger to the LORD through the relationship. I really think you need to be praying for her a lot, so that she can find Christ on a more personal level and live out her Christianity. "As a body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead" James 2:26
 
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