Evil e-harmony alert!!

[Percheron]

Come on, Keil. Put on a happy face! Don't you want to be a shiny, happy Christian with a vacant stare?! You're bringing the rest of us down here

 

[wvmtnkid]

What I got generally said that they say they can ensure success so much because they don't take on the low percentage cases, or something like that. I don't know what makes me low percentage. Regardless of the flaming bag, I'm not a freak or anything.

Oh, I don't think you are a freak! I was just teasing you about the flaming bag in your avatar. I think it's pretty crummy that they advertise "soul matching" and then come back and tell you something like that. They make it sound like they have a person for everyone just waiting for them.

 

[Princess Pea]

I've tried eharmony too. The personality profile didn't tell me anything I didn't already know, but I took that as a sign that the test was probably an accurate measuring tool.

As for the matching system - it matched me up with someone with whom I honestly did have a lot in common - largely because he was someone I already knew! That was a little freaky. We did eventually go out together - decided with some regret that there simply wasn't any chemistry between us, but I don't blame eharmony for that - there just isn't a way to measure for chemistry on a multiple choice test!

I do find their advertising to be overly optimistic, but that's the nature of most advertising, isn't it? Maybe, because the "product" they're selling is so emotionally charged, it just hurts a lot more when their claims aren't met than it does when the Clorox 2 doesn't get the chocolate stain out of your new white blouse. Maybe, because it IS such an emotionally charged issue, they should change the way they advertise, especially if they're going around telling some people they'll never qualify for a soulmate? Ouch! I know I found those gooey ads pretty hard to take during the time when my "eharmony relationship" was tanking - how much worse would it have been if they hadn't let me join the club in the first place?

Anyway ... it seems to work for some people. And hey, they got my personality pegged right and found me someone who really could have been a good match had it not been for that pesky little chemistry issue ... it seems like there must be something to it ... although you'll notice I'm still posting on the "singles" forum here ...

 

[KeilCoppes]

I like smiling, just not the vacant kind! That means that sometimes you walk through the valley of the shadows before you climb to the mountain peaks and sunshine! And sometimes you slog through the slough of despond. Happily, my virtual trout boots are working today.

God has been giving me a back-handed blessing and now I'm running my software group for a while. Of course that means that I'm buried in paperwork and administration details.... but definite change of pace and I can look out a window! I have yet to see if I'm interested in longer term time in this position.

As for the matching system - it matched me up with someone with whom I honestly did have a lot in common - largely because he was someone I already knew! ..... Maybe, because it IS such an emotionally charged issue, they should change the way they advertise, especially if they're going around telling some people they'll never qualify for a soulmate? ... although you'll notice I'm still posting on the "singles" forum here ...

ROFL - Isn't that the way it goes?! That's the great challenge for me - given my world view and seeking personality I'm unique at the minimum. At least they didn't turn me away at the door. On the other hand, it was not only the bad matches that sent me away - it was the pretty major monthly price tag for the matches!

The goo on television is a bit much, though - I expect strawberry jam to start oozing from the picture whenever the ad goes by.... Ah, John! (sigh), sweet Mary! (swoon).... and you too can have lifetime bliss if only you lay your dollars down... the minute the credit hits the bank, your lifetime companion will fly out the computer screen and into your arms... Hmmm - do they give singleness indulgences?

 

[hischildsindik]

The goo on television is a bit much, though - I expect strawberry jam to start oozing from the picture whenever the add goes by.... Ah, John! (sigh), sweet Mary! (swoon).... and you too can have lifetime bliss if only you lay your dollars down... the minute the credit hits the bank, your lifetime companion will fly out the computer screen and into your arms...

Wow.. I didn't know it worked that way. I wonder exactly how much credit do you need for that lifetime companion to fly out the computer screen and into my arms?? Hmmm... oh, well, too bad I probably don't have that much credit.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Maybe, because the "product" they're selling is so emotionally charged, it just hurts a lot more when their claims aren't met than it does when the Clorox 2 doesn't get the chocolate stain out of your new white blouse.

 

[TriptychR]

Oh, I don't think you are a freak! I was just teasing you about the flaming bag in your avatar. I think it's pretty crummy that they advertise "soul matching" and then come back and tell you something like that. They make it sound like they have a person for everyone just waiting for them.

I know you weren't calling me a freak. Still, it nags at me just what it was about my results that denied me their service. Has anyone else around here ever actually been denied...?

 

[KeilCoppes]

... when the Clorox 2 doesn't get the chocolate stain out of your new white blouse.

(chuckle) I understand the simile, but somehow I just haven't had all that many new white blouses. I did, however, notice that some spaghetti sauce had stained a patch on my one and only brand new black dress shirt (which, said shirt I really enjoy). Unexplained laws of physics?

 

[wvmtnkid]

I did, however, notice that some spaghetti sauce had stained a patch on my one and only brand new black dress shirt (which, said shirt I really enjoy). Unexplained laws of physics?

Nah, I'm sure it is contained in one of Murphy's laws. Everytime you wear a favorite article of clothing (sometimes it carries over to something that is brand spanking new), you are bound to drop something on it that is guaranteed to stain it.

 

[TriptychR]

(chuckle) I understand the simile, but somehow I just haven't had all that many new white blouses. I did, however, notice that some spaghetti sauce had stained a patch on my one and only brand new black dress shirt (which, said shirt I really enjoy). Unexplained laws of physics?

More like what were you doing eating spaghetti with a great dress shirt? Business faux pas!

 

[Percheron]

I know you weren't calling me a freak. Still, it nags at me just what it was about my results that denied me their service. Has anyone else around here ever actually been denied...?

Man, I dunno! After slogging through that interminable test, they accepted me for a free trial membership, and even found a few matches, though I never was able to communicate with them because I wouldn't become a paying member Still, I thought (still do) that I was just about the weirdest, most non-compatible social outcast imaginable; yet they seemed to think they had some promising leads. I just can't imagine what they saw in you that was more radically disqualifying than in my case, lol. You may want to consider therapy as a next step! J/K Don't sweat it. I think that whole concept is pretty silly anyway, though it probably can work for some people. I mean, I guess it does, but it's not exactly the most romantic thing, is it?

 

[gsmithcat]

I went to the site to take this personality test everyone keeps talking about, but there site has all these pictures of couples snuggling and I'm at work. I decided it would be awkward if somebody walked by and saw that on my screen.

 

[chickenfeet]

-laffs-

just took the test u ppl been talking bout... i odnt think i got a good score? lol..

unable to match.

eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive testing of married individuals. One of the requirements for it to work successfully is for participants to fall into our rigorously defined profiles. If we aren't able to match a user well using these profiles, the most considerate approach is to inform them early in the process.

We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish and enjoy happy, lasting relationships that we choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.

Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching system is not suitable for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply would not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand that we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.

You can still receive your free personality profile by clicking

i quess i'ma freak too?

 

[TriptychR]

-laffs-

just took the test u ppl been talking bout... i odnt think i got a good score? lol..

i quess i'ma freak too?

That's it! That's exactly what I got! So 1 in 5 people in the world is a freak. If you have four friends that aren't freaks, then guess what. It's you!

 

[KeilCoppes]

More like what were you doing eating spaghetti with a great dress shirt? Business faux pas!

What can I say, I studied engineering, not business management It took about a decade for geek-hood to reach even echoes of suave and debonaire! And it's a work in progress. Besides, how can you refuse to eat spaghetti at Mom's on a Sunday?

I still think that there's the law of universal stain gravitation - the nearer stain material gets to clothing you enjoy, the stronger the attraction...

 

[KeilCoppes]

One of the requirements for it to work successfully is for participants to fall into our rigorously defined profiles.... Our matching system is not suitable for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply would not benefit from our service.

Makes sense - some people just don't fall into easily-defined boxes. I wonder how they classify them and how that correlates to Myers-Briggs testing? Are there whole realms of individuals that simply don't get together with anyone easily? Or is it simply that their matches are extraordinarily rare? Out of curiosity, how did your Myer's Briggs come out?

 

[TriptychR]

Out of curiosity, how did your Myer's Briggs come out?

I've always been an INFX, leaning a little more toward INFP.

 

[hat lady]

you guys are too funny!

 

[chickenfeet]

Out of curiosity, how did your Myer's Briggs come out?

ISTJ.. tho, i odnt think it fits me..

*shrugs* i took too many tests today.. the eharmny one took forevr and a day and then this one had too many big words.

 

[Percheron]

I'm an INFP