I am wanting to ask my girlfiorend to marry me but I know that I will not be able to marry her until I return from my year abroad which is part of my uni course. This is because the money is not there to do it Should I ask her now or wait til I get back?
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It depends on when you plan to actually get married. If you could get married in a year then you could ask her now, weddings take a while to plan so that would be a nice time frame. If it will be more like 3 years you might want to wait untl you get back. Have you talked about with her, discussed a timeline and such?
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It really doesn't matter when you want to ask her. By asking her now, it would probably make her feel more secure about the relationship during the one year apart from you. Or if you're not sure about her commitment to the relationship, wait until you get back to see if she is faithful to you. Either way, if it's meant to be, things will work out. Just make sure she is the right one and both of you are commited to God and put God first in your hearts. As you can read with all the marital issues discussed in this forum, it's better to have a spiritually mature relationship before getting married.
Good luck and may God keep you safe abroad.
Good luck and may God keep you safe abroad.
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heartnsoul said:It really doesn't matter when you want to ask her. By asking her now, it would probably make her feel more secure about the relationship during the one year apart from you. Or if you're not sure about her commitment to the relationship, wait until you get back to see if she is faithful to you. Either way, if it's meant to be, things will work out. Just make sure she is the right one and both of you are commited to God and put God first in your hearts. As you can read with all the marital issues discussed in this forum, it's better to have a spiritually mature relationship before getting married.
Good luck and may God keep you safe abroad.
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The first thin I'd ask is, have you prayed about it? That would be the first thin to do, is this what God wants for you right now? Through personnal testimony I can tell you it'll go far better with you if it's God's timin an if you'll seek His will first my friend.
Also, have you discussed future ideas/plans etc with your girlfriend? I don't want to come off as your to young etc etc but it sounds as though your either in or beginin schoolin that'll require alot of your time, this may be the same for your girl friend an nows as good a time as any to discuss what plans she may have.
Also, have you discussed future ideas/plans etc with your girlfriend? I don't want to come off as your to young etc etc but it sounds as though your either in or beginin schoolin that'll require alot of your time, this may be the same for your girl friend an nows as good a time as any to discuss what plans she may have.
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Thanks for all your advice guys
I have prayed alot about this and although I feel the timing is really wierd, I feel God calling me to marriage with Cathy, however He has not given me a timeframe. I have talked it through with my girlfriend now and we have really progressed in what we think. Time frame is either looking at Jan 2007 or the summer of that year but I will be away 2005 Sept to Sept 2006. Thats the hard part.
I wanna be part of the planning and all but want it quicker than matbe is neccessary
I have prayed alot about this and although I feel the timing is really wierd, I feel God calling me to marriage with Cathy, however He has not given me a timeframe. I have talked it through with my girlfriend now and we have really progressed in what we think. Time frame is either looking at Jan 2007 or the summer of that year but I will be away 2005 Sept to Sept 2006. Thats the hard part.
I wanna be part of the planning and all but want it quicker than matbe is neccessary
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Moleymark said:
You must be so excited! It's great to see you seeking the Lord and speaking with your girlfriend about this. I just wanted to share a bit of my own experience.
My husband and I dated for 4 years before we were married. We were 3,000 miles apart during the last 14 months of our dating. I think we were engaged about 9 months before our actual wedding. I did all the legwork of getting our wedding together and consulted my husband on everything I did. But really, I think he was relieved that I took care of it! He's not the kind of guy who would have enjoyed being dragged around a bridal fair.
While the time apart was difficult for us, it was a blessing. I was saved during this time and it was an amazing chance to get to know each other on a level we never could have had we been geographically closer. We communicated by letter and phone and somehow this communication is so much more intimate. There was no time for the general day-to-day talk. He wrote love letters, we talked about our dreams and we grew together in the Lord.
If your time apart is ordained by God, you will be SO blessed by it!
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Well if you're looking at Jan of 07 and you plan to return in Sept of 06. That doesn't leave much time for planning. If you're engaged before you leave she will have all that time to start planning and then finalize the plans on your return.
Will you have email where you're going? You can both do some planning via email and send pictures/ideas to each other.
FYI...Sandals has a free online wedding planner. Completely free to download, you don't have to sign up for anything and it's a great tool. (I helped a friend plan with this planner)
Best wishes
Will you have email where you're going? You can both do some planning via email and send pictures/ideas to each other.
FYI...Sandals has a free online wedding planner. Completely free to download, you don't have to sign up for anything and it's a great tool. (I helped a friend plan with this planner)
Best wishes
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