- Sep 26, 2017
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This is my first post on this forum, or any forum for that matter, but I would like some opinions on something I've been struggling with lately.
My fiance and I have been together for 7 years. We just got engaged this June and are planning on getting married next August. We had been going to church on and off through the course of our relationship, but our faith has grown tremendously this year in particular when we each made an individual decision to follow Christ and live according to His word. Our relationship with each other and our relationship with Jesus is now stronger than ever, but lately I've been struggling with the fact that we live together and still have sex regularly. We've lived together for about 5 years now, we have a home and 3 dogs and shared bills. At church recently, the pastor of the young adult group we go to has been repeatedly confirming that living together before marriage and having premarital sex is displeasing to God. I honestly feel like it's the one thing stopping me from giving 100% of my life to Christ, which is all I want.
Lately we've been considering eloping, as it seems to be the easiest fix to our problem, but after all this time we've been together, I don't want to lose out on having a big wedding with all of our family and friends to celebrate our relationship.
Is it deceitful to get married in secret and still plan a full on wedding?
I feel like although our families would probably understand, they may feel "tricked".
I know a lot of people who have had a small courthouse wedding and plan to "have a reception later on", but it never happens for them, and I don't want that to happen to us. I still want to have a wedding next August, but I don't feel right about living in sin anymore.
Thanks for your thoughts.
My fiance and I have been together for 7 years. We just got engaged this June and are planning on getting married next August. We had been going to church on and off through the course of our relationship, but our faith has grown tremendously this year in particular when we each made an individual decision to follow Christ and live according to His word. Our relationship with each other and our relationship with Jesus is now stronger than ever, but lately I've been struggling with the fact that we live together and still have sex regularly. We've lived together for about 5 years now, we have a home and 3 dogs and shared bills. At church recently, the pastor of the young adult group we go to has been repeatedly confirming that living together before marriage and having premarital sex is displeasing to God. I honestly feel like it's the one thing stopping me from giving 100% of my life to Christ, which is all I want.
Lately we've been considering eloping, as it seems to be the easiest fix to our problem, but after all this time we've been together, I don't want to lose out on having a big wedding with all of our family and friends to celebrate our relationship.
Is it deceitful to get married in secret and still plan a full on wedding?
I feel like although our families would probably understand, they may feel "tricked".
I know a lot of people who have had a small courthouse wedding and plan to "have a reception later on", but it never happens for them, and I don't want that to happen to us. I still want to have a wedding next August, but I don't feel right about living in sin anymore.
Thanks for your thoughts.