This is the 'love' story of my little brother who will be getting married in a about 2 1/2 weeks here in Ukraine. I hope it will encourage you to keep praying for that someone God has for you!
The story is written by the girl my brother is marrying.
I've been waiting for THE guy for couple years. I gave up my heart and that special place in it to God, so that He could decide for me which of those young men was meant for me. J on the other side of the ocean in United States decided the same thing much earlier than me. Since he was about 5 years old he would pray with his Dad for his future wife wherever she was. I didn't think God would bring my future husband all the way from US to me. I bet J didn't think he would have to go all the way to Ukraine to find me. But God's providence is amazing and His will is perfect. He is also very creative so He made our match special, too.
My parents and I were on tour in US in J's church with KSOC when both J and I were only 13. We didn't meet then even though we were so close in distance! Our mothers did meet and had a fun conversation. J's mom told my mom that they were thinking about moving to Ukraine one day. They talked and found out that their children were pretty much same age and joked that perhaps one day they get married. It didn't sound that realistic then as it does now. J did come to Ukraine with his family when he was 16 and stayed there for good.
We first started hanging out together cuz he was kind of lonely and I could speak English, so I tried to make him feel welcomed and was very friendly with him. Eventually we became good friends and realised we missed each other when other was away. In a year or even less I realised he had actually become my best friend! He was always there for me, and I tried to be helpful for him in this new country full of surprises. There was one thing that happened that helped me realise how dearly I love him as a friend and how much I appreciate him. It was a dreadful day (everyone get days like that once in a while especially females) and everything was wrong. In the evening I was so sick of it all that I just burst into tears. Close friends of mine were trying to help me, entertain, support somehow... it only made it worse actually. Then J called me up, shut the door behind us and took out this cutest teddy-bear. He told me someone had given it to him long time ago when he had a very bad day and it helped him, so now he was giving it to me hoping it would rise my mood a bit, too. Then he gave me a big hug and I didn't let him go for a long time, he had to hold me until I finally smiled. He made my day. That's when I realised that he actually knew me better than any of my closest friends, he knew exactly what I needed then. We became best friends and were thankful for every little minute we got to spend together. I told him everything, we trusted each other completely. As we were becoming closer to each other as friends we also were becoming closer in Christ's love. We started reading Bible together and being drawn to God brought us even closer to each other. As I was getting to know him better I was realising what a wonderful husband he would make for any woman: the way he treated ladies, his attitude to marriage, his love for children and most of all his loving heart for the Lord, his mature mind and wisdom. I was thinking of how wonderful he would be as a husband but never thought of him as a husband for myself! We were blessed to go on music tour to US in 2003 together. Once we sat on the bus together, were talking of how much we appreciate each other and I randomly told him that among all of my male friends he was the only one I could possibly imagine being my husband because I totally trusted him and loved him so dearly (as a friend- at least I thought so). What I said was what I was thinking before so it was natural for me but J was nearly shocked. Without extra words he took out his travel journal and said 'I think I may let you read this'. Dated a day before that was written 'I think Dasha is the only woman I know that I can possibly imagine being my wife, because I respect, trust and love her so much.' That was a shock for me. That's when I suddenly realised that there was much more than great friendship between us - we were deeply in love. We prayed much and were not certain about our future at all. Starting a relationship was a very serious and responsible step for us since we had been praying about that for a very long time. We both promised ourselves that the next relationship we would have would bring us to a marriage, so it was then when we had to make that commitment with each other. Were we ready to marry each other at some point? We thought so. We prayed that it was so. For the rest of the tour we would get together and pray that God showed us His will. And so He did...
We started dating almost 2 years ago on tour. We are on tour again, but this time engaged. We know that without God's help we could have done so many mistakes and have so many regrets by now. But with God everything is possible, no trial or problem was threatening our love since we were always looking for godly way to solve problems. Lord brought us to the point in our relationship when we know nothing can stand between us for God is there. It's so good to have confidence in Him and His perfect will and to know that we're on the right track where God wants us to be because we were following His directions very attentively, using a wonderful map called Bible.
Our biggest desire is to praise the Lord with our marriage and be a worthy example for those seeking His will in their relationships.
God bless.
BTW they both turned 20 this past April....
